1. I can't get a girlfriend
It's one of the most talked about things on GaG, men talking about how they can't get a girlfriend and then people, who never had a hard time attracting girls, say that they are gonna turn into the next Elliot Rodgers. News flash guys, not everyone is blessed with such a gift. I sure as hell wasn't. I am 17 years old and never been in a relationship, never had my first kiss, never known how to talk or flirt with women, been rejected by countless, yes countless, women, unattractive to women, and socially awkward.
I was born this way and I can't change it and I sure as hell can't change my looks. I've been rejected because i'm considered "ugly and weird" to women. Its been bothering me and has put me into a depressed state. All I think about from day to day is how I can never get women to like me and how I can never get an attractive girl to like me back. It has made me bitter and jealous of my friends who get women all the time.
2. I can't get along with my parents
My parents and I always fight. The problem is that I want to get away from them, but I am only 17 and don't have a good enough job where I can get an apartment by myself when I turn 18. My parents disagree on everything, they aren't the cool and hip parents most kids these days have. They are the pretty strict kind that won't let me go out at certain times, has to come back by a certain time, and can only hang out with certain people.
3. I can't get into college
I want to go a college that I like and there are a lot of them, but my GPA is a 2.9 and my junior year of high school has ended and the college application process starts so early in the year that I won't have time to bring up my GPA. So instead of college, I wanted to join the USMC, but my parents are scared that I may die so they are pushing me to go to college.
4. I can't gain weight/muscle
I've always wanted to gain muscle and weight so I can get bigger so that it would be easier to pass my physical exam for the USMC, and for my own personal goals. However, no matter how hard I try I can't seem to put on the extra pounds. My parents won't buy the food I need to take in daily because it's a lot which equals a lot more money so the only thing that I have that's really good protein is my protein powder (60g of protein per two scoops). Everyone knows that you can't get bigger off of protein shakes alone so I'm screwed there. This has caused frustration and depression that I won't get the goal body that I want. I am 116 pounds and want to weigh 180.
5. I can't do anything right in the eyes of other people
In the eyes of other people (i.e classmates, friends, girls, etc...) I can never do anything right. I don't have any talents except playing Call of Duty and even then i'm not that good. Because of this mentality, I always think that I can never achieve anything.
6. People have better things than I do
This is going to make me sound spoiled, but everyone always seem to have better stuff than me. I always go to school in my shitty 2006 Mazda 6 and I see everyone else driving Jeep Wranglers and Focus ST's. I can barely get on the highway with my car and my parents won't let me get a new car. Modding it won't help either cause it's an automatic with over 200k miles on it.
And those are my five reasons why i'm depressed. I don't have depression, but I've been in a depressed state lately, looking at life as a living hell and nightmare. Looking at people be happy irritates me and makes me wonder why they are so happy. I use to be happy once, when I was a kid. That all changed when I went through high school and I realized what a sack of shit I am. I feel as though none of these things I listed can ever change.
I know there are going to be people in the comments that are going to say "what you are experiencing is bullshit, I've died and came back to life, then died again and came back to life again" (I doubt someone is going to say that. It was just an example), but they don't know me. If you knew me you would know that it is ten times worse than what I can explain. Also, there are going to be people saying "Life gets better" no the fuck it doesn't stop saying that it's irritating. If you have any advice or experiences like mine feel free to leave it in the comments section. Thanks for reading.
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Dude, if you aren't already physically fit, joining the military would only be a MORE difficult and harder life for you.
If you are used to a comfortable lazy life playing COD at home and an easy civilian life, then prepare to face the hell of Basic Combat Training or Boot Camp as they call it. It will become your very worst nightmare.
You sign your life over to the government and military, make sure you are aware of this and know what you are really getting into, it's not just a "job" or a "jobs program" or an easy and quick way out of your current shitty situation. The only people that usually will succeed and make it in the military are those that already know what they are getting into and are already quite athletic and physically fit to begin with.
You will only become even MORE depressed and hurt or kill yourself if think just by signing your life over to the Marine Corps. will fix your depression and current state. Get professional help asap.
The truth is there are very little things in this world and reality that you have control of, but you will have to learn to live with it and keep moving forward. Do what you can to improve and focus on what you have control of. You are only 17, meaning you are still in high school. You spent so much time on Call Of Duty and now you realize that real life is taking over? Tough one there. yes video games may help with boredom but eventually you are going to have to deal with real life shit whether you want to or like to. It's all in your head when it comes to what you can and cannot achieve. The amount of time you spent on COD can be spent towards improving what you have control of. Not doing well in school? Have you been to school consistently on time? What about assignments? Have you been completing them and turning them on time consistently? If they are difficult to understand, did you ask for help and guidance such as tutoring?
What exactly is it that you really want to do with your life and want to become?
Be honest with yourself, do you really just want to become Marine and fight in wars? And to fight in wars which you may NOT survive? In reality, real life combat is in no way glamorous, fun or easy compared to a Military-themed FPS game. But rather it's very exhausting, really hard and uncomfortable and demanding work.
Also, the last I've checked there is a high suicide rate among recent veterans. Have you ever considered that you may only be cannon fodder in war? No? If not, then you should.
I don't play cod all day lol. I'm a natural at the game so I don't play every single day. I have no clue why I have a 2.9 GPA, I took much harder classes last year so it was harder to get good grades in those classes. I know what's in the marine corps that's why I wanted to join the marine corps and not any other branch. The marine corps is the only thing I can do in m life now that I know I can't make it into the colleges I want to get into.
Good luck with that one, as I've said, if you aren't already physically fit and athletic to begin with and because you are used to a comfort and easy civilian life, boot camp will be a real nightmare. You lose your freedom, get ordered around 24/7, sleep deprived, can't even quit and turn around when you realized that it may not be for you, etc. Also, have you actually used and fired any real firearms before?
Even if you can't make it into colleges you can always look into other trades. You can always learn some real life marketable skill that is practical and realistic. You already have driving skills. Why not take advantage of that and become someone that works as a driver for a living? Such as a limousine driver? Any trade that has worker's union jobs will typically pay well and provide good benefits and flexibility.
What do you exactly plan to do after you complete your contract as a Marine, assuming that you will actually survive and succeed?
Then I plan to go to college because college will then be free to get into. Taxi cab and limo driver dosent make much for a living. The military probably make more than they do. Plus it would be a job I'd be proud of. I already don't have freedom because my parents are strict and I don't mind being told where to go 24/7 and sleep deprived? Haha. I go to bed at midnight and wake up at 5:30 in the morning for school every morning. I want to be physically fit but I can't gain the muscle to be physically fit so I don't know how to do that.
Military Officers such as the lowest ranking Commissioned Officers "Lt." make more than enlisted. If you go to military officer academies and succeed as an officer you'll make a decent living, I think they are speciliazed colleges for the military such as West Point Academy. Recently enlisted personnel aren't anywhere close to being paid as much as the Officers and take a long time to make a good living. Also, since you lack the muscles to begin with you run into greater risks of becoming injured even in training. You would struggle big time. How fast and how long can you run? How many pull ups and push ups can you do? Don't just listen to the ads and hype or what the military recruiters tell you and look deeper into it, to get the entire big picture before jumping into conclusions and deciding that military life and career is for you. Otherwise, you may end up regretting it.
There's also bartending which I believe is another good alternative to college or the military.
Everything on this list can and will be fixed within a couple years. You are focusing too much on what you want without really grasping that you are only SEVENTEEN. And you can go to college with a 2.9gpa. You may have to take out more loans but ta doable.