Admit to yourself that you're not happy
You can't change anything if you don’t know something has to be changed. Stop the cycle of wishing things were different and start taking control of your thoughts and reactions to events and people.
Realize optimism is a choice
You are not born with a positive or negative attitude; it’s something you become through your outlook of experiences. Very few situations are completely bad. Try to come up with three to five positive points for any challenge you face and write them down to help you remember them.
Surround yourself with people who have positive and happy vibes
Try surrounding yourself with friends that radiate positive energy. Pay attention to the words they use when they talk to you about their day and you will be amazed how simple it is to determine if they are a positive or negative influence on you.
Live in the present moment
As you read this you will probably have a million things on your mind. Errands to run, things you should be doing and situations that are concerning you. All too often we spend our days lost in thoughts about the past or the future and never really living in this very moment. When we live like this, we are never truly contented with ourselves because our inner peace is always at odds, which affects our mood and our attitude.
In place of rushing about, try to spend time observing your thoughts and becoming more aware of what you are saying to yourself. If you catch yourself worrying about something, you are not in the current moment because your mind is on something that could happen at some point in the future. Anxiety, stress and worry are all signs you are not living in the moment. (Of course, if you have anxiety issues then it’s best to go to therapy and/or seek some form of help, even if it’s from a good friend.) To improve your attitude, learn how to take a break, to sit and be quiet even if it’s just for 10 minutes a day.
Say daily affirmations
Find a quote that is meaningful to you and say it aloud every morning. (If you can’t think of anything you can always google “daily affirmations” to help get you started). Telling yourself “something great is going to happen today,” helps give you in an eager and positive direction.
So the next time you are faced with a challenging situation, remember these tips for moulding your perception. You may not be able to change it completely and you definitely won’t be able to change it immediately, but you can certainly choose your mental and physical response to it and over time it will become easier to cope. As time passes, you will notice a real shift in your attitude, and so will your friends and family!