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Ugly and Fat: 5 Reasons Why I Don't Feel Offended By Slurs About Looks Anymore

Ugly and Fat: 5 Reasons Why I Don't Feel Offended By Slurs About Looks Anymore

If there has been a lesson I have learned the hard way, then it has been this:

Nobody will actually care.

Whenever you have something great to show off, everyone around you will only be curious when the spotlight is still flashed upon you. Hovering around you would be people adapting behavior in the likeness of spectators. This is the similar situation most renowned personalities seem to encounter, withstanding criticism thrown by people who are in bad terms with them and who pester their goodwill.

Ever since I've started to take a whole new turn by maneuvering the steering wheel of my life from being conscious about what others say to developing a thick skin by withstanding both the good and bad things that are being spoken that concerns me, I have started to care less and put others' criticisms at a lesser priority than anything else.

Here are some of my reasons why I don't feel offended by notorious insults about looks, namely "ugly" and "fat."

1. People's comments will more likely reflect them than me.

Their sentiments can be the mirror to who they are as spectators, especially if the terms "ugly" or "fat" are used in verbal bullying.

Ugly and Fat: 5 Reasons Why I Don't Feel Offended By Slurs About Looks Anymore

If people would impertinently throw a slur against me such as "fat" (which I'm called almost everyday), then they'd be more likely be criticized back by other people than I would be based on their behavior.

I actually think it's a waste of their time that they take minutes of their life just to comment on my appearance based on their standards and portray actions as if I'm that relevant to them. In the end, it would be their loss and not mine.

2. What may be unpleasant to some may be pleasant to others.

Ugly and Fat: 5 Reasons Why I Don't Feel Offended By Slurs About Looks Anymore

"You can't please everyone" is a flawed statement because you are certainly able to please everyone by doing your best at everything but you may not guarantee their side to be with yours all the time.

One reason why insults are thrown is because of dissatisfaction. This is the opposite to why compliments are given— exceeded standards. Both circumstances are subjective, hence differences of opinions among people.

3. Insults can be comparisons made subtly.

People can call other people "ugly" because they happen to be aware of the unwritten, unofficial, and mainstream standards of beauty. That is comparison in accordance to standards.

To put it into another perspective, people can call other people "dumb" because they either have encountered people who happen to be smart or they happen to have a standard that draws a line between smartness and dumbness.


I have started to accept that comparisons happen every day and is a perfectly natural occurrence. It's not like I'm going to be seen as ugly all my life by the same people; no.

Everything changes constantly and as people experience new things, their perceptions about things will also vary, leading them to make entirely different comparisons every day.

Someone's 2/10 may be someone's 8/10.

4. Most insults are not even worth my attention.

Ugly and Fat: 5 Reasons Why I Don't Feel Offended By Slurs About Looks Anymore

I would never dare fall for insolent baits that are aimed to earn my participation in undesired hypes a.k.a. fights. If not all, most people who have tried to offend me with their insults have not proven themselves worthy of my time in simply acknowledging them.

5. What I think about myself will always prevail in the end.

It's not that I'll forever be lingering in every person's mind, but if that's the case, then it would be their waste of time and not mine. Their words would not even matter in the long run because in the end, what I think about myself will be more significant that what others say about me because I:

(1) Get to make changes in my life;

(2) Can decide to dwell on criticisms a.k.a. ruining my life by wasting time.

Ugly and Fat: 5 Reasons Why I Don't Feel Offended By Slurs About Looks Anymore

Peace out.

Ugly and Fat: 5 Reasons Why I Don't Feel Offended By Slurs About Looks Anymore
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