I don’t belong anywhere in America

[Anonymous]

Race is a serious problem here and people try to downplay it and act blind to it. And as a black girl, I can honestly say the discrimination goes both ways. Majority of people who are white where I live treat me like I’m beneath them. They stare at me whenever I enter a building or they make remarks like “Wow, they just let anyone in here.” I go shopping and employees follow me like I’m going to steal or something. I even graduated college and they still treat me like dirt. I have been spit on, called racial slurs and bullied my entire life for simply being black.

And you would think that maybe other black people who live in my area would try to provide a safe space for me, but no. Instead they outcast me! They constantly say I’m “not black” and that I “act white” simply because I speak differently than they do. They have made fun of my voice my entire life and have even laughed when I went to college. And they won’t even let me have my opinion on situations that happen to black Americans. They keep calling me white.

I’m just sick of this country. I don’t care what anyone says, the issue of race is the biggest problem with America. And I know a problem like that isn’t going to magically disappear overnight, but I don’t belong anywhere. It hurts so much that I am literally crying as I’m typing this. I don’t belong here. I just want to be accepted for who I am.

[Shamalien]

ah fuck... the classic story of the black person that wanted to better themselves and got outcast by the shitty parts of the black community...

I would think white people would be all over you though. An educated black woman is a real boon in terms of good public relations in the modern day. It makes a company look very tolerant and progressive. You should have no shortage of work

[myTake Owner]

I live in an openly racist area. People don’t usually hire black people for PR jobs because they don’t want to possibly upset or offend client or local business.

[Shamalien]

where in the world do you live?

[TrulyPink28]

If it's openly 'racist,' why stay there? Protect yourself, hun

[myTake Owner]

@TrulyPink28 my family is here. But I suppose I can still move away. I don’t have kids and I’m not married.

[TrulyPink28]

Mytake owner, choose what you'd like if all the shenanigans in your area were gone. If you want to remain with your family, have you considered what your family do yo cope?

[myTake Owner]

@TrulyPink28 my family would want me to be happy. So if that means starting a new life away from them, they would be supportive.

[TrulyPink28]

Awesome! MyTake owner, if you had a choice? Where would you like to go?

[Ad_Quid_Orator]

The SJW/PC crowd has a lot less influence than you think bro.

[myTake Owner]

@TrulyPink28 I don’t know. But definitely to a city.

[Shamalien]

@Ad_Quid_Orator don’t ever tell that to me LoL I don't know where the fuck you live but its not Canada

[Ad_Quid_Orator]

I live in the US (the country this question was referring to).

[Shamalien]

@Ad_Quid_Orator in a big city or rural?

[Ad_Quid_Orator]

Both situations.

[Shamalien]

@Ad_Quid_Orator how can you live in both at the same time? Lemme tell you something. Go to any global city, any big city, like new york, LA, or w/e, and tell me once again that sjws have no power. You don't know wtf you are talking about man. People lose their careers over this shit

[Ad_Quid_Orator]

I didn't say they have no power (that's a straw-man on your part) I'm saying it's blown out of proportion. People lose their careers for any number of stupid reasons (including discrimination on the part of their employer).

[Shamalien]

@Ad_Quid_Orator man you underestimate their power. They have the government on their side in most western countries like Canada. In america, they have a ton of media and ngos on their side, lots of funding. People do lose their jobs because sjws bitch at the employer until they fire the 'racist' or 'nazi' so basically a dude who wore a red hat by accident XD

[Ad_Quid_Orator]

I'm not saying it doesn't happen (you're strawman's too wet to burn). I'm saying it's blown out of proportion. But if you want to put some perspective on this, how many people are fired for using racial slurs versus how many people are fired for discriminatory reasons?

[Shamalien]

@Ad_Quid_Orator man all I know is that if you say n** on facebook you lose your job XD

[Ad_Quid_Orator]

Yeah, you "know" that because of a little thing called...

... confirmation bias.

[Shamalien]

@Ad_Quid_Orator ummm no, I know because I've heard a ton of stories of people getting fired for facebook posts. I know how the world works as well, living in a big city, seeing how people react when you step out of line, no surprises

[Ad_Quid_Orator]

That's anecdotal so again, confirmation bias.

[Shamalien]

@Ad_Quid_Orator yeah I'm sorry I don't have stats for you man, if you wanna get all scientific on my ass, I can't help ya :P

but I invite you to work at apple or google and try saying n** on facebook.

[Ad_Quid_Orator]

Yeah because people engaging in bigoted behavior (not accusations of it used in a manipulative way) is such a terrible reason to fire someone ;)

[Shamalien]

@Ad_Quid_Orator lol nobody working at apple is dumb enough to call a black man a n**

but they might say "nigga nigga" like quote some rap song, or call a bitch a slut, or something that's not PC, and next thing you know BOOM ur fired XD

[Ad_Quid_Orator]

Really, how many times were people fired for using racial slurs in that context?

[Shamalien]

@Ad_Quid_Orator no idea how one could find accurate stats on such a thing considering the controversy

[Ad_Quid_Orator]

So that it's a problem is just conjecture on your part.

[NYCQuestions1976]

I've read through this entire thread and regardless of thought, belief, or politics, maybe if people posted less dumb shit online and in their social media accounts, then maybe they wouldn't get fired from their jobs. Not that I necessarily agree with people losing careers over shitposting, but sometimes self-control is a wonderful thing. 👍

[Ad_Quid_Orator]

@NYCQuestions1976 Better lose your job for that than discrimination.

[NYCQuestions1976]

@Ad_Quid_Orator Posting derogatory comments online doesn't automatically make someone racist. Sometimes people shitpost for trolling purposes. Sometimes it's just general stupidity. You can't always legislate "dumb". Many times impulse control is the answer. With that said, if people always lost their careers every time they were mean or moronic, nothing would ever get done. lol

[genuinlysensitive]

Gentlemen. Don't feed the Trolls!

[yaranzo]

No offense, but can't you just move.

[UncleJessieRabbit]

@NYCQuestions1976 I don't like legislating "dumb" either. The good news though, is that those who make laws against hate speech or similar thing is actually a backfiring waiting to happen, so karma can be a bitch.

[TrulyPink28]

My sweet. I've been there & experience that too. I live in the UK, a Medical Doctor of over 18 years, Mahogany skinned and beautiful, whoop whoop! I've an added dimension to my story as I was adopted at birth to a birracial couple!



I reside in one of the most expensive boroughs of the country. Despite being well spoken, modest and classically well dressed, people have assumed I was a prostitute 😆.



I've had store security come right next to me while I pay for my purchases. My own father of over 70 who is a diplomat, respected and influential in his field, has also been followed in a grocery store in my area. Absolutely ludicrous!



I've also had the 'you're not black,' or 'act white' with the added dirty looks, etc.



In the UK, those who are of upper class status, are frowned upon by many in other classes as they have felt inferior or treated as thus. Eventhough you may have Queen's English and aristocratic in mannerisms, you remain inferior to the British Upper Class due to heritage. This is what societies have accepted over centuries eventhough this concept is meaningless.



The truth of the matter is, most black (and other groups of people including white) are not well off and therefore, it's easy for many to place you into the same box they put themselves in. Also, people can be unwilling to dispel the thought that someone who is black could be doing better than them. Ironically, anyone who is not black and who seeks to succeed also gets the same flack & haters. Black people however hold a lot of unhealed pain.



Have you ever heard of the monkey ladder experiment? This gives one example of why people act or treat those who succeed with negativity. Have a look here:

https://www.wisdompills.com/monkey-ladder/



With the thinking mind you have, I want to challenge you to consider that the actions towards you are multifactorial and not solely explained by hate or racism.




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[TrulyPink28]

So, what can you do?

1. You have to forgive everyone who has hurt you, period. If you keep letting them upset you, you are the one who is in a bind and putting your life on hold. Once you do, let go and be kind to those who act despicably towards you.

N. B. It can be hard when security follow you throughout a store, but this is not personal. You are not a thief therefore hold your own and act as if no one was there. Do that often and eventually that particular security personnel on your case, will eventually leave you alone. If it gets too much, write a complaint letter to management after you've taken note of all the days and the time frame you were there. At the end of the day, it's that person's problem. Remember, besides issues of race and hate, 1 in 4 people have mental health disorders. I have assessed security personnel in my office who are very unwell. I've also assessed lawyers, policemen and teachers of various walks of life. Just because they wear a particular uniform, does not mean they are sane.

2. Know yourself well. What you like, what you enjoy, what you respect, what you appreciate. Equally, what do you dislike, disapprove and do not appreciate.

[TrulyPink28]

3. Listen or watch people who inspire you. Read books and watch movies which are uplifting.

4. Be inspired and have goals in life. I want to recommend that you check out Chantelle Anderson, the basketball player. She has a 30 day coaching course and talks about her own challenges and how to grow and develop you. No matter where you are in life & whatever skin tone you have, people will not be for you. Why hide the person you are when you may be just that person who inspires many others with your unique voice, skin tone and look you have?

5. Surround yourself with people who are open minded and who respect you for all of who you are. Keep away from people who can be draining and unable to be supportive to you and vice versa. Choose your friends wisely. This also includes dating. May I suggest Greta Bereisaite, as a relationship coach? She has a lot of wisdom.
6. Be at peace & rejoice. You were created in the way you are right now, with the colour tone, way you speak, way you move, for a reason!

Love you girl, you are where you should be (America) for a time like this. Embrace it and soar xx

[TrulyPink28]

P. s. Do you remember the two incidents when Oprah was shopping in Europe? Has it stopped her reaching out to the masses and influencing many?

Flourish and Blossom girl, the world is waiting for you!

[anniisa]

Yeah, I can see this happening with the upper class. You have very good points, I appreciate your take on this. I've always been proud of this country in the sense that I strongly believe we are very lucky to be minorities in the UK. But your perspective has made me realise it's not that straight foreword. I've never given thought to what it would be like for minorities that are of the upper class.

[TrulyPink28]

♥️ You're welcome.

[broken_heart_at_48]

That's terrible I'm sorry that your having to experience such bullshit. I hate to say when I was young I was racist and I'm ashamed of a lot of things I did when I was young. I grew up in a neighborhood where whites were the minority and I used the excuse of how I was treated for why I hated and I understand the pressure the people around you can put on you for you to be accepted. I was literally one of just a couple white kids that ran around in the neighborhood most of them didn't leave their houses. I've had to fight for my lunch money, my shoes, my bike. I had a sawed off shot gun jammed under my chin when I was twelve by two grown men but all I was doing when I was hating was adding to the problem. Hate won't fix hate. What everyone needs to be teaching our kids is that we can accomplish a lot more together then against each other I mean there's a lot of knowledge that we're missing out on besides the fact that we're destroying America. I don't know the answer to how to heal the past and it's probably going to take both sides of the issue sitting down and putting their brains together and probably a few different generations even. I wish I could give you a hug and just say I'm sorry and I can tell you that the man I am today wouldn't standby and let a group pick on a girl let alone spit on her. We need to try and stop this bullshit of needing to look cool or worrying about what others are gonna think and for those that are leading these type of actions you need to realize that you're not fixing anything you're just making a bad situation worse not just for them but for yourself. Learn from the past. History shows us these tactics are going to benefit anyone you're just making it worse for your kids and grandkids. Look at back in like forties or fifties when whites would get a couple truck loads of guys and try and run the other races out of their neighborhoods by beating them up and worse. All this did was make them unite to defend themselves which later some of these groups became gangs and now all the whites are crying about the gangs that we created. A human being is going to defend themselves and are only going to take so much before they fight back. I don't want this for future generations I hope the future generations will do things smarter and have some compassion. For now we have to take small steps and not let are past experiences be our excuse for how we're acting today. Also I know that I've get followed in stores all the time and just you I don't steal but it obviously is a big problem in stores and you know what else I've been beat up by cops a couple times I'm not down playing how other races are being treated I'm just saying it's starting to be not just a race thing it's maybe a type of person being thrown into the mix now a days. I wish I knew the words to make you feel better but I don't think words will do it. But you do belong here just as much as anyone else. I bet if you start a movement on just being nice to each other or a group of people that just want to understand humans of all walks of life or whatever your heart leads you to I bet you find a shit load of people that feel the same and you guys can stand up for each other and stop the hating by communication and understanding I think you can do great things

[hellionthesagereborn]

No. That's not true. That is utter bullshit in fact. I'm sick and tired of people claiming we are a racist nation. Your literally making a blanket judgment of white people, their motives and their beliefs and their thoughts and their opinions, which is racist, while proclaiming they are the racist. News flash, your not important. No one is out to get you because you are not important enough to get. No one really is. In a society were almost all interracial violence and crime and hate crimes are commited by blacks against every one else, I refuse to sit here and here some one bitch and whine that they are being descriminated against by whites. No your not. You are racist, so you now take every ones actions as if its an attack against you because you have already decided that this MUST be what every thing do means. If they bump into you, they are racist, never mind that they also bump into whites. If a police officer pulls you over, it must be racism, never mind that you were speeding or had a light out.

Now that said, their is some descrimination, I can admit to that. For example makeup, the makeup that is for black skin tones in some stores is locked away while the ones for white skin tones are not. But even here you have to ask why? The answer is because that makeup is far more likely to be shoplifted. Some store owners get nervous when blacks enter their establishment, that is descrimination. But why? Because over half of all robberies are commited by blacks. Some times people try to avoid blacks, its true, this is descrimination. But why? Because half of all violent crimes are commited by blacks (despite them being 13% of the population).

How are you dressed? If you dress ghetto or shittly then your going to be treated differently then if your dressed well, its not because your black, its because that is how EVERY ONE gets treated (a black journalist did an experiment and dressed in a suit everywhere he went and low and behold he was treated well. Then he dressed in ratty clothing, sagged his pants, and low and behold he was treated poorly. He of course claimed this was racism despite the fact that when he presented himself well he was treated well regardless of skin color).

Hows your behavior? Are you confrontational? Are you looking for a reason to snap at people and accuse them of racism? Guess what, people can read that and they don't much like people who have a victim mentality and are looking for a fight.

I'm white, I get to be told how I am inherently racist and the scourge upon the earth every fucking day. I get magazine covers with white babies on them with the headline "Racism is in our DNA" suggesting that I am just inherently evil and racist. I get to hear blacks tell me how I am inferior to them all the fucking time, telling me I'm privileged (can't tell me exactly how I'm privileged, but some how I am anyway (don't ask questions)). I just today got to hear several minorities BALK at the idea of a minority women even thinking about dating a white man because apparently we are just inferior in all ways (but don't worry, your not the racist ones (not like blacks are more then 150% more likely to commit hate crimes or anything (oh wait, they are)).

In short, its not them, its you. You see them as an enemy so every action you take every word you use shows to them and the world that you hate them, that you see them as the enemy and they in turn respond to it. People are animals, like dogs, and they reflect your attitude. You are the problem, so suck it up. Fucking claiming that we are all racist in a nation that voted in a black man into the highest position of power not once but twice (what other nation did that? Oh yeah, none. China has never had a non Chinese leader, and I'd like to see an African nation vote in any one who isn't black (not counting apartheid south Africa of course which had actual racism which you would know nothing about)).

[TrulyPink28]

As you've admitted, discrimination IS present. It can mushroom into prejudice, ignorance and/or racism however, the underlying motive is unclear. Therefore, we can not discredit her experience. If she was spat out without provocation, no matter who one is, that's disrespectful and uncalled for.

I understand how you can feel disappointed (and angered) by those who villianise non-minority groups however if one keeps facing hurtful situations, it IS ones responsibility to find a way to cope but this can take much time for people to heal, ignore and forgive negative triggers.

As I shared, I dress well and modestly however in the borough where I reside (UK), sometimes some security personnel have come right next to me when I've made my purchase and my 70 year old father has been followed throughout a shop. Ironically, it has not been by 'white' security staff but minorities. Work that one out? Ha!

[hellionthesagereborn]

@TrulyPink28 Wow that went over your head. I stated yes their is some descrimination BECAUSE IT IS WARRENTED! If I view blacks as being more prone to violence and crime, and knowing that they are in fact responsible for the majority (by population size) of violence and crime, that is me descriminating against them when I want to avoid their neighborhoods. Descrimination is not always unwarranted, if your community is awful, if you defend their actions, if you demand that you not be held accountable then yes your going to be descriminated against because your protecting bad people who do bad things and want to do bad things to you.

As for dismissing her statement, yes I can. She is LITERARLLY descriminating against whites, she is belittling an entire nation of people who again, saw fit to put a BLACK MAN in the highest position of power twice. TWICE! When you claim they are all racist against you despite Nigerian and ghanian americans fairing better then most white ethnic groups in this nation and you have had a black secretary of state (twice (one man one woman)) and the president of this country was a black man twice, you don't get to claim that your descriminated against, that's fucking stupid.

[hellionthesagereborn]

@TrulyPink28 When colleges cater to you, you don't get to claim your being unfairly treated to your detriment. So yeah, I can discredit her statements because 80% of all interracial violence and crime is commited by blacks against whites, you don't get to claim its the otherway around, when blacks are more then 150% more likely to commit a hate crime and black seperatists are the largest and fastest growing hate group in the nation, you don't get to say that your a victim of evil white people. That's fucking stupid.

Now if you want to say, this one person was racist, sure. I believe that entirely, we have racist people, they exist and they are not going anywhere. But when you say an entire nation, an entire race (again, this is racist) is out to get you because of your skin color and ignoring all the data that says otherwise, then your going to be wrong, period. That's like me saying that all blacks are racist, that's wrong, many are based upon the statistical data, based upon my own personal experiences, based upon surveys done, but that doesn't mean all of them are. So why is the reverse acceptable? Its not, I don't give a damn if people think its okay to lie and slander a group of people, that's not appropriate or acceptable I don't care if its against whites (as is the norm now a days) or any other group.

[TrulyPink28]

https://youtu.be/SNC8-E9k23w

[TrulyPink28]

I understood exactly what you said & it did not go over my head. We are having a discussion, not an expletive match..

You have made the following points:

1. Reiterating that black crime is highest in your society based on population size.

2. Discrimination is warranted in SOME cases due to repeated offences. If it is some, why do most feel discriminated against as a collective?

3. Assumption? that she is being discriminatinatory to an entire section of the population.

4. Claiming that individuals of colour who attend college can not claim to unfairly treated, when catered for... you didn't elaborate as to why exactly? Also referring to 2-3 people who made it in congress. Tell me something, who found America? If you say Christopher Columbus... please check out the true facts.

5. Stating that you can discard HER experience and statements because of high levels of interracial violence (🤔) which she has possibly never been involved in...

6. Stating that blacks have the largest and fasted growing hate group in America. If they are discriminated against largely and WRONGLY, wouldn't you be upset too?

7. Stating that the owner is not a victim of her circumstances.

8. Agreement that an individual could have been racist towards her as they exist and are not going anywhere.

9. Disagreeing that an entire group of society is out to get her because of her skin colour.

[TrulyPink28]

As I mentioned, we do not and cannot know the heart or motive of the individual (s) who engaged with the question owner. Therefore, we can not be quick to dismiss her experience.

Victimization seems to be what you're calling out and frustrated by. We are in fact both in agreement here. My mindset, however, is to give a solution or suggestion to cope as once again, how do we know the motive of the person she engaged with? She could have met a string of horrible people. They equally could be of the same hue as you or her. It has hit a nerve and her level of intolerance. Similar with you, Hellion, it is hitting a nerve whereas you can equally ignore this question.

by the way, avoiding a neighbourhood due to its history, is not discrimination but wisdom.

[TrulyPink28]

https://youtu.be/K-FG2oWl-2k

[hellionthesagereborn]

@TrulyPink28 Is it a discussion? Your saying that the entire nation is racist, but not the black part of the nation, not the Hispanic part of the nation, not the indian part of the nation, not the Asian part of the nation, not the middle eastern part of the nation, just the white European part of the nation. IS that a discussion or is that just being racist? Further more when you claim that the entire nation is racist (which is what is being claimed), despite the fact that this country is the most generous and open to all races and religions in the world bar none, the least racist based upon statistical data in the entire world bar none, were we are the only nation that elected a minority leader as president not once but twice, were the top four highest earning ethnic groups are all minorities, were colleges descriminate AGAINST whites in favor of blacks and minorities (with the exception of Asians who also get descriminated against for being "overly represented"(you know because they try hard to be successful (shame on them right?)), you don't get to claim this is a discussion. what is happening is you are making an assertion, I have pointed out that its wrong based upon objective data like statistics, economics, immigration, policy, law, anecdotal evidence, and common sense. At that point can we say that this is a conversation if your dismissing all objective evidence to assert a feeling, an opinion, one which is highly racist? I personally don't see it as such.

[hellionthesagereborn]

@TrulyPink28 If you where here to discuss the topic with an open mind, that would have been a conversation. Are you here to do that or are you here to try and convert me at any costs, even if it means you denying the reality (which again, I've presented and its inarguable and quite frankly you haven't even attempted to argue the points even if (you could argue against the truth))? Feels more like the latter and less like the former and quite frankly I'm tired of dealing with people who think its okay to be racist assholes who constantly lie through their teeth and deny facts.

Are their racist in the world? Yes, of course and based upon the data many are minorities (but no one wants to talk about that do they?). Are their white racists? Of course absolutely, no one has ever attempted to deny that. Is it an issue in todays society? Absolutely not. Is it an issue in a persons every day life, absolutely not (hell blacks where saying as much in the 80s, yet now we are suppose to believe that after having a black man as president suddenly the entire country for no fucking reason decided to turn on blacks and minorities? Please, don't be stupid.).

[hellionthesagereborn]

@TrulyPink28 Now to answer your question/points/what ever the fuck they are,

1. Yes they do commit an overwhelming majority of crimes. this creates descrimination because if you a taxi driver gets robbed by a black person nine times out of ten, he has every right to descriminate against another black person to protect his livelihood and his life because their is no way for him to know that this person is different.

2. Yes their is descrimination against the "collective" for the above reason. If the majority of blacks are the criminals then your going to suspect them because you cannot know which ones are and are not criminals and this is the burden of belonging to a group. You descriminate all the time (and currently are), this is natural. If some one is walking around with a bloody knife, you presume that they are dangerous. It could very well be a prop, but when it comes to your life and well being you would be moronically stupid to not presume the worse (being dead is worse then hurting some ones feelings).

3. Not an assumption, she stated she doesn't belong anywhere and that every one is descriminating against her. Their is nothing presumptions their except for her actions. She is presuming that every interaction is inherently negative and inherently race driven which is not the case (just by chance alone, not even getting into the many reasons why this is bullshit that I have already listed).

4. As for college, a white student has to get the equivalent of 380 points HIGHER on their SAT score to be considered EQUAL to a black student when it comes to admission. When you factor in grant programs and scholarships which also favor minority students (and women), yes I can safely say you don't get to claim being descriminated against when your being given privilege over others (that's called common fucking sense).

[hellionthesagereborn]

@TrulyPink28 As for the discovery of America, first and foremost what the fuck does that have to do with anything? Secondly what do you mean by discovered? The country was "discovered", multiple times, are you asking the first time with the human migration that occurred 15,000 years ago? Are you talking about the more then likely Polynesian discovery of south America that occurred more then likely 5,000 or more years ago? Are you talking about the Vikings "discovering" of Vinland (Canada), that occurred about 900 or so years ago? Are you talking about European discovery of the Americas (technically the carribien) by Columbus? Which one? Also your being presumptions on what my views are which is why you brought up the Columbus thing to begin with (despite it not even being apart of the conversation). However be very fucking careful with your line of reasoning with that one, you don't want what the inevitable conclusion will be.

5. Your discarding my persona experiences and the personal experiences of every white American so what the fuck is the difference? You don't get to tell people that they are all racist and bad and descriminating (again when this is provably false), then bitch when some one says your full of shit. you and her both dismissed my experiences and the experiences and personhood of every fucking American without hesitation. Don't be a hypocrite, if it didn't matter to you why the hell should it matter to me? Also, again, almost all violence comes from blacks and is directed at blacks and other people, they are far more likely to commit hate crimes and have one of the largest and fastest growing hate groups in the country despite being a tiny fraction of the population. So yeah, your also disregarding the experiences of all those people as well (again, don't be a hypocrite).

[hellionthesagereborn]

@TrulyPink28 6. Sure would but you would have to prove they are being unfairly descriminated against and thus far you can't prove that because again, almost all the descrimination is coming from them not against them and again, black president twice, rich African immigrants, rich Asian etc. etc. etc.

7. She isn't a victim of her circumstances. She would have to provide evidence showing that every white person is racist that she has ever met, that every one of their actions was motivated by racism (you know, tell and prove what people think and feel while ignoring their own feelings on the subject i. e. depersoning them (which is apparently only acceptable when she, you, or minorities do it to others but if I say she is full of shit and is just letting her victim mentality influence her world view suddenly I'm the asshole. I'm the asshole for not believing her when she says every white person in the world is out to get her (what kind of fucktardery is that?) See, more evidence that racism exists, its just not coming from whites (Oh wait I forgot, it doesn't count because whites are not people, my mistake)).

8. Never argued that their was no racist people or that she has never met a racist person (she has met herself after all), I disregard the claim that every person she meets is racist. Those are two very different things and you know it (which is why your trying to conflate the two.). Can't control the rare bad apple, but that doesn't mean the entire nation is out to get you (I have to deal with racism directed towards me for being white by minorities all the time, do I get to claim that all blacks and Hispanics and Indians are therefore racist? Oh, oh, guess it doesn't work for me does it? The rules only apply if your the right shade huh?).

9. YEP!

[hellionthesagereborn]

@TrulyPink28 In short your argument is she is right because she says so, that all whites are in fact racist and out to get her despite all evidence to the contrary, that it is acceptable to claim so yet not acceptable to claim all blacks are x because "reasons", that to dismiss her argument on the basis of statistical data, law, economics, and common sense is dissimissing her experiences but dismissing all the statistical data (invidiauls personal experiences) and the personal experiences of me and every other white American is perfectly acceptable because "reasons", and that I have to simply bow my head and concede that I am a racist piece of shit because of my skin color as all white people are racist pieces of shit because you know. . . their skin color.

In short your hear to argue feelings and victimhood. You want her and need her to be a victim and I haven't the slightest idea why, but reality does not function on feelings it functions on facts and the facts show that this is bullshit. If you wish to convince me otherwise, you can do so but I will not be swayed by demands to pity some one for the sake of pitying them (or to stroke my own ego), you will not sway me by trying to appeal to my emotions. You want to convince me give me data, give me facts, give me the truth or acknowledge that your wrong and move on your way.

[CHARismatic110]

First off, there is no such thing as "acting white". I hate when people say that it talking white. Or acting/talking black. Black and white are colors. They cannot speak or act. Secondly, you shouldn't want to fit in. We aren't born to fit in. You should be standing out every chance you get. To hell with what people say and think. Especially when they don't even know you! America is definitely is racist shitshow most of the time, but you'd be giving the people that make it that way what they wanted by just going somewhere else. Nah, let your light shine bright HERE. Screw people.

[Anonymous]

I love how you have made yourself to a good place. You worked really hard to get to where you are. We are living in a very difficult time for the past few months. That is holding you back with jobs and support. That will change... and look how that can help you to help others.
Go where you can find a job in your field. If its in your own city/area, stay and make friends who are true to you and support you. If its another city where they need you, you go for that job and start a new life to earn a living, make new friends... That is a goal to set and reach for it... once you have that... there will be challenges... it can be anything... and we can always label it as a race thing... i chose NOT to label it as a race thing... again call me ignorant... Move beyond the stuff that hold us back.

You have the right attitude with setting goals and making it to become better... There will always pepole out there trying to climb over us regardless of race/color... call me ignorance.. i chose NOT to see race and color but build on my ability to seek out and help others and love others.
You come from a good supportive family... thats 1/2 the battle... the rest is on you to shine your best light for your self and the world with what you can give to others.
Take that, with that big smile and congure the world of hardship, prejudice... etc.

I have been beaten down by the society to nothing and have to start over and to love those who depise me... I can use the race remark.. but i chose not to. I chose to rebuild myself and love them.
I have suffered from at times felt like some kind of mental illness, no medications, no finger pointing.. but self reflect and self awareness. Time... took time to regain that.

I have been followed in stores, I didn't think or care if its related to race or whatever... I was nice and said I am okay thank you. I move along and go by my day.

Set a good foundation for yourself. Thats where you belong.

[jasco]

For one not the entire country is as bad as that but a good bit of it is yes, however the world is cruel and therefor safe spaces aren't gonna do you any good for a long term solution. I have been in one is good for a little while but eventually your gonna have to put your pants back on and face whatever is happening. I have been bullied and such just like but guess what i do every time someone says something bad about me. I say fuck you and move on cause as long as they don't touch me i can do what ever i want. I don't care if someone follows me, hell you can even take a picture if you want. So in short just ignore those people and keep walking. Same with the black people just ignore them and move on with your life and if you can't do that than stay at home and have everything done threw the internet and barely show yourself to the world if your that scared. America has always been a very racist country and for the time being more than likely will stay that way cause of what black people are doing out there in the streets. Black people are stealing, killing and making a bad rep for any other person of color so you can't blame anyone for simply watching themselves cause of the rep that we have as a race. You can't be upset cause someone is being racist towards you ( however if they touch you, you do have the ability to call the cops). So in short ignore them or become invisible or try voting to get good people so that black people can start getting lessons how to get a better life and how to stop being criminals so that black people won't have a bad rep anymore

[Rabbit_Hole]

I don't know where you live but that behavior does not represent all of America. The majority of people have moved passed such an ignorant state of mind. I'm half black and I've never had a racist encounter in my life. None that I have noticed anyways. I have been asked by black people "why do you talk so white?" And asked by white people, "Why do you talk so black?" Which is an infuriatingly stupid thing to say.

My suggestion would be to move out! 🙃 Find a place in the US that you'd like to live in and move there. I live about an hour away from Nashville Tennessee 😬 great place!

[crmoore]

I feel for you but I have to agree with Steve37 on this one. I've quite literally never heard someone use a racial slur towards a person of color in my community, nor have I heard implicative remarks like "wow, they just let anyone in here." Again, I feel for you, it's terrible to experience those things. But this evidently jsn't an American thing, you just happened to be in a community with those qualities. I'm not saying there aren't other communities who share those qualities, but I know there are plenty, if not a vast majority, of communities that don't share those qualities.

[Bananaman177]

You're right that people like you don't belong here, but you're crazy if you think it's because of your skin, and you're even crazier if you think you belong anywhere else in the world either. You think they want your bullshit attitude in Africa?

[Exterminatore]

It’s good that you can see discrimination goes both ways, but are these reactions because and solely because your black or does your choice of clothes, body language, and words you use play a part in these perceived discriminations?

To be truthful I’m tired of the make believe racism many blacks and left wingers say exists. If I had a dime for every time I hear “it’s because I’m black isn’t it” and I want so badly to reply: “no, it’s because you’re doing_______(fill in the blank)”

People not complying with police commands and being hurt or killed isn’t racism. They get hurt and killed for failure to comply, not because they black. Not getting a job after showing up for an interview in shorts and a tank top is not racism, it’s failure to be dressed appropriately. If one dresses like a thug and walks, talks, and acts like one and that causes suspicion, that’s not racism that’s suspicion of an undesirable character. Yet I’ve personally seen racism blamed on all these things.

[TrulyPink28]

Every case would have to be considered individually and also the person making the remarks and their past experiences. If a person has dealt with much trauma in their past, their view of the world would be different to those who have not, inevitably. Issues such as poverty, lack of high standard education, dysfunctional backgrounds, environmental influences since childhood, will skew/distort a person's view, naturally.

Therefore, I agree, race on its own, is not a strong enough argument but equally can not be dismissed because people do like to be provocative and find it difficult to believe that a person/individuals from a certain race 'deserve' a particular position or job title.
It could simply be an added factor on top of that person's dismissive behaviour.

Very complex topic:)

[Cbreezy_]

And YOU my friend, are a racist. Just by hinting black people show up late and dressed improperly for interviews and associating the word “thug” with black people, makes YOU a racist. But you can definitely have a nice day 🤗

[meesegoMoo]

@Cbreezy_ Is it racist if it's true? It's a common sub-culture in America. Is it any worse than admitting Italians/Russians in big cities might be gangsters? Or that red-necks are often methheads?

[TrulyPink28]

Hello gentleman, I get the impression that wrong stereotyping rather than racism is the case here. Let me give sone examples.

For instance, black people from many nations, Mediterraneans & South Americans (most southern hemispheres) DO have the general cultural stereotype of showing up late for socials, no question about it. However, have we proof or statistics that this behaviour is transpires into their work? And what type of work are we referring to? A respectable career expects high standards from everyone including all blacks, Asians, latinos, whites, indians, biracial, etc, etc.

Secondly, dressing inappropriately for interviews? That's quite a stretch of one's imagination as despite the stereotype that black women wear tight cleavage showing tops and tight jeans or black men who wear baggy attire with bling on TV rap, most black people know very well to dress up for church or it would be frowned upon! Suggesting that the average black person would not have knowledge or smarts to borrow decent clothes for an interview, is a strange one?🤔 (As an aside, people in African villages wash themselves at least two times per day as it is standard. Come to other nations & people wash once a week!)

Bad grammar, diction & speech, sigh. Bad speech will and can affect anyone climbing the ladder as it does not represent the business in a good light. I believe that affects every walk of life and individual. When people say a person is too 'posh' or 'acting white' for speaking eloquently, guess who doesn't want to change? It will affect their career path, respective of the individual's race, unless they learn to recognize that they are preventing their progression solely by the way they speak.

[TrulyPink28]

Thug may be a word black people use in rap videos or when calling someone a derogatory term however Europeans have been referenced to as thugs too such as in the UK (football thugs or hooligans) or in Poland or Russia, for example. Guessing KKK members would be considered 'thug like' in the US?

Black people are a small fraction of American society and regrettably, many are in financial deprivation which is not their fault. Those who do step out of the mould are doing what any normal healthy human being would do. When a 'minority' excels but are made feel unwelcome or branded as a miracle story, one has to wonder

1. Is it that people prefer the 'norm' they're used to & don't like change? Very easy to label people who are different to you as suspect, wannabes or race card users because they don't fit the mould or mainstream narrative. Very hard to accept that they might have the same upbringing as you or grew up in a mansion with home help and chauffeurs. The next thought might be that they are frauds and illegally funded. This is what the media feeds the masses. Sad but true.

Or
2. Is it that people recognize all the odds stacked against 'minorities' and the substandard support they are provided from developed nations?

It's easier to smile from afar than to assist in bringing another en par.

I think of the statistics on Covid-19 in the US and UK. Blacks, Hispanics, Indians and Bangladeshis are deemed as 3.5-4 x more likely to suffer. Is that new news? These groups generally live in poorer areas, are immunocompromised due to poor nutrition and live in overcrowded environments, etc. Compare that to stats in Africa and the continent as a whole has lower numbers/deaths but I digress.

https://youtu.be/8L7s7Z6nECQ

[TrulyPink28]

(Apologies with some typos)

[meesegoMoo]

@TrulyPink28 "Not their fault"? In many cases it IS their fault they stay poor. Without doubt. The welfare state was supported by people who typically desire little to no government involvement in the life of the individual because it's so effective at keeping minorities poor.

I feel no more sorry for the black man who smokes crack and abandons his kids than the white man smoking meth and being an abusive father. Two poisons of the same strength.

[TrulyPink28]

What I mean by not their fault is that many have been set up and conditioned into having less and having wealth removed unjustly from their forefathers.

This is one factor which has led to high dependency on social wealthfare. In turn, this affects their mental health wellbeing (increased levels of psychological disturbances and substance dependency, etc) and physical health (diabetes, heart disease, respiratory problems, you name it!)

It is a complex scenario because if your social environment and influences act in one way, there is a high chance you will too. However, as anywhere in the world, there are many exceptions to the rule.

You may have a family who were always ambitious, protected their children from bad influences and gave them good discipline despite being very poor.

You also have to consider the personality of the man or woman which can naturally be proactive, lazy, afraid, obsessive, paranoid, etc.

The opposite is true too when an individual is brought up in an upper class environment with everything given to them but they can't hold the most menial of jobs as they don't like the idea of discipline.
It may be easy to say take responsibility but the deep seated mindset of the individual is what you're fighting...

[Exterminatore]

@Everyone on this thread

All I’m trying to say is a lot of things can appear to be racist and are not.

I do not buy into the idea of institutionalized racism in a day where any white person so much as perceived as making a racial comment will be fired and likely ostracized, even if you own an NBA team. Just ask Donald Sterling.

I think things often attributed to racism are not.

However now, according to woke culture people it’s perfectly fine to label all white people as privileged and as oppressors. That is in fact racism. If you say “all blacks...” that’s not ok. It’s racism, but it’s perfectly fine to label all whites.

So I’ve simply come to where I’m tired of cries of racism that just don’t exist. This isn’t 1950’s Mississippi Burning any more. There isn’t a KKK member with a rope behind every bush and a cop with a water hose and dog ready to persecute blacks. The Jim Crow laws, slavery and segregation are gone. We have affirmative action in their place... for everyone... including women, but not for white men.

Things got out of control a few years ago with the idea blacks are being killed by racist cops. No one stopped to look at the behavior that was causing that. It was straight to racist cops and ignore things like resisting arrest or failure to comply with police demands. Now everything is somehow racist. It’s never ever mitigating factors, just racism every time.

Frankly it’s an old tired record many of us no longer care to hear.

[MysteriousDarkness]

@meesegoMoo
I see you like to assume things about the majority based on the minority.

[meesegoMoo]

@MysteriousDarkness The people I named are in the majority, but even so I was careful not to broadly apply it. Use that quip in a better situation and you may yet feel the slightest semi-deserved pride.

[yaranzo]

I mean, I'm young, but really the only racism I've seen was from older generations. Mainly just my father, though.

I don't think It's that prevalent in America, considering most of my generation sort of blindly agrees with posts like these. America is home to a bunch of differing opinions and I don't think it really matters much if a minority of people are racist. There are black people that hate me for being white, and I've witnessed it firsthand, so I won't dismiss your claims, but I really don't think It's that big of a deal. It's never going to go away as long as people continue to have preferences, opinions, biases, etc.

I think you could just ignore it, honestly. That's what I've been doing.
I've been called a thin-skinned white boy for saying this exact thing, so It's not like It's just black dudes being insulted. Lol. That's just my personality, though; I don't give a fuck about a lot of things.

[BeMuse]

You sound like you have an inferior complex and deep seeded racism instilled in you maybe due to jealousy. It doesn’t sound like your community helped much in that regard either. Racism will eat you alive from the inside out. Fix that and maybe you won’t feel like a pile of shit.

[wilfh1965]

Unfortunately it's worse for Black females being accepted in the Black community my sisters really went through a lot I am mixed with 19 different races my DNA test provided some answers for me I wish there was help but racism is so imbedded in this country and whites fear that minorities will return thier brutality back one day just hold your head high be yourself and hopefully a person will come and support you and stand by you

[MittenstheGlove]

Firstly, racism is a problem everywhere.

Though I do agree that I just feel as if anywhere I go I simply don’t belong.

It really hurts to feel so isolated when all want is acceptance.

[TrulyPink28]

:( You however were born for a time like this and must develop healthy coping strategies. You DO belong. Those who are unique have unique purposes in life for greater good, if thsy choose to soar. Many are sheep in mentality. Is that what you want for your life?

[btbc92]

If you realize this place is not for you like I did, nobody has a right to try to make you stay. This country is just out of control. I don't think what people understand is not so much of where you live, it's a type of people you're around in this country. Is the mentality of this country that you can't stand. It's not just two people. It's bad enough there's no such thing as race and you got to live with this crap. Not me.

[Steve37]

That's not a problem with America, it's a problem with your community and both of the cultures you mentioned. There are thousands of communities inn America where you would fit in just fine.

[TrulyPink28]

It boils down to the people you surround yourself with. Bad apples everywhere. Even in Africa!

[meesegoMoo]

@TrulyPink28 "even"? I would say especially in countries like Nigeria.

[TrulyPink28]

😂...

[loveslongnails]

There are places in the USA where that's prevalent, and places where it's not. It's weird place made up of some incredibly stupid people and some wonderful people, all led by mostly corrupt liars, politicians and a the dirtiest potus to ever live. There's a lot of "privilege" sense in the USA, all of it unwarranted.

[Snakeyes7]

I don't know what state you live in but I guarantee you that is a very rare spot. People are very rarely that openly racist.

[KrakenAttackin]

She is attention whoring. I don't believe most of what she says.

[myTake Owner]

@KrakenAttackin 1st of all, if I was attention whoring, I wouldn’t have posted this anonymously. 2nd of all, you can comment on someone else’s post if you’re not gonna provide any advice or a suggest a solution to MyTake.

[MsMusic]

People are that racist where I live. It's disgusting. I've lived the opposite - a white woman growing up in a black neighborhood. Been spit at. bullied for being white, been shot at. Told I think I'm too good for black people if I didn't want to do something that others did. I'm in Michigan.

[Snakeyes7]

@MsMusic I lived in Michigan too and my mother used to live in an area like that about an hour away from Detroit. I have been to Detroit a couple times and the place and everything within a 25 mile radius looks incredibly gloomy and depressing.

As far as me saying people being rarely openly racist I had white to black racism in mind but the reverse definitely happens.

[MsMusic]

I didn't live an hour away. I lived a 2 minute walk away lol. Now I live about 30 minutes away and it's much better.

[myTake Owner]

@MsMusic thank you for sticking up for me. I wanted to tell you in a DM, but I had some trouble trying to send you the message.

[MsMusic]

You should be able to dm me now if you'd like. And no problem 😊😊 I can't stand some people lol

[tellmeeverythingplz]

I've experienced these kinds of things. I'm mixed race so both dislike me. I can blend with white better but feel disconnected from everyone. Once someone finds out though the racisms fly. I hear and understand! I'm sorry this happened to you!

[Djaay]

I'll accept you for who you are. I'm also married to a black girl. Although Hawaii is a territory of America , it's a great place with great people who care about others for who they are. You may p. m. both me or my wife if you wish.