High school isn't fun for me.

[Anonymous]

Well, high school is supposed to be the best years of my life, according to everyone who graduated. High school isn't fun for me. I'm not popular or very well liked, and that isn't even the reason I don't like it. I'm fine with having a few friends that really care about me, and having tons of people I barely talk to that judge me like you wouldn't believe. See, I'm worried that all those people who say it doesn't get any better are right. It takes a long time for me to really open up to someone and give a good impression, showing them who I am. I am basically two different people, depending on who you are. To the general public, I'm not exactly shy, but I don't start drama or get involved too much in anything. To my closer friends, I do a lot of the things you'd never expect someone like me to be doing. The few people who know the way I live my life were quite surprised to know that I do what I do on a daily basis. I'm not very funny, or pretty, but I am easy to talk to about issues. People I barely know the name of will come to me with problems, and they know I'll listen to all they have to say and do absolutely anything I can to help them out. However, the people at my school only know this because most of them have known me for years, and they know who I am. I guess I'm really worried that I'll amount to nothing, socially. Generally, people try not to be around the things they don't want to be around if they don't have to. People like what is convenient,or beneficial to them, no matter how selfless they'd like to be. I am an inconvenience. I'm so scared that the second I toss my cap into the air and hug everyone goodbye, it will be the last time I see any of them. Not even the people that have been there for me for years and years will bother with me. If I'm lucky enough to get a job, maybe I'll make some friends there, but only while I'm there. I think that maybe I believe that unless I actively go somewhere and see people daily, I won't have anyone.

[Tamikaze]

High School was not the best years of my life. In fact, it was the worse. I don't think I have ever suffered as much problems and disappointments as I did in High School. It wasn't High Schools fault, I just had a lot of emotional baggage to deal with due to abuse and my parents divorce.

So, the best years of my life were every year after High School. Just reading what you wrote, adulthood is so going to rock for you. Not saying you should rush into it, you can't. But you are too self-aware and thoughtful to be enjoying High School all that much. Trust me, you will keep some acquaintances from High School but then you will make new friends at work, and if you go to college, even a community college, you will meet people from there too, and then random people from going out, and so on and so on. I stopped hanging out with anyone I knew from High School in my mid-twenties. In their place I ended up with so many other friends as well as a husband and a child. And I enjoy my family in a way you just don't when you are in your teens. Hang in there, it will all be good.

[Asker]

Thank you so much. You really gave me hope. A lot of adults have told me that I think like an adult, and that I speak like one, so they feel as though they can speak to me as they would someone their age. They say that it could be a big reason as to why I don't quite fit in, even more than most sixteen-year-old girls. I'm not so catty like most girls my age, and I never quite understood why they were. So you believe adulthood will be good for me, eh? How you think so?

[Tamikaze]

Adulthood will be better for you because it promotes individuality so much more than your teen years do. Anything you think people thought of you or did not think of you, that all flies out the door the farther you get from High School. It just doesn't matter. I had this girl who wanted to kick my butt in High School. She would say and do things to intimidate me. A few years later I ran into her and she was totally cool as if nothing had happened.

[Asker]

I get what you're saying, and it makes a lot of sense. I also get that people will be people, and some of them will never give things up, or really grow up as much as they should. Hey, this is kind of off-topic, but did you notice that the title of this question changed? I didn't change it. Are they allowed to change the title of other people's questions?

[Anonymous]

high school wasn't amazing for me either. I had fun here and there and enjoyed not having that many responsibilities at the time but it definitely wasn't great. I wasn't super popular and somewhat shy but I had my fair share of friends I guess.

the friends that truly care about you will still be your friends even after you've all graduated and gone your separate ways. yeah, there will probably be some who drift apart from you as they pursue new avenues in life and experience new things or even move away. some of my friends changed as time went on and the relationships faded but that's life.

it's also a chance for you to break away from all those people you knew before and if you feel like it, reinvent yourself. you may not be a person to actively look to make new friends but thankfully there are other people out there who will try to take the time and make friends with you

[Asker]

Thank you. I really agree with everything you said. I mean, yes, I'm still worried, but you gave me more to think about.

[Opinion Owner]

I'm enjoying life much more since high school myself. I'm not a social butterfly by any means and I also worried I'd end up being very lonely and sad most of the time after we all graduated but it really wasn't the case. somehow I've met new people even though I've lost old ''friends'' in the process =]

[Asker]

I'm very glad things worked out for you. (: I hope that I have some of the same luck, and I think I may. I tend to get along with people in their late teens and early twenties the best. My 'older' friends say that they don't even notice that I'm younger, and I like to think that maybe when the people my age grow up a bit more, they'll come to realize I'm not so bad. Or maybe not.

[Opinion Owner]

I never really was one to be able to relate to all the dramatic party nonstop people around me. you're obviously more matured and not into the drama/theatrics people tend to put on when they're in high school so yeah, I think you'll find yourself pretty happy once you've moved on from HS and meet new people who you can better relate to! :]

[Asker]

I can't say I'm a "partier", but if you only looked at the one aspect of my life that only a few people know, you would very much think that I am. I love to have fun. Real fun where nothing matters, even if it should, and there is nothing in the world that could bring you down. I can't say I know anyone who doesn't love to have fun but I can say I don't know many people who live quite like I do. A lot of the girls are catty and fake, and I feel like I should warn the ones that aren't so bad.

[wanacot]

College/University is more fun than high school.

[Asker]

Thank you for answering. Well, I'm smarter than the other kids my age, so they let me take college classes and the kids that went to the university didn't know that I was much younger than them. So I do know and agree that college is more fun. However, I don't believe I'll being going to a college, realistically. I'm most likely going to be a hairdresser, and it doesn't require a college-level education. I don't see how spending unnecessary money is good in any way.

[Asker]

Actually, I think that would be a good update. Thank you for making me think of that.