Do people assume you're a virgin?

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*this will be full of Aishwarya Rai gifs*
I'm 21, a senior in college, I love dirty jokes, sarcasm, and yes, the s word, haha. I don't have a baby face either, but can't shake the virgin image. Everyone I meet things I'm 1) younger than I am and 2) a virgin.

All the guys I've ever dated have come into the relationship assuming I'm a virgin. For my age, ok, that isn't that weird, I guess. But when they find out I'm not they're SO surprised. It's odd because I don't think a lot of close friends or even people on GAG think I'm this angel.
One time a guy was SO convinced, he was disappointed I wasn't. He never asked! And I never lied and told him I was. Nevertheless, he was expecting a virgin. (guess what, he wasn't one!)
This was me...

This was him...

Honestly, looking back on what my current boyfriend thought about me to who I actually am... t's pretty hilarious. Shattering people's early perception of you is pretty hilarious.
Him "I thought you were a sweet and shy and didn't date a lot... and yea, a virgin too"
Me "... oh really..."

Do people assume you're a virgin?

Also, you can be sweet, and shy and not date a lot and totally not be a virgin. :)

ElissaDido · Accepted Answer

Last month I went to my gynecologists and she didn't believe me when I told her I was virgin.
She couldn't inspect down because I'm not sexually active so she had to take my word for it but she was like "Are you sure, I find it hard to believe that a young pretty lady like you is still virgin" lol xD "Don't worry you can tell me, it's very important so we can start the pill I don't want you to get pregnant unexpectedly" or "Well, you know we can start the pill, I doubt a girl like you would be virgin for along time", "Be careful of Young boys, they can easily hurt girls like you" bla bla bla lol.
I had to repeat that it's impossible for me to willingly lose it anytime soon lol.
Other than that, when people know/find out I'm Middle Eastern and unmarried they assume I'm virgin de facto.
But otherwise here in France they are neutral I guess. I'm naturally very shy around men so my friends wouldn't believe me if I told them I lost my virginity yesterday (for example) lol because I can barely look in the eyes of a man I like without shaking or turning red and never even kissed let alone lose it this fast >< #Embarrassing
Back in the Middle East they also assume I'm virgin since most unmarried young girls are virgins in general.

19magic · Accepted Answer

People were shocked to find that I was one and now I'm not everyone assumes I'm a complete slut. One thing that's true though is everyone believes I'm way older than I am, like I'm 22/23 and are really shocked when I say I'm 19. I think it's for the personality I project and have, I'm extremely calm and think things through.

I donno if this is "allowed" in those ridiculous hookup/relationship rules but I'm very open and in the middle of it I said to him this was the second time I've ever had sex, I don't think I've ever seen someone more shocked.

Rainie_ · Accepted Answer

Nobody EVER assumes Im a virgin... (apart from my parents LOLOLOL)
I don't know I think its my voice, its too sexual, people think Im trying to seduce everybody, and therefore I must be having lots of sex or something, man I don't fucking know. I hate it.
But they're not wrong though per se, Im not a virgin. 😂

Luv2BRealExotic13 · Accepted Answer

Actually no most people assume I'm not a virgin and that I'm bisexual. But I'm all nah ah ah I am in fact a virgin and not bi either. Only a few guys have been right though. I guess I don't look as innocent as I thought. Perhaps it's my crude and sometimes lude humor.

async · Accepted Answer

Nah but people thought i was gay. I was always like, how does suckin a few dicks make me gay, its not like im takin in the butt or something. Just sniffin a few pickles casually. But id tell em, im straight as an arrow and love pussy. Nothin gay about suckin dicks, no sir. Not gay at all. By the way want me to smoke your pole? No homo of course.

Phoenix98 · Accepted Answer

Quite the opposite actually people in real life think think one of the following things.

I'm married

I'm a ladies man who goes home with a different girl every night hah.

That I'm either dating or sleeping with their friend or friends, friend or both.

Basically everything but a virgin.

Weirdlybeauty · Answer

This is me lol. People assume all the time because I am so nice and quiet, and everyone calls me adorable but they don't know.

OrdinaryGentleman · Answer

Im a closeted slut.

TuMeManques · Answer

No the two kids following me around saying "mom mom mom mom mooooooooom" pretty much destroys any illusion of that for me.

alice55 · Answer

Since I look younger than my age and get embarrassed when someone bring up sex or anything people always assume I'm a virgin but I really am virgin so XD

menina · Answer

To be honest, I don't know. That's not something people ask me often. On the other hand, they get surprised when I tell them I don't have a boyfriend. They don't believe me.

blutwolfe · Answer

yeah everyone thinks im some big shot slaying different girls every day of the week meanwhile can't even get a girlfriend

Toriiiii · Answer

My parents assume I'm a virgin, my boyfriend knows I'm not, and what other people think about my sexual agenda I shan't concern myself with😊

Anonymous · Answer

They assume i am too!! I didn't think it was that obvious. I mean i am shy, nice (most of the time) but like you I like dirty jokes.
I guess my awkwardness gives it away and I do have a baby face as well as speak in a soft tone. Sex jokes don't make me feel uncomfortable unless it's hella detailed and or beyond the basic p to v stuff.

I would hate a guy to target me as a virgin though like if the guy is disappointed that's a red flag!

Embercelica · Answer

People probably assume so because they want me to be one and are hoping that i am.

Izzex3 · Answer

The opposite. People assume I've had sex a lot when I'm actually a virgin, lol.

JohnDoe3000 · Answer

No, they don't. But back when I was a virgin one girl was genuinely very surprised when I told her, I still think that's one of the best compliments I've ever received.

sovetskii13 · Answer

I have no idea. I don't really talk to others.  Would be nice to find out. Based on my age (26), I expect them to think that I'm not a virgin. But I am 😞

KevinSmiley13 · Answer

The opposite actually, and that just irks me even more.

archiz · Answer

fuck it I look innocent af and people go around saying aww you re so sweet and innocent and I am a virgin as well eghhh pisses me off, I ain t no doll or lolita

Puppylove94 · Answer

No lol it's a bit abnormal to be a virgin at my age where I live.

Anonymous · Answer

when I was younger I think a lot would of assumed this was the case , hadn't had much luck with dating back then

dipta · Answer

I think the opposite for me, even when I was quite young. Especially guys, always assuming I had lots of boyfriends. Hmm.

ASEXY · Answer

I'm a virgin and a lot of people assume I'm not a virgin just because I'm so handsome. Most people have no clue that I'm asexual and have zero interest in sex.

AleDeEurope · Answer

Not anymore, but when I was in HS (16-17), some people did, I guess it makes sense since I was usually going my own way.

ManOnFire · Answer

I have rarely had that happen. When I was younger and kind of goofy, I could tell chicks thought I must be a virgin, yeah.

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