"The way someone dresses is how they want to be treated", true or false?

[PrincessBunBuns]

For females with short dresses, with guys with feminine outfits or a caked up dress, etc.

[tarrycat]

Well, the girl in the picture above (Danielle Robertson) is a very decent girl; so I would have to disagree in her case. She's an athlete.

It depends on the intentions of the individual prior to wearing a specific outfit. Some people will feel insecure, & seek attention; others will dress to gain respect; some will dress to avoid mediocrity.

The latter is me; I was born a rebel & I don't conform to the rules of society.

It depends on what you value in life, how you were raised, & it sometimes is a direct reflection of how you see yourself or how you feel at that very moment.

Women, in my opinion, seek the most attention & validation, because they are emotional thinkers. Men think on a very basic & logical level; except probably when they have to dress for a specific occasion.

It's a very subjective topic.

I think when we go out, we're all prone to pay more attention to the way we dress, & our appearance overall; as we're going out to meet new people.

Valuing your appearance means that you value yourself.

However, considering girls who show a lot of cleavage & who wear skimpy clothes every other day; reflects that they need attention & validation from men in order to feel significant - it's a deep-seated insecurity; & it's visible to most people who observe these kinds of women. It may reflect a lack of self-respect, which is why men wouldn't think twice of putting these women in the "MRS. RIGHT NOW" category when on a date. Most decent men in this case, wouldn't see you as girlfriend material if you dress provocatively all of the time (bad idea on a first date). It's proven psychologically, as all men compartmentalize their thoughts through what they observe - it's in their biology.

[ebbyeb]

This is a really interesting question. I've come to the conclusion that it's true to an extent.. As it definitely doesn't apply 100% to everyone all the time.. But it does somewhat. For example, if a female were to dress somewhat more risqué.. She's to expect more attention than if she were to dress comfy and casually. As with a male.. If he's to dress formally etc. he's most likely going to be treated more politely than just your casual banter in your daily ongoings. But I've thought of this before.. Specifically tailored towards how a female may dress and be reacted towards. I've often thought about how I'd be treated if I was wearing something else as opposed to another outfit when something peculiar happens when I'm out an about.
Nice question! I hope this helps! :)

[snowshy]

In most cases, I think this is nonsense.

It doesn't matter what I'm wearing, I dress very modestly most of the time since I work in a conservative field teaching and it doesn't limit how many times I get catcalled or chatted up.

The earliest time I remember getting catcalled was at age 9 and I certainly wasn't asking for it wearing a conservative schoolgirl's uniform. Some people will treat people badly or objectified them regardless of the situation because it's what they want no matter who you are

[Sara413]

How someone dresses is a statement on who they are. It's a form of expression.

But no matter how someone chooses to express themselves through their clothing they deserve to be treated with dignity and respect. No outfit is an invitation for violence or harassment.

[freakyzeaky]

Maybe this is just me, but as a mature man, I don't dress how I want to be "treated", I dress functionally depending on situation. If I am exercising I wear fitness gear, if I am at work I dress business casual, if I am at a metal concert I wear jeans and a printed T (band or horror), if I am trying to be attractive at an event or at a bar I wear something classic (button down, indigo jeans, fashion sneakers or dress boots), if it is a formal event I wear a suit, tie, and a pair of black oxfords.

There is some truth that people treat you differently depending on how well put together you are or what your sense of style is. If you dress like you are going to a metal concert every where you go, chances are, only people who have the same mind set as you are going to understand and fully appreciate your style choice. If you don't give a crap about how you look, it will show. If you wear clothes too big or small, it will also show.

As for women, mature women do the same. However it is also true that at a night club or some other venue, if the woman is dressing extra sexily, like in a short cocktail dress with heels, chances are she is looking for validation and maybe even some guys to approach her. She is obviously trying to either boost her own confidence or trying to be attractive. If not, then she is going to be annoyed by all the unwanted attention. Same goes for an attractive guy who puts a lot of extra effort into his look to show off, he might get tons of female (and male) attention regardless if he is looking for it or not.

[srgant]

False they do not dress that way to get you to whistle

[ADFSDF1996]

I think the way a person dressed can say a lot about what kind of person they are.

[PoliceLivesMatter]

No, that's definitely not true. Though, there's this thing in criminology called "victim precipitation" which suggests that the victim of a violent crime acted in such a way to cause his or hers victimization. An example would be a woman wearing a very provocative dress at a club and then getting sexually assaulted. Clothing can indicate what you want or feel sometimes

[kidney]

That's crazy. Isn't that victim blaming?

[PoliceLivesMatter]

No, it's not. Here's another example, a man jogs at midnight in a known high crime area wearing expensive jewelry. You get it? That's the easiest and obvious example 😅. Victim blaming and victim precipitation are two different things. A lot of the times, a victim has been found to directly or actively caused their own victimization through their actions or inactions

[Makeuphoarder]

Makes sense. That's why I don't wear short tight revealing clothing.

[PoliceLivesMatter]

Yes. It's not blaming the victim, rather explaining why certain people are targets and the steps leading up and causing their victimization.

[Makeuphoarder]

They know what they are doing and they want the attention. Just like when they get implants and put them out for show but don't want to be victimized. So sad they need to do these things , to get attention.

[PoliceLivesMatter]

Yeah agreed

[hiotw]

You must not be doing very well in your criminology course as your first example is victim blaming.

[PoliceLivesMatter]

No, it's not... Look up "Victim precipitation"

[hiotw]

Okay so me going out to a club or ANYWHERE with a short skirt on means it's acceptable for someone to touch my body...

[PoliceLivesMatter]

I didn't say that...
Victim precipitation implies that many individuals have been found to precipice or cause their own victimization through their indirect or direct actions. Sometimes, certain situations that people put themselves in or certain people they hangout with, increase their own victimization.

[Djaaay]

This is a feminist theory implemented in the U. S. justice system. Where the lesser of two evils persistently argue the invalidity of the victim and the ignoring what constitutes the perpetrators charge. It's bias as a standard of prosecution , whereas the violation of guaranteed due process for the victim and the perpetrator as a whole. This impeeds upon constitutionally protected rights guaranteed by our constitutional amendments. Both are biased by the law at whole.

[madhatters4]

i think it is false in most cases

[LaikaFreefall]

No. False.
How someone dresses MAY be a reflection of who they are, how they identify with themselves or others, or even how they want other peope to see/identify them. But then again, it is just as likely that someone just throw on some clean shit they had lying around.

It does seem, however, extremely unlikely that people dress for the specific reason of "being treated a certain way" And frankly, that way of thinking sounds dangerous, opening up the gates to a whole world of victim blaming.

People dress for a purpose. This much is true. But the purpose may be as simple as "it was cold out, I put on more clothes" And it really never means you're supposed to treat them differently. That's silly.

I really hope you dont believe that ridiculous statement :/

[Sara413]

Well said :)

[CameronMusick]

Its true only to an extent. If someone dresses provocatively, they likely enjoy the feeling if being looked at in a desiring way, or they want a specific person they think they're going to see to look at them that way. Similarly, a girl who covers up most of her skin likely doesn't enjiynthe feeling if being looked at in a desiring way. However, that's not to daynthst women who dress provocatively are asking to be raped and it certainly doesn't mean that a man should disregard her plea for him to stop stating at her.

[CandaceG]

Thank you for this. So you wouldn't automatically classify someone as a hoe if she was wearing booty shorts and a Tahiti

[CameronMusick]

Correct

[oddwaffle]

Yes and no. They aren't intentionally asking for the treatment but the result is that people will perceive them differently. It's part of the law of unindented consequences.

A woman dresses provocatively wants to look sexy and feel sexy. The achieved the sexy look. However, this also leads to some men to perceive them as potential rape target. All it takes is a fool trying it.

Somebody needs to collect some data. Just need to answer if rape victims ever dress or act provocatively in front of the criminals. If you get a disproportionately high percentage compare to the control group then you probably have something there.

[RegularTK421]

Mostly true. While there are many different fashions and styles, how one dresses says a lot about them. You dont wear Hawaiian shirts at a funeral. You dont sag your pants and look gangster when going for a job interview. ( people in the south still sag, that shit died in the north years ago.) you don't dress like a hooker working the streets for her crack addiction and expect to be respected by men or women, or treated by wife material. You dont show up to work for construction wearing tennis shoes and shorts.

[RegularTK421]

Treated like wife material*

[Anonymous]

I think people get treated badly regardless of how they dress. It's a hindsight bias (I-knew-it-all-along bias) when we look at someone who was sexually assaulted and say the cause was mostly her appearance.
To answer your question, I think it depends how you look at it. Treated as in treated badly? (cat calls, groping, etc?) Then False. I don't think anyone wants to dress up to get harassed.
Treated as in wanting to feel noticed/attractive? True because we all want to look good. Some like to dress provocatively and that's their every right. Others just need to behave. Look but don't grope. Don't stare either because that's creepy and uncomfortable.

[chrissykerdock]

Nobody ever has the right to rape or abuse someone based on their clothes they wear... i know a lot of girls were probably thrown out of and laughed out of a police station because she was wearing a mini dress when she was raped but men don't understand they never have the right to rape women and i don't think enough people understand that and it seems 1/2 of women agree if a girl wears sexy clothes she deserves to be raped but your all so far off.

[angelica453]

Then stop lookin like a trashy looking hooker

[angelica453]

You should be the last talkin do u not see yourself lmfao

[Sara413]

@angelica453 when I was raped I wasn't dressed trashy. Go fist yourself you judgmental c*nt.

[chrissykerdock]

@angelica453 i'll say it again a man never has a right to rape a woman no matter what a woman wears or doesn't wear... i could curse you out call you every name in the book accuse you of anything i want but you'll always be an a**hole

[ChantelleSora]

This is so typical. Haha men set the standards for how women should feel, act and even fucking dress? Nah fuck off losers. Like you'll wife a woman in a nun outift out at the club either. Fucking hypos. ain't nobody wanna be your wife, niggas. Show a little human courtesy from one human to another and teach ya homebois not to be trash. Thats it. And do us all a favour and keep your standards to strictly on your own dicks. Don't know how many gay rapists can see you erect from those tight ass skinnies. Cause god forbid a fiver year old walked around HALF-naked and a pedophile thought it was "easier". HAHAHA BECAUSE "WHAT SELF-RESPECTING CHILD WOULD WALK AROUND WITH BARELY ANY CLOTHES ON AND WANTED TO BE TREATED WITH RESPECT." So at the end of the day, without my SAY, no one is fucking allowed to touch me. And if you feel the need to treat me any less than human, than bitch, no one wants you around anyway. Huhu bubye. xx

[Astoriana]

That's the stupidest thing I have ever heard.

If you wore a t-shirt that said "murder me" and someone did, they would still be charged with murder. I believe a judge said this during a trial, or perhaps in reference to a rape trial. It is unreasonable to expect that how someone dresses is how they want to be treated.

[angelica453]

Thats like saying a ( fake ) skater girl wearing short shorts that almost show her ass when she know damn well she just want some dick

[Astoriana]

@angelica453 stupid is as stupid does. Thanks for the demonstration.

[Nahliability]

False. No one wants to ne treated badly. Even if they dress in a provocative way.
I like wearing pretty dresses and skirts but not because I like being harrassed but because I like being pretty and I want other people to see that invest energy and time in my appearance. That won't happen if I go outside wearing jeans and hoodies.

[Dtegesd123]

I guess. I mean why else do girls wear crop tops and short shorts in -10 weather. I know they want to look sexy and be thought of as sexy. But doesn't mean they want to be treated as meat. \

I also noticed in beach volleyball, the girls with better games wear less clothes and the average girl will wear shorts instead of a sport bikini.

[Thecureandthecause]

I don't dress how want to be treated I dress in what I feel reflects my personality. I wear tight and revealing clothing because I love myself and my body and love to show it off. That doesn't mean I want to be treated like thats all there Is to me. I have brilliant body and brains, one does not rule out the other.

[Drake]

Mah thats sometimes people are ignorant and are blinded by certain standards and rules
People dress themselves the way they do to feel good and express themselves

people who treat others different cause of their clothes are insecure and close minded

[levantine99]

yeah also a misconception is that dressing is all about you. society highlights everything is about yourself and don't give an ef about others. true humans take into consideration others as well. you should respect and make others happy as well with your dressing. you can be modest and dress nicely as well. and that way you respect both yourself, and others and their aesthetics.

[Máiiréad]

I think that everyone wants to be treated with human decency/respect (at least I hope they do). But, I've often noticed that people will treat those who dress nice/professionally better than those who dress more casually.

[Anonymous]

In a sense yes. If I wear a short dress I know I will get more looks than if I wore a pair of dress slacks. I know that if I wear a tight or low cut shirt it will draw more attention tomy boobs than an oversized t shirt. This is fact. However, that doesn't mean that I wanted to be raped assaulted treated badly or anything else. Just over the years, I've realized you should look presentable if you want to be taken serious

[Anonymous]

No
How someone dress' is how they express themselves , and can also be because of who you're friends with
My friends dress like hoes and so do i
But i dont take any disrespect
But you should dress how you want to be treated - because people *will* treat you according to the way you dress

[angelica453]

So ya some skanky hoes period can't complain about the insults.

[Dolynne]

Unless it's very obvious I don't find it true, but at the same time people have different views of what's obvious or not. It really depends on person, but people should limit it, not because of what's right, but come to a certain agreement so there won't get any conflicts and have order.