Some guys would be up for this but most are not. I am surprised none of the guys on this site that are always complaining about women not asking them out for dates responded to this lol. They are not the norm.
Once you are in a relationship, your boyfriend will appreciate that he is not the only one planning everything but before then, I would avoid it. Not that it cannot be done but if you don't handle it correctly, it can come off as you are pushy, or controlling or indicate to him that you are not satisfied with his pace or his date plans. It is not just about them wanting to pursue you, it is also about them setting a pace that works for them and most guys tend to go at a slower pace and need that, than girls do.
I think at the point you are at with a guy it's fine to initiate things because he's already pursued enough to get to know you. We don't care to ALWAYS be the pursuer, especially after we've already got to know a girl. It would actually be very refreshing to have a girl call or text out of nowhere and ask to hang out and do something.
Just switch off every once in a while, no need to ask if it's OK. Let him arrange dates and do some courting to you, then arrange dates yourself and give him a break. Go somewhere you want to go, or arrange them if you just like doing it.
I'm not sure how long until I would be OK with her making plans. It depends on how fast I get to know her really well. I'm afraid that if I let her plan things then I won't like it and I wouldn't be able to tell her I don't like them. I want her to notice the plans I make. Then she could plan things that she likes and tries to involve some things I like. I would like her to plan things when I'm stressed out. I don't want her planning things when my favorite shows are on or when my favorite team is facing their biggest rival.
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Well, I don't mind if the girl wants to do something and tells me. That's not taking charge, that's her telling me she wants to hang out lol and it's nice because it means I was on her mind, I occurred to her.
As for taking charge, nah, I don't like it when women take charge. Rather, I like it when women assert themselves and go for what they want. I don't need anyone leading me though, and I'm not a follower.
If I was in control 24/7, a relationship would be so boring. Please, suggest things, initiate plans, everything! Especially as a relationship matures, it's hard not to have input from both sides, and the whole macho dating facade falls away.
I like the idea of girls and guys taking equal parts in initiating things - it helps to make it clear that the girl actually likes the guy and isn't just seeing him for the free meals.
It's also a great ego boost ;D
It's different for every guy. Some are controlling and like to do things their way.
But personally, I would love for a girl to initiate plans once in a while. It takes a lot of pressure off me to find fun things to do all the time.
yes, it's fine to initiate. But that doesn't mean the guy will want to go out with you. It's just like when guys ask out girls, some will agree to a date and some won't.
How do you pursue in a relationship?
There is nothing wrong with helping to make the relationship more enjoyable.
I like it. I hate having to choose what to do, where to go all the damned time.
Yes :)
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