What I’ve generally noticed is that fat women are viewed as just “thicc” and are encouraged by society to be comfortable in their own skin. I would go so far as to say women are glorified for being fat because it’s said that they’re “sexy” and “plump” and “have something to grab onto.” Meanwhile, men who are overweight are told they’re unattractive, disgusting, gross, etc., and “need to lose some weight.” Why is this? What is it that gives an overweight/chubby woman an air of desirability and at the same time associates overweight/chubby men with utter repulsion?
The double standard concerning weight: What gives?
Exactly. I fucking hate this glorification of fat. It’s unhealthy, and it’s undesirable to most of the population. You’re fat, fine. But don’t spam my feed with how sexy you are and how you can’t believe men prefer leaner women. Notice how I said lean— you don’t have to be a size 2. Skinny isn’t attractive, HEALTHY is, and skinny and healthy just normally go hand in hand. I’m sick of seeing overweight women press men to find them hot. You want people to find your body hot? Great. Ditch the twinkies, or shut up. I’m sick of fat glorification, fat shaming, skinny shaming, yada. It’s perfectly fine to be comfortable in your body and love yourself- but it’s a dick move to expect everyone else to. I’ve had fat women flat out say that “men would prefer me because I’ve got curves”. Literally, on this site. And this was not a plus size but fit woman, because that’s attractive too. It was, judging by her profile picture, a woman bordering on obesity. And you made a good point, where’s the fat glorification for men? There is none, because it’s a sexist double standard. Moral of the story. Fat isn’t sexy, and stop expecting the world to find it so.
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all about what is desired by the opposite sex (or i guess same sex in homosexual interactions)
i mean your photos aren't close to fair for the point you are making but i see your point. although at the same time i think we've seen plenty of overweight guys with slender attractive women throughout time
I can definitely see your point of view, and I do agree that it is unfair to a certain point. As someone who is fat, not obese, but fat, I can tell you I’ve had more than my fair share of bullying and unwarranted mean comments about my weight (including comments made by a teacher). I have not personally experienced fat being glorified. The only times I have been asked out have been because of dares (mainly from my bullies). It has stopped, but when I was younger, it was such a horrible blow to my self-esteem that I would physically get sick and develop migraines at the thought of even going to school, and I still get migraines every so often. It was really hard for me for a few years, but with society’s new ‘fat acceptance’ I am comfortable in my own skin. I don’t feel worthless or unworthy of having someone to love and care for me. Another thing I’d like to add, people can’t always control whether they're fat or not. Hormones and genetics play into it as well. Personally, I work out every day, and I’ve done countless diets, haven’t lost a single pound. It’s not fair just to look at anyone and say, oh, they’re fat so they’re lazy and they eat too much. Everyone’s situation isn’t different, and I don’t think it hurts anyone to say that no matter what you look like, or how much you weigh, it’s okay to be comfortable in your own body. Sorry for the rambling post, kinda got sidetracked.
To me there is the glaring issue regarding 'fat' is basically, what is regarded as fat? Fat could range from slightly overweight to being a human version of a humpback whale.
For me there is a distinct difference between thicc, fat and morbidly obese, even though all could technically be qualified as fat.
Same with men, chubby is very different from fat to me.
That is just my two cents two.
I would assume there may be a certain double standard because women are told to not feel bad because of how they look to a far greater extent than men.
It reminds me of some music. There always is a lot of tracks comforting women and such, but I barely hear any that do the same for men.
It seems to me that all this (regarding looks) and the double standard is because women are considered more 'fragile' or more concerned about their appearance, whereas one might argue that men are expected to just suck it up.
Yes there are double standard between men and women And it's about how you identify Fat. For me, fat women who have big belly, and she doesn't have waist. So if she is flat belly and small waist and she have big boobs, big butt thick thighs, I consider her as curvy women. So fat is belly. For me as a guy, I like more curvy women, they are really sexy. You can see in fashions show, they bring skinny girls, to bring the attention for what they are wearing as fashion only. But in Porn. They bring thick and curvy women, because they know that is what men like and they found it sexy, even if men sometime deny this fact.
I never say all. But it's majority of Men And it's not my opinion or my research. It's big organizations research, fashions and porn organisations. And I mentioned a prove of what I said. Why fashion show bring skinny girls and why porn bring curvy girls. They decide that after long studies and research on men.
Because men are supposed to be muscular due to our innate dna structure. Though looking like a professional athlete is not something achieved easily and it's not supposed to be. Women are supposed to be bigger. Skinny women have a more difficult time conceiving, taking on weight gained by pregnancy, taking pain and absorbing nutrition into the body.
Women are not supposed to be twigs, and they don't need to eat as much as me because it's easier for them to gain weight. There is reason for that.
Nor does it for a man. By it's standards I should be ones even though I'm nothing but muscle. I have slight belly fat but it is firm and tight, not loose.
I’ve always thought anything under a size 12 is healthy, as long as they’re lean. It’s not really the size that matters but the health- are they in good shape? Do they carry excess pounds?
The woman you have illustrated isn't so... morbidly obese... the male you have illustrated, however, is. If it were reveresed, and it was the male with the slight chub and the woman being morbidly obese. I would think the same. Over sized morbidly obese people should not be glorified. Along with obese people. Its gross and its not cute. It is so unhealthy and it seriously damages your body. A little of chub however isn't too bad. Some women like the "teddy bear" kinda guy and "thicc womens" if your a guy. I dunno. Just my 2 pennies.
Those are some of the first images that come up when you search “fat woman” and “fat man.” I’m just trying to represent how skewed the general perception of a fat person is depending on if they’re male or female.
Some people are just born heavier. They can be just as active. Is belly fat a sign of less activity? Possibly. But not all people who are fat are lazy so society is recognizing that. Most people offering their opinions on here seem to be quite young, wait and go to your 10, 15, or 20 reunion and see who makes the cut still. There are medical reasons some gain weight. Genetics, steroids, high activity then lower activity due to age or school or work schedules. Thyroid issues. Many reasons. And this goes for al those people that appear underweight and get just as much grief as heavy people.
I personally think that thicc women beautiful and thick men are handsome. Oh yeah and skinny men and women are beautiful. everyone is beautiful in there own way. People are attracted to different body types. I'm a thicc girl as I've been told. I have boobs and a ass that are bigger than some. It offends me how people body shame. Just because we don't want to look like other people and make their choices doesn't mean were wrong. (Personal opinion)
What offends me is that white girls like you use the word thick and even spell it thicc when they have no damn idea where the word came from. Stop appropriating from other cultures to make yourself feel better.
I’m not using the word thick, I’m quoting other people. That’s why there’s quotations. I don’t call chubby women “thicc,” but several members of our society do.
Because that women in the right is thick and that guy in the right is fat, I search and there were move fatter women, the comparison is just unfair But I really get your point, equality is not only about women as some feminists present it, because they are so defensive and aggressive that they forget about guys and double standards will always exist because men are more thirsty for women (in general) so they are not that picky
In some Asian cultures fatness is associated with success, but yeah the typical stigma towards large men from the rest of the world is pretty universal, I think it comes down to a few reasons, one reason could be how the male body proportions out fat which looks a bit less proportioned for men, second is that mentally the reason why men typically prefer "thiccer" women is due to our brain registering them as someone more capable of sustaining a healthy childbirth, and the third reason I thought up is that both men and women in society look down on and find larger men unattractive where for the societal opinion on larger girls is far more split up
Yes there are double standards.. However, the fat on a woman it needs to be so that her booty is fat and boobs but her waist should still be slimmer and she should still be curvy. A fat woman who is actually fat all over will be called ugly and that's a fact. I agree with men this is different and they always get told to lose weight but there are women who like larger men jsss
Being overweight isn't good, period. "Thick" has always been code speak for "fat AF". And what men mean when they say "curvy" is not even remotely close to what women mean. When women say they are "curvy", they mean "fat AF", while men mean skinny with big butt and boobs.
Yea I hate this, being over weight (95% of the time) is a reflection of an unhealthy mind... evolutionarily speaking "unhealthy" is not sexy... can't stand when I see these big broads floppin' down the sidewalk all rolly polly like (pig squeal voice) "fuck you I look gooood"... because some desperate dude with low standards tell them they're beautiful 😩... lol... proper hwp (height weight proportions) will always prove the most sexy
I totally disagree. I think there is this self-esteem push within the overweight female population. But most of us think to ourselves its unhealthy and preventable. But you also dont want to be rude and call it like it is.
They maybe be proud now. But when your back is f'ed up, your quality of life deteriorates and you have diabetes or heart issues. You might not be so proud.
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Women have been fed a load of shit to protect their fragile egos, while nobody gives a damn about men.
Fat women aren't thick, curvy, sexy, perfect just the way they are, or any of that fake empowerment garbage. If you have fat rolls, fix it, and that goes for both genders.
This is the way society is; men are disposable while women are valued. Look at the amount of shelters for women compared to men. Look at the suicide rates of men compared to women. No one cares about men.
The fat acceptance movement seems to be more geared toward women. In a way it kind of makes sense as being fat is often described as being the worst thing a woman can be; men tend to be a little more judgmental when it comes to their partner being fat.
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Because fat women are much more vehement about "body positivity" and pushing their image on everyone else, while fat men are generally ashamed by their state of health, which is the proper way to feel about it honestly
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