Do you seriously believe that not being attracted people of certain races makes you a racist?

[menina]

I used to believe in that but I know I think it's a matter of preference. Not everyone likes the same features and as long as you don't hate people based on their race or ethnicity you're not a racist.

I was having an argument with my sister and I said that I'm not attracted to men of a certain race (which I'm not going to say what is it) and she said that qualifies as racism to her. I honestly think she's exaggerating.

Thoughts?

[ohshee]

If you are ignorant you are a racist that's the bottom line the biggest the greatest evil in this world right now people who are ignorant if you do not put white and black in the same sentence and talk about somebody that is not a racist that is somebody giving their opinion but once you add the color white and black into your sentence then you're going to give people that option to judge and the ignorant I am white I could care if I can't unless I can't see myself unless I look in the mirror around walking down the street I could be any color is anybody else and that's the way I treat people I don't look at color you are a person we are going to communicate I don't see color I hear words every single summer I stay out the Sun a little bit too long sometimes but I also love a good tan every different type of brown that goes to Black I like all of them because when I do look at myself and I have a 10 I feel healthy and I look good. And refreshed I can show you pictures of me where I'm really white or I can show you a picture of me where I'm really dark and people think I'm black I've had a girl say can I see a couple pictures of you two seconds later after showing her the pictures she said nice try she was there not even the same people one that is black and one guy's right she is ignorant she is stupid LOL I said we'll pick one which one do you like the best she told me to fuck off I'm not talking to person tries to pretend that they are either black or white I apologize instead I neither I'm me our God having common sense when he made us he made us with 97% of the same DNA and the other part of the DNA he made our bodies able to adapt is the weather that we are in. Because no matter where we are going to go on this planet there are extreme harsh hard conditions and our loving God with common sense gave us the ability to adapt

[Lliam]

Racism can be defined as "Prejudice, discrimination, or antagonism directed against someone of a different race based on the belief that one's own race is superior" or another race is inferior. It is prejudice, discrimination, or antagonism toward an entire race and all people of that race.

Sexual preference/attraction is completely different. Everyone has preferences, even toward people of their own race. Some people prefer short/tall, thin/thicc, certain eye color, hair, facial features, skin tone. It's all perfectly normal and not based on any kind of hatred toward others.

Africa is a huge continent with a wide variety of phenotypes. Asian phenotypes vary considerably, too. And look at the huge variety of people who fall into the "white" or European category. Just because you prefer Mediterranean over Scandinavian types doesn't make you racist.

[menina]

What happens if someone is mostly attracted to people of other race?

[Lliam]

Whatever. It's still just a matter of physical preferences. Nothing to be ashamed of. It has nothing to do with actual racism.
I'll confess a particular weakness for short, slenderish girls with nice figures, light colored hair, blue or green eyes, and pale, glabrous skin. Does that make me racist toward all other girls or people in general? Hell no. Because I'm not racist at all.

And what about white guys who think Asian girls are particularly attractive. Are those guys racist toward whites?

All these claims of racism now days have become absurd.

[snowboarder720]

What you mentioned is someone’s ethnicity. There isn’t an ‘Asian phenotype’.

[Lliam]

@snowboarder720. I disagree. If one subscribes to the idea of race, then Asian, African and Caucasian are races. Although there are many phenotypes within those general races.
What I meant by Asian was mainly type of hair and shape of eyes that sets people like Chinese, Japanese and southeast Asians apart.

[snowboarder720]

African isn’t a race though. A person can have any skin color and be from the country of Africa.

[Lliam]

@snowboarder720. Whatever. Then you don't think there is a such thing as race. That's cool.

[menina]

@Lliam No, I don't think they're racist.

[DiegoO]

In our species there are no races. at least biologically speaking 🤷‍♂️

[Lliam]

@DiegoO. I agree. Race is an antiquated theory. Yet it's not unreasonable to classify people in broad terms based on features that are common to different parts of the world. That's what humans do. They notice and categorize things. And it's undeniable that there are certain traits that are common only to people from Africa and the Orient, for example.

[DiegoO]

I mean, there were necessary enviormental adaptations, but I don't consider one more attractive than the other. I honestly think there are people who are very attractive, regardless of their ethnicity 🤷‍♂️

[Lliam]

Thanks for the MHO, menina.

[menina]

You're welcome @Lliam.

[Cherry234]

I don't think you're racist. I, however, don't care about race. It's something that isn't important to me. Some people are always going to think it's a problem no matter how you feel about it. I have my own preferences too that some people are going to have a problem with. For example, I'm not interested in guys that are shorter than me.

I could date a guy close to my height or even the same height as me. But I don't like shorter than me. The majority of people will understand and won't say anything about it. The only people that will have a problem with it are the ones that are insecure and the ones that like to be politically correct. Just date whoever you like and feel comfortable with. That's more important than what people think.

[menina]

If I didn't have to pick the MHO yesterday, I would have given to you. You couldn't said it better!

I don't like guys who are shorter than me either.

[Cherry234]

Thank you. It sucks that you can only give 2 people MHO.

[menina]

You're welcome. Yes that's true and also that we only have 3 days to pick the MHO. There was a time we had 7 days and in the good days it was 2 weeks. We were also able to give 4 MHO's.

[KrisPW]

No way. Am I sexist because I'm straight and attracted to guys? What about a lesbian if she is only interested in girls? Ageist if I don't want to date a grandpa or let the local scout troop have it's way with me. So why would I be racist if I'm not attracted to some races?

The "isms" are about feeling / believing you are superior to or hateful toward others in different classes (race, age, sexual orientation, social standing, etc).

I don't hate lesbians because I want to be with men. I don't hate grandpas or cub scouts because I want a man near my age. I don't hate the homeless because I prefer to have sex in home. So why would anyone believe I hate some races because I'm attracted to others?

[menina]

"So why would anyone believe I hate some races because I'm attracted to others?" - Some people believe that you're racist because you're not attracted to a certain race. It makes no sense to me but some people think like that.

[OlderAndWiser]

he word "racism" is used WAY TOO FUCKING MUCH in the US. Attraction is a subconscious phenomenon and we have no conscius control over it, but racism implies a conscious attitude of arrogance, judgment, and condescension. If you aren't attracted to black people, or Asian people, or Hispanic people, or Native Americans. . . then that's just the way it is, can't change it, and it's not racism.

[menina]

Well I'm not in the US so I can't relate. I live in a place where people pretend that racism doesn't exist, which in my opinion is much worse.

[OlderAndWiser]

The grass is always greener. . .

[menina]

In this case it is. You wouldn't like to live in the shithole where I live.

[OlderAndWiser]

Where do you live?

[menina]

In Portugal.

[OlderAndWiser]

Is just your little corner of the country, or the entire country that you think is awful?

[menina]

It's not my little corner because I'm not Portuguese, so this is not my country. But to answer your question is the entire country that is s****y.

[OlderAndWiser]

What is your country and why are you in Portugal now?

[menina]

I'm from Angola and I'm in Portugal because my parents made the stupid decision of moving here when I was 3. I had some issues, so I'm still stuck in this place. But I'm already working on leaving the shithole.

[OlderAndWiser]

I'm sorry you are stuck in a place where you feel so awful!

[menina]

Thank you, I'll leave this place. I have to.

[WhiteBoyChill]

@menina I think the women in Portugal are beautiful tho. So would an American white guy do alright?

[menina]

@WhiteBoyChill He would, but they would be after his money. You shouldn't expect them to like you for who you are.

[WhiteBoyChill]

Oh. So the women in Portugal don’t have much money?

[Jesuswasahue]

As always. Older does not mean "wiser" aren't you against same sex marriage?

[OlderAndWiser]

@Jesuswasahue You feel at liberty to insult anyone who does not agree with you because those are the acceoted tactics of the left. You have been instilled with arrogance and taught to believe that if you THINK your cause is just, you may use any means necessary to accomplish your goal. . . because YOU are the anointed one sent to save the planet from conservatives.

I don't feel like listening to any of your leftist rantings tonight. Go somewhere else and hate Trump.

[WhiteBoyChill]

@OlderAndWiser His username says a lot about him.

[OlderAndWiser]

@WhiteBoyChill Indeed!

[menina]

@WhiteBoyChill No they don't.

[RedThread]

I think it's more complex than people make it out to be. I think we all have subconscious biases and prejudices that influence our decisions whether we are aware of them or not. I definitely had more discriminating tastes when I was younger but as I grew up and exposed myself to more groups of people that started to change. I think our preferences aren't unchanging rules but instead something that can change based on our ideals and environments. I think a lot of people dislike venturing outside our comfort zones which keeps our desires and attractions within a certain box that we're comfortable with and have no desire to change and there's nothing wrong with that in and of itself.

I don't like to limit myself so I've grown to appreciate the whole color palette of humanity. I try to do the same things in all aspects of my life. Even if I feel like I hate a genre of music or film I try to examine why I feel that way. What has influenced me to feel that way? Why? I wasn't born with these opinions so something had to impact my preferences on such things. Can I even claim that they're my preferences if it's something that was influenced by my peers and my environment? How much agency do we have over how we feel the way we do? I think if we're self-critical and introspective enough, we can really shape who we are on a deeper level than if we just accepted things as they are about ourselves.

If I go any further into this topic I'll probably end up in the realm of philosophy and the sense of self or the nature of free will which goes beyond the realm of this question.

[menina]

This is an amazing answer! Thank you for sharing your opinion. :)
I really need to think about everything you said.

[RedThread]

Thank you!

[menina]

You're welcome!

[SecularNationalist]

Not race but there are several ethnic groups that I will never date.
It has nothing to do with apparance nor look of them I bet there are very good looking people among them aswell that I can easily get attracted. I just dont like their politics towards my country so I dont think I am racist.

[menina]

I get you and I don't think you're racist.

[Kaneki05]

"I am not attracted to that woman" another person "Why is that?" the reply comes back "Because there black."

If that's not racism I don't know what is, it is quite literally based on their race nothing else.
Not that anyone can you force you to date someone black. But honestly a person who said this to me I would knock them out which tbh wasn't my answer some time ago but I just realised it's people trying to normalise racism through preferences.

[menina]

""I am not attracted to that woman" another person "Why is that?" the reply comes back "Because there black." - I had someone telling me that before. I was naïve back then.

[Kaneki05]

There is some "harmless" racism within just not been attracted, but a lot of it just be more justification to be racist and someone who openly expresses it in such way is no doubt racist in my mind. And even while some is "harmless" racism it is still just based on race. Therefore it's a judgement made on that. They could be a perfect person but just cause there race is different now there not.

I just hope one day that thought in any sense is removed. Sadly it won't be and still form in someway but it's a hope. While there is nothing major wrong about been less attracted to one race it's more the way it's expressed that makes it major wrong. And the minor racism that still lingers I would say that's more to do with society on a whole than personal self.

But honestly I don't know. There is much that can be said either way all I know is if someone expressed it that way and said such things yeah no, not cool with that.

[menina]

I know what you mean. Racism is one of those things that will never end.

[taylorallen]

Most definitely NOT. Having a preference doesn't mean you're racist. People don't like interracial couples majority of the time. And if you happen to like a race more than another race, they want to say you're fetishizing. I have a strong preference towards Asians. However, I am not Asian. That doesn't make me racist, I just really like their culture, appearance, and not to be stereotypical but most Asians are more polite and respectful. Because of how they're taught.

[menina]

I know what you mean but some people do have a fetish for other races. They don't like the person.

[Still-alive]

Huh thought I answered this already. Odd.

oh well my answer was that no its not racist i just consider this like not being attracted to other physical attributes. For instance im not all that attracted to blond hair blue eyed types usually but no one really bats an eyelash over that… maybe white supremacist might lol.

but yeah you can't help what you’re attracted to or not and you shouldn’t force it either otherwise itll just end in pain usually

[menina]

I guess this question was asked a few times, you probably answered the others.

I absolutely agree with you. There was a time I wanted to force myself but I realized that wouldn't be good.

[Seangreen]

I don't think it's racist because you are sexual selection doesn't like certain things I'd like to go into this topic really in-depth but I'm not going to because I'll be called a racist you like what you like and don't let anyone give you shit because you don't like them or their culture or whatever

[menina]

You're absolutely right!

[PinkMichae]

Real racism is motivated by hate, not preference. But calling people racist is the trendy thing to do lately. It's a real shame because it down plays what people have gone through who have experienced real racism.

[menina]

I absolutely agree with you.

[Aerissa_Jade]

I do not believe that is racist, racism is where you do something to make it harder for others of a specific race.

Not dating someone doesn't make their life any harder, as everyone discriminates in dating. Based on many things beyond race as everyone has preferences to who they want to date and be with.

[DiegoO]

What you describe is sexual racism. There is no other reason to reject someone because of their ethnic origin or race.

It have been proven to be part of what's called: institutionalized racism.

Why is not widely accepted and understood? Easy: because it is not widely known and studied by the common citizen. It became more visible with dating apps.

📌Link to an article related to the subject⤵️

https://www.spsp.org/news-center/blog/thai-barlow-racial-preferences-online-dating

[DiegoO]

Here is another one⤵️

books.google.es/.../&ots=rmzz2vwK74&sig=V4l-wQ6cPaC4PxX8OQOHzhQnLgo

[menina]

How can it be sexual if I'm not interested in having sex with them?

[DiegoO]

sexual racism implies: romantic relationships, not merely the desire of wanting sex.

[menina]

So am I supposed to be attracted to all men in the world?

[DiegoO]

😕 ? Why would you reduce your dating options, based on ethnicity?

If two guys of different ethnicities have almost the same personality trait you find appealing, would you just go straight to the guy who match your "sexual preference"?

Now let's put it this way: if a guy who is from an ethnicity you find attractive, doesn't have the personality trait you are looking for, but another (who is from an undesired ethnicity) have all the behavioral qualities you are seeking in a partner; would you pick the latter or dump the two just because of your sexual preference?

[menina]

It's not about reducing my options is just about knowing what I like and what I don't like. I'm sure that there are some physical traits in women that you don't like.

"If two guys of different ethnicities have almost the same personality trait you find appealing, would you just go straight to the guy who match your "sexual preference"?" - Yes of course

I would dump the two. Why would I stay with someone I'm not attracted to?

[DiegoO]

🤷‍♂️ I am not gonna argew your view. I just think is nonsense to choose a partner, based on ethnicity. We are all Homo Sapiens. The only thing that widely varies within the species, is skin color. Other phenotipic characteristic are enviormental adaptations.

[menina]

I don't want to argue with you either. Yes, we're all from the same species but we must admit that there are differences between us. Realizing that is not being racist, it's just being realistic.
I wouldn't be sad if someone wasn't attracted to me because I'm black. I do know that not everyone is attracted to black women.

[DiegoO]

What I meant to say is that I don't understand the idea of choosing a partner, considering "ethnicity" as a factor. For me, personally, is completely irrelevant.

[menina]

Good for you then. But I'm not attracted to a certain ethnicity.

[DiegoO]

Have you check the last link I send?

I can go on and on about the subject, but it would be better if you investigated the subject by your own.

[menina]

I haven't yet. I'll check it and then I'll let you what I think.

[menina]

*let you know

[DiegoO]

Ok👍

[DaveJord]

Nope I do not think it makes you racist... we are attracted to different types from hair color to what kind of under wear they wear to either they paint their toe nails.

So don't think your racsist over what you find appealing. But all the haters will be come out over this one.

[NathanDavis]

I don't think it's racist... I've never seen it as something racist, I don't believe it is racist... because is not racism, it's just a preference, that's all

[menina]

You're able to understand that.

[Razp_Sorbet]

No, but there's a difference between saying "I would never date A [insert race], I'm not attracted to them" and "I've never met someone of [insert race] I've found attractive." The latter shows you're open to the idea the first is very closed minded.

[menina]

In my case is the first thing you said.

[Jamie05rhs]

No, I don't. As I have been trying to explain to people for ages, wanting to put your dick in someone is not the same as wanting to treat them with respect and give them equal rights.

[menina]

You're wise :)

[Jamie05rhs]

Thanks, @menina!

[menina]

You're welcome! :)

[DizzyDesii]

I don't know if the term is racist but its ridiculous if you dont find a wholeass race attractive. Because then it does come to skintones rather than features in my opinion. Its worse if a person is not attracted to their own cause it comes across as self hatred. You can date whomever but to not at least find at least one person of a whole ethnic race attractive is weird in my opinion.

[menina]

I can find one person attractive but I'm not interested in dating them.

[DizzyDesii]

Thats fine. But some people will literally say all ___ people are ugly/unattractive. And thats when its obvious theyre judging based on skintone or culture rather than other qualities. You can find someone attractive and not want to date them. Its like admitting the same sex is attractive but not being gay. I can say Beyonce is attractive but not want to date her because I ain't gay. For example, i could say certain people of other races are attractive and not want to date them.

[menina]

I know what you mean but that's not how I think. And I agree with you, some people are going to say that.

[DizzyDesii]

Now on the other hand, I've dated practically every ethnicity but at the end of the day I prefer my own. I know what I want and would prefer to stick to that but sometimes i get sidetracked 🤣

[buttsniffer]

sum people have such small brains or incapable of thinking rationally, so no matter how much times u explain to ur sister that personal preference has nothing to do with racial hatred, they will jus never understand/.//

they jus dont have the brain capabilities to get what u r trying to say

[buttsniffer]

i give up on idiots like that

[buttsniffer]

also i give up trying to explain to idiots why abortion is not a crime and its fine, still they never understand

[StrawberryShake]

Not racist at all. Racism means you look down upon that race strictly bc of their race, or that you think you are superior. I definitely have my preferences too (Asian! 🤣) But I don't hate other races bc of it.

[menina]

Yup, I know you like Asian men 😂

[StrawberryShake]

😂😂

[WhiteBoyChill]

Asian men are generally smart so I’d say that’s understandable

[StrawberryShake]

@WhiteBoyChill your race has nothing to do with your level of intelligence.

[WhiteBoyChill]

Nah yeah but as a culture Asians put a very high value on education

[StrawberryShake]

@WhiteBoyChill that is true, but that's not really the reason why I'm so attracted to them.

[WhiteBoyChill]

Interesting. I am curious then. Is it the masculine Bruce Lee/Jackie Chan types you like? Or the femininesque K-Pop singers?

[WhiteBoyChill]

Some Asian men do look really masculine but women usually seem to fall for the feminine ones

[StrawberryShake]

@WhiteBoyChill neither. It's the middle-aged dorks. Like the actor Tzi Ma?

[WhiteBoyChill]

Ew. That guy just looks really old in his pictures

[StrawberryShake]

@WhiteBoyChill well, good thing I don't give a fuck

[StrawberryShake]

@WhiteBoyChill you tell me your curious and then try to insult me once I tell you? Nice

[Heartache0405]

No. It just means you have a preference/ type and there’s nothing racist about that. There are plenty of other people out there.

[hi8sm3]

See? He is telling the same🙂

[hi8sm3]

It is not wrong having a preference.

[menina]

@hi8sm3 Yes, he is. :)

[Grond21]

I agree with you. It's very common for people to only find a few races attractive. To think otherwise is to see racism where it is not.

[menina]

I absolutely agree with you.

[Grond21]

Really glad we're on the same page

[menina]

Me too.

[TrueCaliGirl07]

It doesn't make you racist as you said its a matter of your own preference.
I could care less of skin color if I'm attracted to a person then I would go for it.

[menina]

I wish it was that simple...