Why do incels become incels and what can be done to help them not be incels?

Anonymous
When western women think of incels I feel like what pops into their mind is a stereotypical obese unhygienic racist and misogynistic guy who doesn't take care of himself and rages at women for not sleeping with him, I feel that the average incel is just a young slim average looking white male who takes care of himself and dresses well who wants to have social interaction with women but for some reason that he is not aware of isn't and this problem isn't being addressed.

What doesn't help is demonizing white young slim men because of their virginity and lack of social skills that they desire but not given a chance. I'm primarily referring to western countries because that is where most incels are from and what doesn't help is the society trying male young slim white guys seem like unwarranted monsters and I find it disgusting.

What I would like to know is if you met a young slim white male who wants to be social amd isn't a stereotypical incel, what constructives would you offer to him to make him more charming and sociable to women? I want this to be a thread for offering advice from women only because I don't feel like a man has any awareness of this.
Why do incels become incels and what can be done to help them not be incels?
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