Why do single mothers get a bad rap or get dogged on frequently? Don't they have ENOUGH on their plate to deal with? ! ?

[TenderFantasy]

An ex-husband or ex-boyfriend, baby-daddy that won't even commit to them and, depending on who has custody, they have to pay the one who does, child support. ! Not to mention, they are TAINTED in the dating field as an easy lay when that could be farthest from the truth (their husband could have died and she could have been widowed. Though more rare it's still a possibility). I am NOT in this situation but there were times in my past I had a pregnancy "scare". Though, I would have welcomed a baby, my finances as a single person would have taken a nose dive. I would have definitely filled for child support (IF the baby's father wasn't a bum! But even still...). When I was younger, I DID judge them negatively, but now that I am older, I am thinking that at least they are lucky that they got to pass on their genetic line and experience being a mother.

[OfMiceandMen]

A lot of single mothers don't have the child by choice when they are young, and if the father is young too, he sometimes walks away, bc it would ruin his goals and hopes. I feel sorry for her, bc society feels when the father walks away it is the mother's responsibility to raise the child, even though he is just as responsible. Ya, so what, he may pay child support, whoop-di-doo, she stays up with kid when their sick, attends all the parent teacher meetings, raises them to be a good person, and has to deal with the child asking questions about their father being absent in the picture.

So here she is raising a child with little to no help (especially if he is a dead-beat dad) and yes she has to contend with other dead-beats trying to get some action bc they automatically think she must be sexually neglected/frustrated.

I think some young mothers actually think the opposite, bc they have been burnt in the past by a dead-beat already, so why chance it and labels all guys as dead-beats at that point. Can't hardly blame her.

It takes a special kind of guy with a lot of heart to be with a girl that already has a child as there is undoubtedly drama between the mom and the father.

It is unfortunate, there isn't some kind of website that publicly displays these dead-beats who walk away bc it isn't convenient and/or they want to use the money they make for something else. Women could go on the website and see if the guy they are currently dating has a child that they have walked away from. It would identify what kind of character the guy has and publicly stamp him with a warning label.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

When people don't have nothing important in their life going on they worried about ish that doesn't concern them.

[BigWhiteWolf87]

@TenderFantasy You just answered this question yourself. In your youth you had a lot of pregnancy scares because you had unprotected sex and didn't think of taking plan b / contraception pills afterwards.

The AVERAGE single mother is as thoughtless about birth control and is usually single because she a) got involved with a douchebag who was just using her for easy sex & was never interested in a relationship fuck having a baby or b) baby's daddy is who the fuck knows who among the 10 odd men she's had a one night stand with in a month.

Because she's single - particularly if she was younger - she typically doesn't have a good job, education and more often than not is on welfare or child support benefits.

Benefits alone has a stigma of being lazy, incompetent, etc. without kids being considered. And if she's getting child support from baby's daddy most guys are going to be worried they'll get roped into paying for her next child - aka there's guys who'll think she lied to the first guy about being on birth control, disliking condoms, etc.

Exceptions - divorce, death - exist but as like anything called an exception these situations are RARITIES not the NORMAL of single mothers.

[TenderFantasy]

1) I didn't say that I had A LOT of pregnancy scares, where did you read or at least how did you interpret that from what I wrote? ! I could probably count in less than one hand how many I've had thank you very much. And back when I was younger, yes, Plan B was considered, and in terms of unprotected sex, never really TOUCHED the stuff. Condoms were my partner and I's "best friend". And by the way, birth control DOES fail you know, I am sure you do ;).

I would appreciate it if you didn't assume things like that about me or label me the same as those "good for nothing" single mothers everyone supposedly "hates". It's weird though because you're a woman. Women usually LOVE babies, or at least spreading their genetic line, just like guys do. Also, what's so immoral or abnormal about having children? ! I think, as an adult, it's one of the most NATURAL desires a woman has, and if she waits too long, she may regret never having had any.

Lastly, where did you get your supposed "Facts" from? ! The average single mom really? ? ! My neighbor (a guy), who I grew up with, is now married. He never had children before till he met his first (and ONLY) wife. The wife has a 15 year old son. So you're telling me that she/they are LOW class good for nothings? ! For such words, they live in an affluent neighborhood, drive nice cars and seem to truly love one another.

Finally, my ex-fiance's, ex-wife, also lives in a good neighborhood. She's been married to her second husband now since 2012 I believe, and they have a daughter together while also raising her and my ex's son! I doubt they are on Welfare as you claim, and I am SURE that she became a single mother for some time after divorcing my ex!

[Anemone978]

Guys just like to dog women period, especially on this site, there is a huge discrepancy in their views and reality. I admit even I have been mean and cruel to single mothers, because if you get pregnant really young, it just seems you should of known better. But now that I am single, I can see from their point of view and I think it is dumb to write someone off just because they have kids (the same for single fathers), especially at an older age. Sure the person had kids with the "wrong" person but maybe they truly thought they would be together forever. It doesn't make them a bad person, but if a guy truly judges you from a harsh view he wasn't worth it anyways, someone who is meant for you will always love you regardless of things they don't find favorable...

[Berethor]

It not dumb to write someone off because they have a lot of baggage, it's fairly smart.

[TenderFantasy]

@Berethor You consider one child a lot of baggage?

There are men who raise children that are not their own. Like I was saying to Older & Wiser and Mr. Anonymous, some people DON'T mind. Maybe you think they are dumb for doing that, but then again, maybe it was love that overcame it? Not really sure, but as I mentioned to them, I was faced with this exact situation but it was the other way around (he was a single dad that lost custody of his kid), and * I * was the one who had trouble accepting. I had to really think this through (if I loved him enough to accept his past because it's not like he could have changed it anymore than I could have!). In the end, I decided to try and accept it, but it still didn't work because of other issues, not really the fact that the his first marriage and baby wasn't going to come from me.

[Berethor]

@TenderFantasy if it child of other man, yes, don't mind and compromise is not the same.

[TenderFantasy]

@Berethor It's the same in the sense that you will be the one raising the child that is not yours. You make compromises for love but sometimes, that is the start of resentment, if you're just honest about it.

[Berethor]

@TenderFantasy I am not fan of adoption either and I don't want to compromise on that.

[TenderFantasy]

@Berethor Never said you had to. Not sure why you said this.

[OlderAndWiser]

Your rant completely overlooks the fact that she CHOSE to become a single mother, and if the father of the child is a bum, that is only because she chose to have sex wth a bum!

The problem for younger guys datin single moms is that a childless single girl can make a guy the highest priority in her life, while a single mom can't (and shouldn't.) It's not a horribe reflection on her that she can't make a guy more important, but it's also not a guy's fault if he feels that's not enough for him.

[TenderFantasy]

Actually, in my opinion, NO ONE should be higher priority than oneself. Even in airplanes, they tell you to put on your oxygen mask FIRST and THEN that of your child.. but I see what you mean..

Also, some women (like my ex's ex- wife, they were MARRIED before they had the baby, so that tells you they took their relationship seriously, at least one would assume that anyway, given the title and all!)

And it's not about that. Yes, they come in a package deal, but if the guy was MATURED, he would understand that there is no contest to it! If the guy and the girl ends up getting married and they have a child together, would he leave JUST because he isn't the center of attention anymore after the baby gets born? ! Seriously, think about what you are saying. It shows on his part that he is not husband material, let alone father material! He's got to grow up sometime and realize the world really DOESN'T revolve around him! And there's a TIME and PLACE for things like dating and romance, as well as stepping up to your RESPONSIBILITIES! That is what ADULTS do, or at least what they are SUPPOSED to be doing!

[OlderAndWiser]

Think about what I'M saying? Re-read what i wrote. "The problem for younger guys dating single moms. . ." I didn't say I agree with thee younger guys; I'm 68 years old and definitely NOT one of the younger guys! I'm just offering an explanation for why they act as they do. I married a divorced woman who had custody of her two teens, so I don't need to be castigated on this subject.

[TenderFantasy]

Again, she did not always CHOSE to be a single mother. Why do you ignore spousal death? ! Why do you ignore the fact that some guys are just crummy! There are men who PRETEND to be good providers and good men, and then once she is hooked (either by marriage or a baby), THAT is when their true colors come out!

I am not castigating you (whatever that means). I'm just merely pointing out actual FACTS on this subject. You really don't know her story or WHY she became to have sole custody of the child! All I know is that it is EXPENSIVE to raise a child on your own. The least people should be doing is condemn her. She is already in a tough situation! That's all I was saying.

[OlderAndWiser]

Actually, it sounds lke you are using the occasion to spew some venom.

[TenderFantasy]

Lol, you're just a hater who wants to hate for no good reason!

[OlderAndWiser]

Well, I guess you couldn't possibly be wrong!

[Miristheiss]

Define "dogged"?

What is the specific theme we are talking about?

Are we talking about just dating?

Well, bluntly, when I was a single guy looking to fall in love with someone and to go long term and have a wife of my own and my own kids... I didn NOT want some woman who has already gotten pregnant with some other guy, with his kid, a kid in the way of dating. I dated ONLY single, childless women.

Outside of that, what "dogging" are they getting?

Life choices? Well, not in EVERY case but in many cases they gave it up and were chasing the CHAD's and TYRONES and the bad boy players... the ones who will NEVER settle down and will always bail after they get laid. If they had unprotected sex with one of these bad boy, player types thinking they could tame them and that they'd stick around for kids. They are pretty dumb.

If they ended up with a kid by some other circumstance, I can empathize. I still wouldn't have dated one. Let the single dads out there date the single moms.

[Berethor]

You 38, you might to be able to give birth at that age, so it make sense if you feel that being a single mom is less worse than being childless forever, among non-monogamous animals single moms are common, the females get humped and dumped, but at least they continue their genetic line you can say. Her ex won't want to commit to her? it's her problem for choosing such man, if even the father of her child don't want to commit to her, why would I commit to her? single moms bring too much baggage with them, why would a man want to raise a child of other man? it's a very desperate move, especially for a young man.

[TenderFantasy]

I'm not that old in terms of having my own baby. My aunt had TWIN boy and girl back in 2012 and I just went to my doctor and he said there's still time (not a lot of time but still time). I may end up using a surrogate to carry my baby.

If I am truly desparate to be a parent, I MAY adopt or be a foster mom. But that's very last resort most likely.

I don't want to lose hope and yes you are right, I said that stuff, mainly because of my age. It's TRUE that I agree that at least they got to procreate.

It's RUDE that you would think that it is NATURAL to be, as you rudely put it, "Humped and Dumped"! We are NOT just animals. We are HIGHER beings that are usually more intelligent and more capable than mere animals! How dare you compare humans to that! Have some morals please.

[Berethor]

Yea of course you mainly said that stuff because of your age, I am well aware about the biological clock issue. You religious or something? what the problem with comparing to animals? yea humans might be more intelligent but that's it, women that get humped and dumped don't tend to be very intelligent.

www.betterhealth.vic.gov.au/.../age-and-fertility

[TenderFantasy]

I am not going to wait for a man to have children anymore. I have plans on doing things on my own. I TRIED doing it the old fashioned way (finding a guy, falling in love, getting married and THEN having children) but that never happend despite me not being ugly (at least in my opinion, when I look in the mirror), nor am I mean or disagreeable, so it really cannot be just MY fault for relationships not working, as it takes two! Also, there are people that are bad people but are together because of children or they just mesh well together (they're like Bonnie and Clyde together in crime, etc.) Well, whatever.

And no, I wouldn't consider myself as completely religious. Why? I WAS however, raised Catholic, but I didn't wait till marriage to lose my virginity. Maybe that was my mistake. I slept around in my 20's too but it's not like I was the ONLY woman doing that, and I only did that for a very short time. It was like a phase for me. I realized that it was degrading so I stopped doing that. Also, at certain times, I was the one doing the humping and dumping honestly.

[Berethor]

The old fashioned way that how they call it nowadays, sleeping around sound like a bad choice, that also explain why you end up single, as men don't respect women that done it.

[TenderFantasy]

I wasn't doing it for long and I am SURE I am not the ONLY one who's done that. Why do you have to be judgmental (not to mention nasty) like that? Seriously, are you PERFECT? ! I'm sure you've had your share of notch posts as well, don't pretend like you don't! And it's not good to be having double standards about it either. And like I said, I didn't do it for long. And another thing, I did NOT post this question mainly because of my age. I don't know where you thought that was my main reason for posting it.

[Berethor]

So what if you not the only one who's done that? it still a bad record, yea I am judgmental about things like that. Never said that I am perfect but it don't make me accept women with nasty past. What double standards? a man is like a key, a woman is like a lock? you already admit that you said that stuff mainly because of your age, which is not surprising, read your own responses, why you try to deny it now?

[TenderFantasy]

No it's you who doesn't understand. You're thinking I was posting the question mainly because of my age. YOU said that, not me. And I am here telling you now that that was not the case! A part of my reasoning WAS because of my age, but it wasn't the SOLE or MAIN reason. Please learn to read better. All I was doing was trying to get you to see that not all single mothers were BAD people trying to take advantage of men, or something of that sort, ill-intent, etc. There's always two sides to a story they say. Heck, even one of my ex's said there were THREE, meaning his side, her side and the truth! I was just trying to open up your minds, like I was trying to do with all the other haters, and mean people around here! What if it happend to a sister or cousin of yours? ! Or you fell in love with someone that already had "baggage"? ! You cannot always control who you fall for, especially when you are young; don't pretend you have THAT much self-control! One cannot even control EVERY aspect of their lives really. I just was hoping you'd grow up and have a more open mind that is all. Being judgmental doesn't really do anyone good!

[TenderFantasy]

And also my sex life is really nobody else's business by my own or that of my partners!

And I am honestly annoyed that you were thinking that I posted this just because of my age! Forget my age because it mostly had nothing to do with the question!

As far as I am concerned, I don't have as high a body count compared to others anyway. And relationships are personal. If you don't want to DATE them because of that, of course that is your prerogative, but it doesn't mean that they aren't a better match for someone else!

Anyway..

[Berethor]

Yea it my prerogative to not marry single mom and/or promiscuous woman, and I would also not advice it to any man. What if she was my female cousin? what if he was my male cousin? I should be promoting single moms and/or promiscuous women if they are my family? it would be selfish on my part, I want to help fellow men, not offer them poor deals. I am not planning to fall in love with a woman with a baggage, not so long ago I already turned down an offer of dating an divorce single mom. Men tend to be more stoic than women, and loving and/or lusting after a single mom is a trap, I have more self-control than you think, dating a single mom is not so much about growing up, it more about being desperate, and I am not going to act so desperately any time soon, I don't accept that baggage.

[HighValue]

Most single mothers are bad parents when it comes to academics, emotional support, discipline, etc. Most criminals come from single mother homes.

Why would any good quality man ever choose a single mother instead of a single woman that didn't make bad decisions? Why would he choose drama, stress, and an extra financial burden that wasn't his fault?

Single mothers will only get guys that use them for sex, or low quality guys that have very few options. The only chance she realistically has of having anyone decent is getting a single father since they are both in a similar situation.

[TenderFantasy]

My ex's ex-wife lives in an affluent neighborhood and I am sure she drives a nice car too. She married a good Christian guy that was willing to take her and my ex's son in and they even have another child together. Talk about lucky.

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

I don't judge, but I admit I'm having a rocky relationship with one such woman, a friend of my wife.

I don't say her current situation is her fault, but I help her out with her child because my wife wants me to (by the way the child is not mine and I never had any kind of sexual relationship with her) and sometimes she gripes that I give better stuff to my daughter and my half-brother, which is sort of an adopted son.

I think that's out of place - of course my actual children and family are the priorities, and she comes later - but she still gets what she needs. She's not a bad person, but she's a real choosy beggar and I'm seriously considering cutting the support we are giving her.

[Still-alive]

I wouldn’t take anything most of the incels and mgtow types say about this subject seriously. Its all part of a movement to make women out to be public enemy #1 because they didn’t want to fuck them.

in short they have an agenda.

[Chazmatazz269]

Hahahaha! Typical female victim mentality. Having sex with men they can’t trust is exclusively the man’s fault, huh? Women aren’t responsible for their own choices? It’s always someone else’s fault.
THAT is why single mothers get a bad rap. More often than not, they made a series of bad choices that landed exactly where they ended up. But we’re not supposed to talk about that.
Look how quickly you dumped 100% of the responsibility on men. Most people do! Say “deadbeat dad” and nobody blinks an eye. Men are always held responsible for their poor choices. But shitty women always get to blame men. Ell oh ell!

[TenderFantasy]

Woah, woah, woah, who said she didn't TRUST the guy? Like I said to someone on here, my ex's ex-wife and him were MARRIED when they conceived the child. By the way, she went on to marry her second husband and they've been married now for a very long time.

Second, like I was saying to Anonymous, I am NOT in this situation, but if I indeed were, I would definitely have taken responsibility. I admit, I've made certain mistakes when I was younger and had a pregnancy scare but really, 1) who are you to JUDGE her. 2) Last I heard, raising a child was expensive and usually "permanent" till the kid is at least 18-20! It is a big responsibility and for people like you to cast an evil eye or waving your finger at her, she doesn't need that! She has a beautiful baby to love and a hard job ahead of her. I just think it would do you good to try and see things from the other person's perspective, that's all. Goodnight!

[Chazmatazz269]

Trusting someone doesn’t mean you CAN trust them. Work on your reading and comprehension. There’s no point in responding if you’re beyond day one stuff. Hit me up when you catch up.

[TenderFantasy]

Dude what's wrong with you. I don't HAVE any problems with my reading comprehension the hell? !

[RavVid]

They haven't planned or been careful enough about the serious matter of having babies is what people think. Gov't taxes becomes the husband and people resent that. People aren't impressed by having babies when the mother can't properly support them.

If it is pregnancy by hook up or being drunk people get quite disparaging. If their are several different fathers people get even more disparaging.

I'm not sure they're not right.

[DarkLegacy]

it is because they deserve criticism for picking the wrong guy even when they are warned about them, i mean why are they not with the father, plus here in the UK they make themselves single mothers for social security and a house. It is like some posted here yesterday on something, they are free to make their choices but not free from the consequences. Plus it is not fair that they can keep taking away disabled peoples needs like priority car parking and disabled seats on buses.

[TenderFantasy]

But what would your criticism do really? If you were in their shoes, lusting after the wrong piece of legs/meat, whatever. Then you find out you're pregnant and you don't believe in abortions or it's always been your dream to have a baby or to pass on your genetic line and become a parent, what would you do? You don't have a lot of money to begin with and the help from child suport would be great, if possible that he's not that much of a dead beat! Just looking at the person's point of view would already shut you up no offense! I know it's technically their fault and they have to lay in the bed they made, but at the same time, they are not baby killers and they fully accept the responsibility and possibility of raising a child on their own. That's no easy feat I heard!

[DarkLegacy]

Lol in this day and age, most women wouldn't think twice about having an abortion and i know so many women that do it for the social security and housing. Rife here in the UK

[Anonymous]

Actions have consequences, sleeping around is easy for women, irrespective of their looks. However, it's almost impossible for most men. Generally, women get pregnant by a certain type of guy and then ask for help from another set of guys with whom they would never have gone out in the first place.

Sleeping around isn't wrong but expecting that men will have to pay for your fun is wrong. There are still plenty of guys who will date single moms however high quality men may avoid them.

[exitseven]

I think it is more that fact that when a guy gets involved with a single mom that has very small kids , the kids take priority in the relationship. This is the way it should be but a lot of guys want more out of a relationship than what is left over.

[loveslongnails]

Two big factors, the first is just plain old human stupidity and people making judgments without knowing the facts. The second depends on the "type" so to speak of single mom. Is she a mother of 4 kids, two of whom are from different dads, neither of which pay support, and doesn't even know for sure who the father of the other two are? That's a different story.

[LiamJHayden]

I think when they hear "single mother" most guys aren't thinking about widows or a wife whose husband abandoned the family. Instead they think of the worst case stereotypical never-married with four or more kids from multiple baby daddies, all of who are stalker-level crazy, And she is now looking for a financial bailout.

[Anonymous]

Too much baggage to be worth it, and no guy wants to raise another man's kids. I mean I don't get it this all seems fairly obvious. I mean just pretend you're a guy for a minute. You have 2 girls to choose from and they're both pretty much the same but one is a single mom and the other isn't. Which one are you going to choose?

[KrakenAttackin]

Single mothers bring all of their problems on themselves and yet they expect to be seen as "heroes". If you look at the statistics of how children fare coming from single mother homes you would realize single mothers are actually the worst kind of cancer imaginable.

[jshm2]

No. They cause their own problem by getting porked by a dead beat. Its not the kids that are the problem. But dealing with her bullshit.

[LazerBean]

Because 90% of them could have avoided becoming single mothers by using their brain a bit.

[es20490446e]

When someone had a baby, and they are no longer with their partners, they usually fall into one of these categories:

- Nobody likes her attitude.

- She enables bad attitude.

[UncleBilll]

I've dated single mothers before I give them mad respect.

[TenderFantasy]

Agreed. She could have gotten an abortion. She more than likely went to the prenatal appointments on her own. She carried knowing that the dad may not be around! She even probably gave BIRTH on her own, and that would have to be traumatic for ANY first time parent! Thanks for looking at this from the perspective of the other side! Your positive opinion is appreciated.

[Randalama]

Nothing speaks more to the importance of not fucking up than the lament of the single mother.

[TenderFantasy]

Not sure my ex's ex-wife regrets her and my ex's son. But I don't know that for sure. How do you know she regrets giving birth to their son?

Also, same with my neighbor who I grew up with. He doesn't have any outside kids, but the wife does. They seem happy. She now has a 15 year old and just gave birth to my neighbor and her's daughter.

[Anonymous]

Could have died, could have been widowed, could've, shoulda, woulda. The fact is with the majority they're a single mother by her own CHOICE. Either she CHOSE badly and left him. Or she CHOSE badly and he left her. Rather than b**** about being judged by your mistakes how bout you instead just put in more effort to making LESS of them.

https://www.youtube.com/embed/GD6qtc2_AQA

[TenderFantasy]

Like I said, I am NOT in this situation, but I think it would do you good to be less judgmental. Are you perfect? Do you make mistakes and have regrets in life? ! Exactly. What if this happened to your sister or cousin or even child later on down the road? !

[Opinion Owner]

Not possible. All my sister's are married and still married and have been married anywhere from 18 to 35 years. Because they chose well. And they're strong supportive women so thier husband's know what they got.
I'm not being judgmental. I know what a quality woman is. I'm trying to help so many women on here that don't seem to know what one is. I give every single mom a chance till she proves to me why she is one. Which invariably happens. You have to understand you're asking a man to audition to play acting father for a child that is not his. That's no small ask. Because any guy worth his salt KNOWS kids always come first. And any guy worth having wouldn't want to be with a woman that didn't put her child first.

[TenderFantasy]

Choosing well doesn't mean you will always win in the end. Relationships are still a gamble. The single mom may have chosen the best she could get given her circumstances at the time, who knows. Also, yeah, like I was saying, she could have been widowed. That is definitely not her fault!.. That's good that your sisters have chosen well and are still with their partners, that's good on them. I feel luck was on their side with that because like I was saying, life's not perfect, anything can happen and they usually do! And yeah, this is a case by case thing, so I guess you can make your decisions accordingly with that.

I agree with that women should prioritize their children's wellfare above dating but you also shouldn't compare the two like I was saying to Older and Wiser. It's just not the same. Your love for your child is DIFFERENT than that of your significant other or partner. One is an ADULT relationship while the other is more of a responsible parent. It's less equal, at least as long as the child is a minor.

The way you are talking, I just can't shake the fact that you come off as arrogant like you are better than those single mom's. Maybe you are when it comes to chosing your partner's well... either that or they just got unlucky. It's really not so black and white!

Finally, yes, I agree, if the man cannot handle a package deal like I was mentioning to the other commenter, then yes, he needs to not waste BOTH people's time. It's just the right thing to do!

[TenderFantasy]

And by the way, like in my case, it was actually me who could not accept the fact that my ex was already married before with a child so this happend to me personally but I realized that my love for his was bigger than his past.

His ex-wife, whom he has the child with, is now HAPPILY married (I would think looking from the outside in), and they have a daughter together. They've been married since 2012, or 2013 I believe. So with that, I think there IS hope for women who are single mom's just so you know.

[Opinion Owner]

There's a lot to unpack here. First off It's irrelevant to me whether you think I'm arrogant or not. Your opinion of me means nothing to me.
I think it bothers you that you can't control how and why men judge for the reasons they do. You want to live your life how you see fit but then not be judged for it later. Life just doesn't work that way is all. I also think you excuse failure far too much. You should probably listen to @olderandwiser he's right when he said she chose him. You know if people keep repeating this to you. What are the odds that it's probably true.

[TenderFantasy]

Um, I guess we can agree to disagree then. You're just going to be closed-minded with this it seems. Read what anemore978 wrote and see if it makes sense to you. No one is perfect. You act like you are perfect and you know how EVERYTHING is going to turn out in life. And no, I do NOT excuse failure too much. In fact, I've been known to be a perfectionist in more ways than one! I am just hoping you'd be more open minded. I fell for someone with "baggage" already in the past, and I had a difficult choice to make! I wonder what you would do in that instance. Be judgmental toward the person you grew to love? Think about it, that's all.

[TenderFantasy]

And yes, it does bother me. Would YOU want to be judged unfairly like that? Especially if it was something you couldn't control? Divorce? Break up? Death? Try growing up for once, maybe you'll see you're not so "cool" with your thinking and ostracizing certain people. They may be good people!

[Opinion Owner]

Honey I get judged unfairly by your gender all the time. There's no point in letting someone else's toxicity upset you.
I already told you I give EVERY woman I meet a clean slate. But the numbers of failure with single mom's is higher than avg. Why? Because generally it's her bad choices. I'm sorry you don't like this. But you're not getting around this FACT!

[NostalgiaSenpi]

Because a lot of them chose the wrong guy to be with and now are reaping what they sow.

[Anonymous]

Widowed ones and ones who got knocked up by a casual partner are fine if you are an older guy. It’s the divorced mothers that are evil if the ex husband wasn’t abusive or cheated.

[Debbie14217]

bc dead beat dads... guys who suck bc they are players...🤬😡😠

[Zayed_]

Because a divorce is split into a 50/50 and children are the ones who suffer.