Since many women cannot find husbands and it is better to share a high value man than to have all of a low value man, should we bring back polygamy?

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When Gallup first included polygamy on the list in 2003, 7% of Americans said it was morally acceptable, and that fell to 5% in 2006. But over the past decade, this percentage has gradually increased -- moving into double digits in 2011, reaching 16% in 2015, and this year, at 20%, the highest in our history. In short, there has been a fourfold increase in the American public's acceptance of polygamy in about a decade and a half.

With three women graduating college to every two men and many men opting out of marriage, it is becoming increasing difficult for women to find high value husbands.

Metallsturm · Accepted Answer

I think it'll be feminists that eventually will introduce it.

Surprised? Think about it: feminism for decades has been the driving force to justify woman's every choice, whether it's degenerate or not.

She sleeps around like a whore, collecting bodies in hundreds? That's empowering. She cuts her hair short and paints it like a poisonous lizard? That's empowering. She becomes infertile due to 2 decades of focus on a career? That's empowering. She gets hairy like a Sasquatch? That's empowering. She gets married only to divorce a rich husband and get half of his stuff? That's empowering. She collects abortions like food stamps? That's empowering.

If you'd send a typical modern feminist to the feminists back in the 1920s, they'd see her as an utter degenerate and would be shocked how their movement was degraded. Heck, even feminists in the 60s would arguably see her as a degenerate and how their ideals have degraded.

So to satisfy the enormous hypergamy of modern women, it's not a far-fetched idea that introduction of polygamous marriages, where a man that can have multiple wives for as long as he can provide for multiple wives, would be introduced by feminists isn't so crazy.

A woman sits at home near the pool doing fuck all (due to having automatic washing machines, automatic clothes drying machine, robot vacuum cleaners, and modern conveniences you can think of, even perhaps home staff doing stuff for her) and the only price is that she has to tolerate for her hard-working rich husband having some other wives along with her at the house, that essentially can become her besties?

That's empowering.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I have no moral issues with polygamy itself. In fact I think there are some benefits to it for both the husband and the wives.

The problem arises in polygamous communities when men assume too much power and do bad things with it, as has obviously been the case in some high profile cases in Utah, resulting in a lot of harm to younger members of the community, and prison time for the perpetrators.

But polygamy as a whole should not be judged based on those cases, just like not all marriage should be judged based on how bad modern marriage has become for men in general. It's not surpising so many men are opting out of marriage today, but marriage can still be a great thing for some couples, men included.

In short, I think polygamy should be legal for those who choose that lifestyle.

Anonymous · Answer

I’d say yes. If that’s what a man wants and the women are ok w it sure. But not everyone wants that. One is enough for me. Aside from sex I couldn’t see why a man would want multiple wives. Having one as it is, is like a second full-time job. There’s a lot of men who want marriage, but a lot of women have ridiculous standards. Many of them are told they’re 10s growing up when they really aren’t so they won’t settle. Even the girls who are lower than a 5 won’t give a man on their level a chance. The majority of women are chasing that top % of men, who most likely will never commit to just one. So you accept it and live w it, or you become scorned. Then she moves on in life saying all men are trash, that she can’t find a good man, etc. The funny thing is women want equality, which yes a lot of them are outpacing men financially but now that they can support theirselves as well as him and a family even if he makes less, they don’t want that. She still expects him to take care of her financially, her money is her money and his money is their money as the saying goes. A lot of women say they don’t want to date down, but men did it all the time. Wasn’t a problem for men to do it and if you didn’t as a man you were a POS. But it’s ok for women to use that term for men who make less than she does. Besides a lot of women can’t stand each other, that’ll just add to why I wouldn’t want more than one wife.

Anonymous · Answer

No. And polygamy was never "here" to begin with, so there would be no 'bringing it back'. A few (mostly religious) communities tried to make it a common thing, but they were ostracized and had to leave the major cities. A number, led by the guys who founded Mormonism, headed to the Utah Territory and built up SLC. Before that, the last time polygamy was substantially popular or even remotely accepted was during the Biblical Eras and at various occassions during the Crusades. Those were due to the number of men who left (willingly and unwillingly) to fight religious wars. This also led into the Middle Ages, when the Plague that wiped out a sizeable portion of the Eurasian population left many families without a male money/legal decision-maker (since you know, women have barely had any rights for most of Western civilization).

But to answer your question, no. Polygamy does not need to be expanded. Marriage is not a necessary act for survival. Women don't need a man to open a bank account, buy a home, adopt a child, start a business, drive a car, file taxes, earn money, earn promotions, build a house, hunt, fish, surf, go on their own vacations, etc.

Honestly, since women, on average, tend to live longer singe than married, plus, they don't need to waste most of their paycheck on 'family' or 'couple' things, women who are unmarried and life their lives for themselves may have more fulfilling and healthier lives overall.

And yea, I'm a guy, I'm married, and marriage is tough/rewarding/a nightmare/full of bliss. But adding another person to the mix? Then another? NOPE. I have one wife. I don't need three. That's insane. For everyone involved.

Jersey2 · Answer

Did you just equate high value male with a college degree? I am not so sure that is true anymore. Someone without a degree that owns their own small company can do very well. Many with degrees now have a lot of debt and poor prospects for a high paying job. Even high paying software companies do jot require a degree anymore.

And I say this as someone who has a degree, who has all my kids with Master’s degrees and who was a hiring manager where a degree was mandatory. I did extraordinarily well with it but I am not sure what it can bring today.

GuyAnswersGirls123 · Answer

I think there's simply too much focus on looking at dating and relationships as a market with people judging themselves and each other based on a market value.

Compatibility should be the name of the game. This is about love and finding compatible people with whom we can mutually grow, not economics. We shouldn't be looking at this in terms of supply and demand curves if every consumer is looking for a very unique service maximally compatible with their highly individualized needs and desires.

If more people could please grow up a bit and stop evaluating their potential partners based on things like six-figure salaries and the most bombastic hourglass figures, I'm quite certain it would bring a greater measure of peace and happiness to everyone involved.

Then the Myron Gaines types promoting polygamy would no longer make nearly as much sense, which they never should have in the first place.

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

"With three women graduating college to every two men..."

Why is that a concern? There's tons of worthless degrees in college and I know tons of guys in trade making 6 figures. You'd turn down a master electrician for a guy with a gender studies degree? You'd be insane.

Dargil · Answer

I admit that I could envision working with more than a single wife. They did that in Old Testament days largely because they needed more hands for the farm.

In this imaginary world, perhaps onw where there were massive war deaths, like after the Civil War, I would have to be able to afford maybe 3 wives and to afford to send all the children to high quality schools. There would be a favoritism/peacekeeping issue and I would have to manage that responsibly. The least prominent issue would be sex.

McLlovin · Answer

I see you woke up today and chose violence lol.. if I’ve learned anything about women is that they are highly competitive with each other. That poor man will be Caught up in the crossfire of a passive tiger fight. While jokingly, that kitten of a man is walking into a drama war zone lol… i think polygamy is a bad idea. We as people just need to learn how to build healthy relationships.

Avicenna · Answer

There's nothing in it for very desirable men- nothing. They can get multiple women already without the financial impact of divorce.

And most men being unable to find partners is a recipe for a lot of problems.

Women can find husbands. Not the perfect one, but they can find decent ones.

Billlewis · Answer

All of my relationships with women are of the one sided open variety. In other words, she enjoys the freedom to date other guys whenever she wants, but I'm required to remain 100% faithful and exclusive to her -- even though I am never, ever allowed to have intercourse with her.

strateguy632 · Answer

in our society men must not hit, including their wives, luckily, so different from old days when many wives. then if wives or co-wives argued they knew the man might hit them, to keep things calm, so today polygamy won't work.

also polygamy it is immoral as supreme court ruled even freedom of religion for faith doesn't justify immoral action polygamy.

IslaTheWitch · Answer

I don't care if a man has one or many wives as long as it's not obligatory.

I would stay with my 1-on-1 relationship.

And I don't believe in the value put on people. I believe in their personalities and the chemistry between us. So other women can take all labelled men, and I will focus on this one for me.

Berethor · Answer

Poor men be okay with staying without women? polygamy tend to lead to violence.

shortster · Answer

The only reason polygamy is illegal is to persecute Mormons in the late 1800s. The US government doesn't care if Muslims engage in polygamy. Onyango Obama was married to a woman in Africa and a woman in Massachusetts when he met Barrack's mother in Hawaii and married her. Honestly the government has no business in marriage; it is a religious sacrament and thereby the perview of the church.

Snakeyes7 · Answer

Money and college degrees aren't everything.

Education is to intelligence as money is to class.

Just because you have an expensive piece of paper because you were able to repeat what you were told, doesn't mean you can think for yourself. Especially if the degrees in question are not in things like STEM or law.

Just because you have money doesn't mean that you know how to use it wisely. It's the reason why a lot of big lottery winners will be back to square one in a matter of a year and some children of rich parents don't always stay rich even through inheritance.

standardguy · Answer

The Bible discusses the consequences of polygamy on the lives of the patriarchs, and it indirectly advises against pursuing this path. Even in modern society, controlling jealousy and promoting selfless sharing among multiple partners is difficult. Subliminal aggressions may arise if a man chooses one woman over another on a given evening.
Conversely, it is better if women are with a beta man and then build him up psychologically and eliminate his character defects through harsh punishments, so that the man becomes a kind of individual masterpiece of woodcarving art , so that all the corners and edges that are unpleasant for his wife are sanded:

Zestyassmf1997 · Answer

I feel like high value men and women would both probably seek exclusivity. Assuming we are of equal worth, neither of us should need side pieces.

andreasderjuengere · Answer

Those women who cannot find husbands are not attractive or not interesting enough. A ''high value man'' won't want one of these, either.

selfish-and-cruel · Answer

I'd rather not. Women are jealous and lazy. It's better to be alone than with such a company

Anonymous · Answer

No. I believe the only reason some women can't find a husband is due to their standards being too high. Or other reasons like bedpartners, bad personality etc. I believe Pologramy is more harmfull than good for us as humans.

LazerBean · Answer

If a woman can't find a high value husband, it's because she is low value. So I can't blame a low value person for doing something dumb like polygamy, but I'm not going to encourage it.

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