What in your opinion do you feel men get shamed for too often that they shouldn't?

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In the following video, a woman named Emily W King, talks about the common seven things men get shamed for by women such as if a man talks at all about physical preferences, he will get shamed for it. Men should be entitled to have their physical preferences just like women do.

Another thing she mentions that men get often shamed for is wanting a woman who needs a man. A lot of women will say that they don't need a man which is a turn-off for men and as it should be. A woman being able to be vulnerable to a man is a turn-on.

Another one she brings up is caring about a woman's body count and having a lot of friendships with exes. Men get shamed for caring about these things when they shouldn't.

Here is the video where she talks more in-depth about it:

https://youtu.be/ZuDAys4LjEE?si=VojYeE7TI7C-CB4S

Flatmanlewis · Accepted Answer

This is a very valid point and excellent for a woman to understand.

Sadly I can relate to number 7 more than I care to admit. When I left an ex for an act of infidelity I lost all access to a stepchild and it hurt both them and I. Dating a single mother can be very risky emotionally.

In my work place there is a vocal group of established women. They freely and openly grade and critique the men who we hire and work there as if grading auction cattle. Yet, any man with a known preference for any attractive female attribute will be judged as being shallow or immature.

I absolutely have an appeal for petite, busty, hourglass Latinas. I’m addicted to a Salma Hayek lookalike. It’s just who I am.

Personally, I have a very strong preference. Friends used to tease, in my single days, that I was just dating the same girl who was pretending to have a different name and other such jokes. I won’t go so far as to say I got shamed but I did suffer the judgement and snide remarks of some female coworkers or the dates & girls of male friends for my preferences under the guise that it was unrealistic to expect women to look as I was fond of. Oddly, however, I’ve never had a hard time finding my “type”.

msc545 · Accepted Answer

for living.

Anonymous · Answer

Creep shaming is one of the biggest ones. Often when a guy shows interest in a woman and she find him unattractive, she'll say he is creepy, which is often undeserved and hurtful.

Shaming men for not wanting to date single mothers is another one. Women need to understand that when it comes to children, men have responsibilities with very limted rights. Having his own children with a woman is risky enough for a man today; why would he choose to expose himself to all those risks and responsibilities, without rights, when the kids are not even his?

On a similar note, men get shamed for wanting a prenup before getting married. Given the fact that half of marriage end in divrce, women file 80% of them, and men typically get screwed in divorce court, does anyone ACTUALLY not undertand why any man would not require a prenup before getting married?

Men are typically calles weak for not being interested in so-called "strong and independent" women. The reality is that women with obnoxious personalities are typically the ones who rationalize their lack of success with men by telling themselves they are just strong and independent, and men are not interested in them because those men and "weak". The truth is, only weak men would put up with thse women. No self-respecting man would.

I could go on, but it's past my bedtime.

dolemite58 · Answer

I was just talking with someone else on gag about this, I’ve noticed this trend among some women that on one hand will say i won’t date a man that doesn’t make good money or older men aren’t attractive and women will only like them if they have money. Then those exact women have the audacity to say why are men so obsessed with money/why do you work so much 🤦‍♂️ you’ve admitted you’ll act like shit if we don’t have it 🤣 I don’t think men should lead with money but we’re definitely judged for it while women aren’t.

GuyAnswersGirls123 · Answer

Violence in my case. Today, everyone seems to think physical violence is so "barbaric", but for me it's the ultimate and civilized way of conflict resolution (provided it's done honorably and gentlemanly, without lethal weapons or an intent to kill) when diplomacy and attempts to deescalate the conflict fail.

Otherwise we get true barbarism in my experience: the metaphorical direct punch gets replaced by the metaphorical and indirect poison, backstabbing, gossiping, and this can wound a person far more irreparability than a black eye or bloody noise.

So I really think men shouldn't be shamed for being violent unless they initiated the violence on someone who was obviously weaker than them and/or did nothing to invite such violence.

Starrrboy · Answer

Yeah stuff like that is becoming very annoying.. a girl can have a full list of what she likes in a guy... but when a guy say a few things , women start attacking and mocking him.. women can objectify men and say he has to make certain amount of money , have that , have this.. but when a man does it , it's outrageous.. woman says she doesn't need men : you go girl !.. they only drag you down anyway.. man says he doesn't need a woman : pfft.. what a loser incel.. women shame men and say that all men are cheaters.. completely disregarding that when a man cheats , he cheats with a woman lol.. so , for every cheating man there's a woman with no standards , which means all men are cheaters = all women are sl*ts with no self respect lol..

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

When a man wants a women to submit to him. Some of us will think that we will turn into slaves and that he is going to be some tyrant.

In my eyes being sominant doesn't mean he's selfish. He is to be the leader that looks after his family, means you. The best for you. And being submissive doesn't make you selfless.

I do speak up if I don't agree. Put him back on the right path, let him correct himself if he is screwing up But if I am just not sure of something, I follow him. I trust he makes the right decision for the both of us.

A good leader just gets followers and doesn't need to demand any.

Anonymous · Answer

You are correct, men need a woman to take care of them and children. Her overall physical health is of greater relative importance for part of that, but so too is her ability to bond with him, hence body count.

Although both men and women should care about their partners body count for the simple reason of trusting them to commit to them when they didn't commit to any of the others.

OtterMan68 · Answer

Double standard: Women see a good looking male scientist doing a youtube channel or science show, and they start calling him "Sexy Scientist" or something, that's fine, but if men see a good looking female scientists and compliment on her looks, they're being sexist and should only recognize her for her brains and talent.

CriticalCatDad123 · Answer

I’ve been shamed for refusing to have sex. I’ve been shamed for rejecting a girl who liked me who I did not find attractive at all.

Anonymous · Answer

2. Reminds me of a line from Tyler Perry's "Diary of a mad black woman". Where Shemar Moore says something to the affect of, "you're one of these women that because one guy hurt you every guy from then on has to pay the price for it". It's why guys don't want a woman with baggage. You're asking them to unravel some other guys damage. Some of which might be unravelable. Because maybe the woman doesn't want to heal or is incapable of healing.

I think a lot of women today know what they want on the surface but are kind of clueless beneath the surface. They want a guy who checks this, this and this box. But then she doesn't get that there might be something she'll have to accept about him to get this, this and this. People are not cookie cutter. You don't get to pick the attributes of the person you want like a buffet. People are mixed bags and you have to take the bad with the good.

John_And_Elijah · Answer

Wanting a woman who's submissive to male leadership. I know MANY women who don't exactly wanna dominate, but they want balance. One day she cooks and washes the dishes, next day the man cooks and washes the dishes. One day she does laundry, next day he does laundry. One day she mows the lawn, next day he mows the lawn. I'm not interested in that type of relationship.

sirderpsalot123 · Answer

Getting criticized and made fun of for being sick

CubaPirate · Answer

Definitely mental health issues, more should be done to encourage them to share

itsclearlynicholas · Answer

I sure find I embarass myself easily. Lol. I'm just trying to get by lol song 😁😂😆😂

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

I have no idea because I in literally all my life have ever heard such nonsense. Internet BS videos just doesn't match my reality ever.

Anonymous · Answer

Who shames men for having a preference? They only get shamed when they say their preference and then add a touch of racism or start attacking women who don’t fit their standards let’s not lie.

Billlewis · Answer

Being simps, etc.

NathanDavis · Answer

I don't get shamed

Agape93 · Answer

Playing games to relax.

Babygirl_S · Answer

Who shames them and where?

SoJust · Answer

Yes, men are ashamed of having penises

jahaims · Answer

Hobbies

Anonymous · Answer

Penis size!

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