Inexperienced girl with older guy?

[grace54]

I'm a 23 year old who is umm pretty inexperienced with dating and I've been talking to this guy that I'm really starting to like. The only problem is he is 11 years older than me. (I didn't know that at first...damn baby faces :P) A lot of my friends say that it won't work out well because of the age gap and my inexperience... Do you think my lack of experience would turn him off / cause him to lose interest? And/or would there be extra problems (even good relationships will have their share of problems imo) down the road due to this?

Or will taking my time (within reason :P), liking him for who he is, and having realistic expectations be able to make up for this?

Thanks!

[Ameya]

No it won't be a problem, firstly you are 23, which means you are a fully functional adult...Him being 11 years older doesn't make a difference because our generation is easily and almost as matured as anybody 6-7 years older than us, we become aware about certain things much earlier in life than people one decade older to us can...as far as dating is concerned you being inexperienced is also HIS concern, depends how he tries to make you feel comfortable with him...

..and, you at least have theoretical knowledge about dating yea!? I mean how to dressup, how to talk etc, you're not stupid I'm sure...so why worry about it so much, just try not to act naive around him which I'm sure you wouldn't...

It's a mutual thing you see, for certain things you have to see from his perspective and some things He should be able to understand considering the age gap...

[Dionysos]

My sister just married a guy a lot older than her. They make one hell of a cute couple and have been together for years.

[Anonymous]

hey I'm 21 dating this guy 9 years (soon will be 10) older.

iim sure I have def less experience than you do, and this guy I'm seeing he has pretty much experience in women I guess.

We are getting along so great I never think of or worryig about the age difference.

If you two are compatible and get along well, age wouldn't bother you at all.

When I first tell my friens about his age, they all go like 'wow''are you crazy' stuff lol

but I don't care and none of them tells me its not gnna work out because its none of their business...

dont mind what your friends saying. if you like each other, what's the problem?

[Anonymous]

There is no need to worry about the age. My boyfriend is ten years older than me and has been married. I've only "dated" a few guys and they never become anything really until he came along. So I had no clue what I was doing but it all worked out and we are getting married this summer and I couldn't be happier! We never fight and I don't have to deal with all the drama that comes along with dating guys my own age. You just never know how something is going to turn until you give it a try :)

[kittyhoney]

I believe it will work, as long as both of you are in love. 11 years old is not so much of a age gap to me

[Freelancer]

These relationships are very common. Specially in asia. In China they have a saying ?????. It loosely translates to old cows love tender grass hahaha.

We guys are always attracted to youth and innocence to some small degree. Younger girls often carry less emotional baggage and such. Don't be afraid that your not "experienced" enough for him. Your exactly what he was looking for.

[Savoir65]

(not from the US) I'm 24, he's 38. I've never been in a relationship, I'm a virgin too, never had a date. I meet him last month (we have mutual friends) and 2 days ago he asked me on a date, I really like him and I want to get to know him, how do I tell him I've never been in a relationship or should I not tell him in the first place? Is it weird? please help, be honest... I'm so embarrassed I don't wanna look to inexperienced but at the same time I don't want to lie, is it a turn off?

[Anonymous]

i'm close to your age and inexperienced, I think closer the age the better

[tommy2toneyack]

if you don't try how will you know

[Anonymous]

It wouldn't bother me. Go for it