Breaking up is never easy. You have a lot of memories and questions. But, remember that the healthy thing is to move ahead with your own life. Look for the better replacement... Especially if you weren't the one who broke it off. I got divorced and was told it would take about two years for the feelings of the divorce to go away. I thought that was a load of BS, but it was basically true. I'd lie awake going over all these scenarios, past conversations, what did and didn't happen, etc. Then I came to the realization that I was losing out on my present moments and my new partner opportunities. My feeling is that you should let it go and look around for a guy who is out there thinking, "I wish I could find this woman that would make me happy" - and you're her!
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Yes this is tough honey, It is suppose to hurt. you are in the pleading part of grieving process trying to rationalize the craziness.
This is good your are going through the right process by the NO CONTACT. It will not help you recover by talking to him you are almost to the point of the next step of the process closer and closer to being mad which sounds like it's starting then acceptance..
Keep it going girl you are doing great.
You are amazing always remember that and what you just wrote. praying for ya girl :),
How long have you been doing no contact? It does always gets easier, but sometimes we take a step backwards and it makes us feel like there was no progress at all. When my ex dumped me I struggled for a whole year (although most of the time we had contact) and I remember saying to my friend "I feel as sh*t as I did the day after he dumped me" - even though I'd been feeling relatively good a week before that. There are ups and downs, and sometimes it does suddenly feel like you've been thrown way back. Hang in there, it will get better!
Im so sorry this guys doing this to you, Hun. I think he's giving you the most lamest excuse possible. I've done the no contact rule upon breaking up and the timeline for the other person calling you back varioes. It might be two weeks, it might be two years. But, 9 times out of 10, eventually they will call you back, for whatever reason. How long has it been since no contact?
It is very hard. I feel the exact same thing. but they say its OK to feel this way and frustrated. Its a part of the healing process
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It's not working for you because you are a human female in her 30's. When a woman is in her 30's she feels a lot of added pressure to be married, or at least living with a committed boyfriend.
To get over this pain you must find a new man to replace the one you lost.
You have a job, car, and your own place, so going online of networking should get you a man pretty soon, then you will be over this guy.Because he is the opposite reflection of you, your ultimate shadow. He completes you just like Batman completes The Joker (I know weird anology) But you get the point..hehe :p You need each other.
It's really tough to go through this but you have get yourself together, keep your head up high and stay strong for yourself. You will get through this eventually and realize it's not that hard after all. It's just some sh*t-happen in life.
No contact doesn't make it EASY, it makes it EFFECTIVE.
Hurt still hurts, nothing's going to fix that but time and a new boyfriend.Yara the hard times to get to the good ones hang in there we're out there
It is always hard :(
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