We all write on these forums looking for what we want to hear or what we believe to be the right answer. Whatever makes us feel better to get through the night or maybe even the next day. It's been 5 weeks since my breakup and as much as I try to move on and do all the things everyone tells you you are suppose to do after a breakup nothing changes. It's like I am stuck in a frozen purgatory.
I do things to get my mind off of him. I talk to a therapist. I do the work I need to do for myself. It's been 29 days since we last spoke and I haven't heard a work. I thought going no contact would change the circumstance and he would miss me just as much as I miss him but my hope is turning to unrequited.
I miss him everyday. Some days are better than others. He was so kind and caring towards me but once we fought and he engaged his friends in the matter it was over like a switch. He made the decision. When he broke up with me he told me he loves me but because we fought the relationship was unhealthy. I'm having trouble understanding that if you love someone (and I was the only one to say it back to him he told me) why was what we had so easy to give up instead putting the work in and becoming stronger.
He said he ran out of chances and with his friend and his brother telling him it was unhealthy it doesn't make it any easier. I don't think this is where we are meant to be.
We are both 30.
A couple days after the breakup we met up for a drink. He said I hurt him with the fights and he needs space. That we can go out as friends but he isn't promising anything else. I asked if we could slowly date and continue to get to know each other and he said he needs some time before that. His friends have accused me of making fake online accounts and are making me out to be something I'm not.
If he wanted to talk to me he would. If he wanted to see me he would.
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Well if he feels it is unhealthy and he needed to break away there is not really anything you can do but let him be. If he wanted to get back with you he would have by now or will in the future, but a month of no contact just means it's time to let go just for now. Yeah you are going to miss him and think about him but with time the intensity will lessen. I'm the same age as you and at this point in life if he's done let it be and move on. Continue to get the help you need and take away from the experience all the lessons that you can so that things will be right whether he comes back or someone new enters your life. Most important keep working on yourself. He mentioned two key things you Hurt him and things were Unhealthy. So continue working on yourself.1