Are dating apps too shallow to work, even if you pay for premium?

[Finchie40]

I tried apps like Tinder and OKcupid and Bumble just out of curiosity , and I caught myself swiping left way more than swiping right. I know attraction is important to a certain extent. and we can’t help who we are attracted to or not , but the whole concept of dating apps I feel is wrong , because we are just basing each other off of looks over anything else , unless you are taking the time to read everyone’s profile , which I highly doubt anyone is doing , you are only reading the profiles of someone you find attractive. Why I feel dating apps are a waste of time and why I have never met anyone off of a dating app. Have you had much success on dating apps? I know people have or there wouldn’t be dating apps period , also do you pay for the subscriptions? If you pay do you get better options to choose from because I felt bad swiping left for as long as I did lol I am not against meeting someone off the internet especially if I make a great connection with someone , but I don’t need a dating app to do that, I have made great connections with people on here as well as other sites , when I meet a couple and they tell me they met each other off of a dating app , I am kind of shocked to hear that , my one friend I haven’t seen in awhile met his new partner from a dating app that he paid for , and she said she didn’t pay lol. So is paying the wise thing to do if you want to meet someone? Have you paid for any of them and did you have a better experience from it? Just curious because the few times I have tried those apps I ended up swiping left like no tomorrow lol

[Crimsyjo]

Yeah it's tricky as a two second decision on someone's photo is shallow. Apps have a process of steps. 1st attraction. Is it enough? Because doesn't have up be ten out of ten. Can be just a potential. I think I can tell who I definitely wouldn't be attracted to even if they were wonderful. Unfortunately this does mean swiping left 30, 40 times before a right swipe. Some of those lefts would have been a maybe but the profile was the decider.

Next step os to match. Next step to communicate. Next step to find a spark.

Thsts why just matching alone is meaningless. Apps just put the "does the like me" question out there sooner cutting out the awkward approaching someone not knowing if they like you back.

The rest of the steps are not really different to real life meeting.

I don't think paid is worth it. These apps let you do step one which is the only worthwhile part- match with mutual attraction - but make you pay for next steps, knowing if there's an actual spark. And chances are there isn't so it's not worth it.

I once paid on tinder as I was tired of putting in age and distance filters that the app ignores but even paid and more filters it didn't change so I complained and got money back.

The biggest thing with Apps is liars. If people are married or want just sexyal chat or casual they should say so and not lead people on.

[lilBigPotato]

Are they shallow? Yes? But would you go hit on a random women in real life if you don't find her attractive? Probably not, so it's not that different. Sure, if you meet someone irl you might see more things that you can use to make a decision but in the end, apps just speed up that process, but that's also what can make them feel exhausting.

They're good at connecting 2 people but nothing more. Doesn't mean that they match well or look for the same things or that the other person is a decent person.

[Micheal6918]

I believe dating apps are a waste of time because most people are not who they claim to be

[robocop666]

Oddly I find women who have met me like me more than those on apps so I quit quickly.

[Finchie40]

Yea I was just curious to see what’s out there and when I caught myself swiping left constantly , I realized this isn’t the sites for me whatsoever lol , I usually meet girls’ in public over anything else , not saying I wouldn’t meet a girl off the internet but I seem to have better chances in public over anything else else

[robocop666]

I think you and me have something that needs to be met in person and cannot be seen in a photo

[Abbycado]

I have never used one, let alone paid for one. I haven't heard of many my age using them, and I think that is why most of us don't have to. We meet organically without much trouble.

[Finchie40]

Yea I usually meet someone in public over the internet in most cases , I have nothing against meeting someone on the internet if we both have a great connection together and we both prove we are who we say we are , because I won’t meet anyone off the internet that hesitates to video chat with me period , bunch of crazies out there lol

[Abbycado]

That is the main problem I would see. There is going to be a lot more hesitation between people on the internet than just meeting in real lift. You can feel someone out way better face to face.

[Kassandra1994]

Not sure if you will believe me. But if I were you I would pay and go see a witch not just any witch a Medium witch try to figure out if in the past a crazy ex-girlfriend made a love spell on you or if your ex-wife is doing some witch carft retual to made your love life a living hell.

I do spiritual deliverances I seen so many cases you be surprised. Not all witchs are bad. It won't hurt to do an appointment.

[Finchie40]

Thanks for the advice, that’s something I never thought about doing because I am skeptical with stuff like that and have a hard time believing it. I dated a girl back in the day that was into that black magic witch craft stuff , that told me she put a spell on her crazy ex boyfriend, and he hasn’t been around since , I laughed and said did it work? And she said yes it did he hasn’t harassed her since. I was a little freaked out by it but she was a nice girl and very beautiful, she wanted me to move to Miami Florida with her but at the time I didn’t want to move period because of my family and friends’ but I look back at times and think to myself maybe o should of gone with her because by me not doing so , I ended up meeting my ex that brought me to crappy Pittsburgh Pennsylvania with shitty weather and roads amongst other things as well and thought man I should of taken her offer and went to Miami instead lol

[Kassandra1994]

Wow she us brave. My grandmother told us not to mess wit hdark magic it is very dangerous people either birn into it like past generations had work in dark magic it is gifted but very dangerous not everyone knows hownto work with dark magic.

I can see that you are a nice guy you always been a responsable father to your children you always provided for your ex-wife paid the bills and morgage on time very loving and I also know your ex wife never appriciated your hard work and everything that you done fduring your time framed married to you. I was also hable to see that your ex wife the mother of your children is the one at fault and who cheated on you in a hotel.

You always been a great husband andna good boyfriend and I know your confuse and you do not know why things can't seem to work for you. Oh boy this is dangerous but I have to say it to you because your a great guy and you do not deserved all this gabage.

Consulted with a médium ask for cleansing or a deliveranced or ask a closed from for recomendation. From what I see it looks like someone casted you a love spell or an ex who can not accept the fact that you have move on.

[Finchie40]

Yea unfortunately I am still suffering the consequences of my ex that did me wrong, so now my life hasn’t been so great whatsoever, I have a charge on my record that is preventing me from landing a decent job that will be on my record for another 2 months until I complete these classes that were mandated from the court , I have always been a a dedicated hard worker that has help me climb ladders to becoming a boss and I always been a loving husband and father and provider to my family , and this is how I am rewarded. Now I feel like a complete failure and there is nothing I can do about it u til this crap is off my record. I lost my job because of it and now I am collecting u employment and delivering Pizzas under the table trying to keep my head above water. It’s been so hard on me I been feeling depressed and down but I am still doing what I can do to get by. I am in process of selling my home and planning on moving somewhere more affordable and I am definitely taking a vacation as well

[Finchie40]

My ex is prancing around like she is this victim when really she is the villain that doesn’t take any accountability for her actions and behaviors whatsoever , I pray karma kicks her right in the ass someday

[Kassandra1994]

Karma will get to her It can take years but every wrong doing that she's done to you it will come back to you. You know It isnvery powerful and more importantly is you so it with Faith yet Faith is the key this isnvery powerful it has worked on me. You do a prayer at 3a. m. get a bible read Paslm 66 and 35 I will say God Jehiva I come to you , I pray that everything goes and returns back to sander your exs name all begatibity returns back to again your exs name Amen andnread Palsm 66 . Key Hours between 3am and 5 am are very powerful.
If for any reason you are tire to do this prayer retual yes make an appointment. Your situation is spiritual. From what I see your ex wife casted a spell on you.

[Finchie40]

She definitely was spawned from Hell from how she acts and treats me , the girl is so negative and bitter and is barely ever happy about anything unless it’s something that centers around her , she is prancing around like she is this innocent victim when really she is the villain. She use to be a loving caring wife for a long time until she became friends’ with this toxic girl that pretty much influenced her to be against me. I saw right through the bullshit and tried expressing my feelings of concern to her a bunch of times and all it did was backfire on me , which made me realize she prioritized this girl over me. Now that we are no longer together , she still tried to make my life a living hell because she can’t take any accountability for her actions and behaviors it’s always my fault but never her own. The things my ex did to me is things that I will never forget and that’s why she is a POS to me now. She is a user and a very selfish person that doesn’t deserve any good in life , she just takes people for granted and acts like she is innocent when really she is a POS. I distance myself from her as much as possible because she doesn’t take any accountability for anything she has done wrong and loves pointing fingers at me like I am this horrible guy when I been nothing but a loving husband to her that worked my ass off to provide and support our family , she barely would work and keep a job and has a spending habit like no tomorrow , when money got tight it was always my fault but never her own , she wasn’t like this until she met this bitch of a friend of hers which I feel they are more than just friends’ but now that I look at it clearer they are perfect for each other because they are both negative miserable people that think their shit doesn’t stink. So I stopped giving into her and told her it’s best for her to leave after she had me arrested for grabbing her wrists stopping her from attacking me while I was sleeping , so now I have a a charge on

[Finchie40]

My record that made me lose my job and eliminating me from landing a new one until this shit is off my record , so I been collecting unemployment and delivering pizzas under the table until this comes off my record after I complete these mandated classes issued from the court , So now I am getting the house prepared to sell so I can get away from her for good I am going to take the money and start a fresh life elsewhere and hope she rots in hell