Why do men take rejection so seriously?

Guys don't get too much loving in the world. Once they are no longer children, society takes a 180 on them, and essentially, the only loving they get, they really have to work hard for. Just think of the stereotypical guy: Watches sports, drinks beer, talks to guys but never about feelings. Not all guys are like that, but I'd say still not a lot of guys will talk to each other about feelings. That pretty much leaves their mothers :)

When the guy approaches a woman with the intention of wanting a relationship and they get shot down, it's more than just a woman shooting them down, it's all of society. If I am not explaining that well enough I can think of one other way. Just observe the way they report murders on the news. Missing children and women, especially murder victims get reported on for days to months. Guys. Well they only get a lot of coverage if they are famous or rich or both.

I think society is a little biased (probably unknowingly) to protected women and children because they are the future of the species. As far as the guys go, there are plenty to spare. Pretty much the only assigned role we have in society that we - want - to perform is procreation. So when we can't make it happen, it is very discouraging.

I imagine the female version of this situation is when they get upset because they are ready to start a family, but they only encounter the jerks or non-commital guys.

I only ever approach a girl that I think might be feeling the same way. I also won't approach her unless she is a friend. Add that to the fact that it takes guts of a massive scale to get up the nerve to tell a friend that you fancy her in any way beyond what normal friends do, and what you have is an emotionally charged situation. The offense can come also in the way that the rejection comes. Be nice!

You will never know until you have been rejected yourself and actually start showing some compassion and care, and actually try and understand, and not be so judgmental and disillusioned by gender.

"I'd never want to even be seen in the same room as you."

"What in the hell makes you think I'd ever want to be seen with you?!"

"What makes you think I'd ever go out with you?"

"ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha. NO. Ha ha ha ha ha ha."

"I can't believe someone like you would ever ask me someone like me out."

Nope. Those aren't personal. Not at all.

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It depends.

I'm still really hurt from a rejection in February. But it was a really bad point in my life, and she lied to me about everything, and I believed it, so I feel more frustrated in that in spite of the fact that I should have known better, I was tricked into thinking she would be a friend. She's now dating someone I used to be friends with, so seeing them flopping all over each other still makes me sick to my stomach. It wasn't the rejection in the "date" idea as the cruel rejection afterward (and all the lying).

I get a lot of cruelty from women, when I don't deserve it. I've never pestered a girl to go out with me. I ask them out in what are supposed to be "the right ways." And I get nasty responses. and I'm respectful, even when the woman isn't.

Each time, it gets a little trickier to ask them out.

Now, for those who have actually rejected me with class and good taste, (maybe 5 girls in total) I respect them. and it isn't a big deal. But if it's an especially nasty response, I'm probably going to remember it.

I honestly don't. You always think you will beforehand (just kind of anxiety, you know) But if everybody turned me down as nicely as I've been turned down every time thus far (actually, the latest one was a bit iffy but whatever,) I'd ask someone out every day until I got accepted (kind of as a figure of speech. Of course actually doing that would be an insult to my dignity and theirs.) I don't take it as seriously when it happens as when I'm anticipating it. Does that make sense?

I don't get why you're offended. If a guy really likes you and you reject him, then it's going to really hurt.

Depends how mature the guy is. If a girl rejects me with no mixed messages, I am thankful to her for not wasting my time. Everyone, even the best guys or girls gets rejected, it doesn't matter. Just make sure you are clear the first time, and don't give mixed messages. Some people have ego's though, and can't let their pride take the fact they are not everyone's type. They just have to learn and let it go, or stay bothered by it until they decide to evolve.

Cause they are childish. Yeah, he'll get disappointed & maybe his feelings will be hurt a little but he can get over it. there's no reason to take it out on the girl. we don't HAVE to date you!

I think the only reason some men take it so damn seriously is because they really thought you were going to say yes, or they really like you a whole bunch. and most the time the guy is the one who approaches the girl and you know how hard it is to get up enough courage to actually start a conversation with a girl or guy you like and then to be rejected just doesn't feel all that great. PLUS, guys aren't as strong as girls.. come on, we give birth...haha!

I don't agree all the guys I know get rejected and get over it and find someone else!! And I know a lot of guys!! they only really get offended if they really really really like you.