Why don't girls ever ask guys out on first dates?

Cos we are forever hearing that men loose interest if the girl makes the first move, that's why, we can never win eh? :-)

When a girl asks a guy out she has to take a few things into account: 1. The rejection thing (I know it's just like guys) 2. Is he a traditionalist who thinks I'm being too "aggressive. " and 3. Is he going to take me seriously since he's not taking the lead? I've heard guys say that they would love, love, love for a girl to ask them out and then once you do, they look as if you want to take their balls and run with it. I think that a lot of girls (myself included) don't mind asking out guys but we have soo much more to take into account. We have to wonder about is he one of those men that thinks women need to play coy or is he a big boy that can handle a girl asking him out on a date. Case in point, I noticed this guy eying me for an entire year. A YEAR. Staring and the whole nine yards. Found out through the grapevine that he liked me so I finally did the deed and got his number through a friend and asked if it would be ok to call him. He said yes but it's been two weeks and lo and behold no call back. I don't know if he was turned off by the whole "girl asking guy" thing or what but that's why a lot of women back off from it. Let me know if you have any more questions.

Well part of the reason is bc they grew up thinking that its the guys job to ask them out, and it should be if you ask a girl out that shows you have the confidence to ask her out, they don't want to be the ones to do everything, they hate making decisions. It is the mans job to make the decisions and they want that, they want a leader not a follower, they don't want to lead a man they want him to lead her. If your afraid of being rejected who cares man it only makes you stronger, take it as a job interview how many jobs have you wanted to have and how many did you not get, so you didn't get the job did you go home and cry about it and hate yourself well I would certainly hope not. You went back out there and went for another job. Just take the fact that its our job to ask the girl out .

Can a peasant ask a king to go to a royal function? No, because it's not the peasants place, likewise, a girl cannot ask a guy out. The leader has to do everything. A subordinate listens and the general speaks. Now I'm not saying women are lower than men, but in today's society where a man takes control of the matter, we are in charge. We ask, we set the date, we pay, we do everything. And you just sit back and say, "No, Yes, No, Yes," like you're up for hiring and you're viewing applications. Personally I don't like it, and when it comes down to it, most guys probably don't. But men are the leaders of society and we have to act accordingly and lead in courtship as well. See I wouldn't have a problem with it if I knew I was going to get a yes every time. But then there's those times where it seems everything was there (you thought anyway) and then you get let down. It's like, are you serious? After all those signs you gave me. I don't know that's really all I have to say. If you're not going to make any moves the least you could do is help me along the way and let me know what's up so I don't have to walk into a room with no floor.

Generally speaking it's the man's job to approach. Doesn't mean a woman can't or shouldn't do it, but the way our culture is established and reinforced men are usually the ones that have to take the first step. It goes right back to evolutionary psychology. People may not agree with it and may wish to change it, but it's going to take a pretty hefty culture shift to make it happen. You're better off in the here and now getting over it and learning how to approach effectively.

A note to the women reading this: make yourselves approachable. Men have to overcome approach anxiety, fear of rejection, and raw nervousness to walk over and say hi. You can make our jobs a lot easier by projecting a positive vibe by smiling, looking around the room, having good posture, and not standing in a circle blocking people out from approaching.

If you've ever wondered why rarely any quality guys hit on you in bars that's because of the position, body language, and vibe you have when you're standing there. Make yourselves appear open to talking to men and more guys will do just that. Instead most women tell me all they get hit on is by the overaggressive and/or drunk douche bag players and they're tired of that. Well, that's what happens when only those guys feel comfortable approaching you! Make it a little easier and things will change for the better. Trust me!

MY present Girlfriend HINTED very strongly about our first date LOL but yes I did the asking. LOL
but I knew the answer wouldn't be no. Actually I liked it that way. I did the asking with no fear of rejection.

Well as a man you want to be taken as a strong, assertive type; not a weak or shy individual. For this reason when I guy takes the opportunity to ask first, then they appear confident in what they want. Girls not only love the fact they are desired verse being the one to force the desire, but they feel that this man can protect me in any situation. Even if you are a skinny guy, as long as you carry yourself as a big man then she will feel safe with you. If a girl was to ask a guy, it's not completely a bad thing. I just like the traditional way of asking a girl out.