My boyfriend won't accept me the way I am!

Well, I don't think it's wrong to have a physical preference. And I also think that a guy who settles for someone he isn't physically attracted to is more likely to cheat on his wife. I've seen a couple friends go through that. I felt bad for them, but I also sort of wondered what they were thinking letting themselves go like that.

One friend kept saying that she couldn't understand why he would cheat on her, and I finally asked if she'd put on any weight since they'd been together. She was furious at me and said that she was a perfect wife and that her weight didn't have anything to do with it. She told me that I was being ridiculous and was a total snob about anything having to do with weight. She was sort of right about the last part, but not about the rest. A short time after that her husband was drunk and told me that he just wasn't attracted to her anymore. That he loved her, but that he could barely even get hard for her. She apparently thought it was just his problem, but he said that he got hard looking at the girls in the office all the time. As to how she could be so stubborn about her weight affecting her marriage was just beyond me. I don't know how much weight she'd put on, but it was a bit. She didn't quite look like the same person as she did in old pictures. I'd say it had to be at least 30 pounds. And of course it affected her marriage. Guy's sexuality is very visual. If their partner doesn't look attractive and just looks fat then of course it's going to turn him off. And if he's surrounded with thinner, prettier women, of course he's going to want to have sex with them. I'm not saying he was right for doing what he did, but I understand what was motivating him. When I heard him talk about how difficult it had become to have sex with the woman he loved, I realized just how demoralizing the whole thing was for him.

Sorry, I babbled a bit there. I guess my point is that if he's telling you that he won't be happy unless you get in shape, I think you should listen. It's probably the truth. And you can then decide whether it's worth it to you to get in shape or not.

You weight shouldn't matter! Unless you are severely overweight and he is concerned about your health, it should not be a problem. Why should you have to change yourself just so he can take the next step in the relationship? There are plenty of men out there that will appreciate and love you and will not make you change a thing. Tell him, he can hate it or love it. if he loves it, good. if he hates it, he know where the door is!

sometime relationships mean making a change but if ur gonna do something for him he should do the same for you and make some kind of change