He told me he made a mistake in letting me go, and I told him that he made a very big mistake, which he agreed. Then he says that his feelings for me never went away and that he misses me and wants to get back with me. I told him I would maybe give him another chance, and he said that he wants to take it slow and not rush into things. What does this really mean? The thing is, he isn't doing anything to try and win me back. There is no effort, and when I talk to him, he doesn't reply/respond back. Is it because I am making myself too easy to obtain because I am just "here"? What should I do to change this? I am truly confused and I don't know if I should just cut him off completely.
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Sounds like he doesn't want to work for it. Talk is cheap.
We all value what we work for. This is especially true for men. They chase and we choose. We are the prize they win, and believe me if they care for you, they wanna win.
Now I'm not sure how hard you are wanting him to work, but playing hard to get isn't unreasonable at this point. If he wants it, put him to work. If he ain't gonna work for it then why would you compromise yourself to accommodate his needs? This just shows him that he can come back whenever he wants to. If it's this easy to come back, it'll be just as easy to leave again.
We always accept less for ourselves and expect more from the ones we love, shouldn't it be the other way around or at the very least equal?
Now, you say when you talk to him about it he doesn't respond? Well then don't talk about it with him. Show him what works and what doesn't, again hard to get. Nothing is sexier than a strong, confident woman to a man. So be fearless with your Ex, be strong and confident with him. He needs to feel that sense of loss of losing you, again. If not, it'll be you losing in the end.
Good luck to you.