His neutral attitude towards cheating concerns me. Maybe it's just my opinion, but I think cheating is wrong. If they want out of the relationship, or are mad, it's not an excuse. Leave, get out, don't look back and then they can date and sleep with whoever they want. Don't drag me through the mud and then ask me forgiveness only to do it again. Not saying everyone does it again, some people don't, but with his neutral attitude, what is keeping him from not wanting to cheat? There has to be some motivation either way.
Also, his reaction to his friend's cheating is also an area of concern. His friend cheated, got another girl pregnant and then gave his girlfriend and STD? How is that acceptable? It's a cowardly thing for his friend to do in my opinion, and completely disrespectful to his girlfriend.
I definitely think you need to have a talk with this guy. Set some boundaries, if he thinks it is okay to cheat, and that you should be okay with it, then you need to get out. I would be suspicious too. I realize that you can have friends that do things that you would never do, but his neutral attitude towards it really does concern me. It just shows that in his mind he can somehow justify it, so I would be wary.
If he gets jealous that you go out to clubs or have guy friends, then I think he is placing a double standard on you as well. How is he allowed to go out to clubs where there are girls, and chat with girls and stuff and that is okay? But it's not okay for you to talk to guys? I would honestly get out if I were you.
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Well,his sign of jealousy is good in a way, to me.
-It shows that he doesn't want to lose you..and loves you.>>to me
I would not like the fact that he hangs out with his friends who only
party and hang out with girls...nor the fact that he doesn't have an opinion
on cheaters...However, he could just be saying that because he doesn't want
to talk bad about his friends or accept the fact that they are a**holes.
I would be a little worried...but, it is normal/natural to worry. You have been
with him for 3 years now, so you must be somewhat close to each other, yes?
Why not talk to him about it? All these feelings are legit. If it were me, I would
tell him that I don't like it and it makes me uneasy when he hangs out with
his cheating friends...Also, your boyfriend is clearly not single, so he shouldn't be acting single.
If the talk does nothing, start doing what he does..to make him feel what you feel.
best wishes xx
I had a similar situation like this awhile back. My ex was jealous easily too and very possessive...come to find out it was because he was cheating. He had similar friends like your boyfriend who was always with girls, at parties, and said all of his friends cheat on their girlfriend. I personally think birds of a feather flock together so just be cautious. And it would also bother me to know that my boyfriend sees cheating as a neutral thing, I would feel more at ease to know he knew and felt cheating was wrong. So yeah just be cautious to be on the safe side.
Frankly speaking, you need to be extremely cautious. Guys like this group up to help each other score. I dumped all my guy friends that were like this once I started getting serious with my girlfriend. They would pressure me to cheat or at a minimum flirt/distract the other girl so they could score with the friend. Either way, that's not fair to my gf.
Send your girlfriends to the bar to watch what happens.
You should remain catious of a guy who thinks its not wrong to cheat regardless of him wanting to or not, because if the right morals about cheating are not there, then he has a very low opinion on loyal people to, because the way forward in any relationship is to establish your morals and prove your loyalty to your partner, if they can't do this then I believe there will be possibilities of infedelity later on,x
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Im going through a very very similar situation to yours. He to said he believes that what his friends are doing is wrong but that he also doesn't see it as completely wrong. He told me he feels that his morals are different from his friends that he wouldn't want to hurt someone by cheating like that. Im glad he said that but just like you hearing that he doesn't see what his friends do as something wrong is really scary. I dont want to judge him to harshly on this , im just a very insecure person and i dont want my imagination to run wild from something this minor.
You need to be cautious. However, it is very possible that he doesn't cheat on you. It really depends on his personality. All of my friends are promiscuous but I'm not. I just can't do it. So it depends. How many relationships has he been in?
Seriously, if you two want to make it work, you both need to find some new friends, together.
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