My girlfriend and I have been dating for five years, since high school. She is the only girl I have slept with and I was the only guy. We had been having some relationship problems as of late. Basically she told me she was going to visit her family and instead she flew down to party with MY cousin over Valentines day! While she was there she got drunk and kissed him. They then had sex but claim they didn't finish. She says she is sorry and never meant for it to happen. I don't know if I can ever get the image of the two of them out of my head. Any suggestions?
How to forgive my girlfriend of 5 years for cheating on me with my cousin?
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Hmm.. Well, you should not forgive your girlfriend of 5 years because she did do the nasty with a COUSIN of yours. Who cares if they did not finish... So, she lied to you, has gone behind your back and has been talking to your cousin planning a trip she lied about, on the most romantic day of the year and then has sex with a family member of yours, and you wonder "How" to forgive your girlfriend...Not Ex girlfriend, but girlfriend???Well, Why don't you plan a trip to meet her cousin, on your girlfriends birthday (since she got valentines day) , get drunk, kiss her cousin, have sex but don't finish..God forbid..If you finish its cheating..Then ask her for forgiveness. No, sweetie you should dump this girl and find someone who loves you and doesn't feel like keeping it in the family means kissing cousins. You can do better. It should not be How to forgive her..It should be How to dump her..
I don't believe in staying it cheating relationships! No matter whether you say you will "forgive and forget" it will never happen you will always be questioning to yourself "are they still cheating" "how can I ever trust them again" etc. It will always come up in arguments as a way to hurt the other person it's really not worth it to stay with someone who cheated on you especially with your family member. This girl lied to you and went to your cousins when she said she was going to her families so she can't use the "I was drunk" excuse she must of had some kind of plan to have lied to you in the first place. I wouldn't put myself through a self destructive relationship.
My advice to you is leave her. I been cheated on and I have been on a break for a while since its not the same I love him and I know he loves me but we are on a break so he have his fun its hurts. When someone cheats it hard to trust again I don't know if I ever will with him we do still have fun together. Good luck what the f*** was your cousin thinking if you need to chat send me a private message anytime I get how to feel at times I cry myself to sleep
I agree with ashley23, obviously she planned SOMETHING to go all the way out of her way like that. Why would she go down there if she didn't want something to happen? It just seems way to suspicious. It sounds like she went down there with the intention of doing something and then later regretted it. Do you really want to be with someone that will just sneak around behind your back like that? It might be hard because you've known her for so long, but I would just let her go.
I think you should leave her she must have intended to cheat if she lied and said she was visiting relatives and instead decided to hang with your cousin on v-day that should be a hint, but if you truly love her and believe she is sorry and you think she is worth a second chance then give it to her