If girls love to overdramatize the sins of the opposite sex, men love to overanalyze the reasons girls accept/reject them like girls are rats in a lab. My position is that men shouldn't try to be scientists and understand women like test subjects because it's just too large a sample size. Every woman will inevitably contradict every other woman in some way shape or form. Your understanding, no matter how detailed, will always be imperfect and flawed. Yes, some men understand women enough to manipulate them, but their understanding isn't from comparing them to previous women, it's more about understanding psychology, having talked to the specific woman and learned her unique weakenesses. Trying to be a scientist will just leave you with more questions than when you started because the data will seem to contradict itsel at every point.
Let's put this into real terms. You walked into a bar and a short guy walks up to a perfect 10 with lots of confidence and he pulls her from her boyfriend and they makeout. You see this and your scientific mind goes: ok, so women respond really well to confidence and maybe even better to short guys with confidence because it seems so amazing that they would be confident. This is how scientific knowledge works except there's too much variation in the species to say that this is true. Another woman may block such a man no matter what he does. Another could like the short guy but be turned off by his cockiness. You can at best notice a weak, but noticble trend about one specific "group" of women but even that is full of flaws.
I understand the desire to be a scientist about girls...it grants you an illusion of control. Oh, I know all about girls how they respond what they respond to and when and when i won't be rejected. A desire to have control is often a sign that you fear that you have no control. This is not true. You have control over yourself and over your actions and confidence even if you have none over the girl. The fact that you give a woman power to make you feel good or bad based on how she responds to you is why you feel powerless and this is what needs to be reveresed not her.
Yes, for those who have read The Game you can get to a point of social robot mastery where you can go if i do this she'll say that then if i do this she'll say that and on and on to sex, but more often than not as soon as she responds in a way you don't expect you'll be totally thrown off. What's more, there's nothing left of you in there when you give yourself up to a script.
All's I'm sayin' is you need to take off the Lab Coat, which I've certainly been guilty of on more than one occassion in the past. Yes, read books if you want, talk to guys who are successful with women, learn "The Game" as it were, but don't draw conclusions on all women from one woman. A theory I have is that because some men fear intimacy they resist saying oh this girl really likes flowers and deciding to then get her flowers they effectivily "skip" intimacy by saying oh this girl really likes flowers...all girls like flowers. I learned something new! Basically using the Lab Coat to avoid being a real person. This could be right or wrong, but it's food for thought regardless. Think about how the Lab Coat creates a distance between you and these women and think about what it would be like to stop creating judgements about all woman and rather actually see that woman standing in front of you, in a way, for the very first time, because now you're seeing her as different from every other woman on Earth.
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