I have been dating a guy for about a month and a half. things are starting to be a bit more serious now. so i had sex with him but felt absolutely nothing. i like him i do, but then we were doing it and i just felt like a robot. i felt no emotions. i did not feel bonded after at all he wanted to cuddle and in my head i was thinking ugh. but i really liked me and in general i am a person who feels a lot of emotions to people not numb. does this mean by subconscious does not trust him or doesn't really like him? why did i feel nothing to someone i supposedly liked. 6 months prior to this i did get out of a bad long term break up and i loved him. could this have something to do with it. but i feel i am over my ex so i dont know.
We finally had sex and I felt nothing even though I Like him why is this?
What Guys Said 2
Part of that could be because you have known him for only around thirty days.
In the past, men would spend months, and years, getting to know a woman (Some men still do. We are rare.) then knowing her intimately only after he has made a lifelong commitment to her in the form of marriage.
Why do you feel nothing when you had sex- maybe because the foundation was not there. There is an order to things, and it must be followed, if you desire success in life. There are no shortcuts.
Ideally, he should woo you in total abstinence, finding the innermost recesses of your heart- and loving them, as he knows he cannot live without you. This is not a shallow, simple, quick thing.
It is something that takes time. He must open himself (His heart.) up to you, and become vulnerable. He must place his heart under your feet- to trample on if he so desires... But YOU must do the same!
My guess is that you haven;t even known him long enough to become vulnerable to him. Are you capable of being vulnerable to someone? Becoming so open that you give them the power to totally destroy you?
Not just any man, or any person, but the person you want to spend the rest of your life with.
It doesn't sound like this is the case, here. It sounds like he invested a bare minimum of time, as did you, and you both jumped straight into intimacy.0
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