Has anyone else noticed that the so called players and bad boys are usually better looking than the nice guys? I don't want to seem shallow but why are the bad boys usually good looking and the good boys are usually not as good looking?
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Because good looking guys have grown up thinking that the world loves them and they can get whatever woman they want. So growing up with that mentality of "I can have her because look at me", he doesn't really grow to respect a woman. To him, women are easy. Anything that comes easy people tend not to really appreciate because they are easily replaceable. To a really good looking guy who has it going on, 99 out of 100 women are easily replaceable. The moment he comes across a better looking girl or more whatever he's looking for, he can drop you and more than likely be able to land her because he's got the stuff to do that.
So if he can get women that easily, he never really sees them as anything valuable. How do people treat things they don't see as valuable? They don't care. Maybe one day he meets a girl that really gets under his skin and such, but most of that is just rom-com trash and the guy is almost always stuck in his ways because that's how he grew up.
Guys that aren't very good looking had a rough time of the dating game, so obviously when a girl falls for him it's much more rare. She's not easy to replace. So he quickly learns the value of such relationships. He treats the person like a person because he realizes the value of people. Looks alone would never cut it for him, so he grew up thinking "Wow, it kind of sucks when people don't value you just because you're not good looking". People who are really good looking don't get an accurate view of humanity the way others do, because people are always treating them differently based on their looks.
These people who are average, below average, whatever have you look wise, they appreciate the reality that being dismissed for shallow factors sucks, that it probably equally sucks for other people, and so they don't want to treat others that way- since they been there. The whole empathy/sympathy thing comes into play.1