Do you mind if a girl is not a virgin anymore?

It's been looping in my head since yesterday. My girl friend told me a story. The guy she's been dating for 2 months dumped her. She's not sure why but he dumped her the day after they had sex. It didn't bleed. She's a dancer btw. So I guess it's normal. She's thinking if that's the reason because the guy also asked her why it didn't bleed.

What do you think?


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Most Helpful Guy

  • It really doesn't matter whether the girl is a virgin or not. This preoccupation with virginity disappears once you get a little older. Adults don't expect other adults to be virgins. When you do run across one, it's very rare.
    Many girls don't bleed their first time. The hymen can often be broken during any kind of very physical activity from riding a horse, to gymnastics and so forth.
    If the guy broke up with the day after, he was a loser anyway. She shouldn't invest anymore time in him and holdout for somebody that cares about her.

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    • It does not become very rare until around the mid 20s. So at this point in time (I am 20), I expect my first partner to be a virgin. She can be anywhere from 18-20.

What Guys Said 4

  • I'm a virgin so I would prefer a virgin but I'd I found a girl I really liked but had a history, I'd still date her as long as it wasn't a lot. I wouldn't date a girl with over 3 partners, that's my limit but I feel like a lot of girls lie about that sort of thing so I'm probably never going to know for sure :/

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  • No because I am not a virgin. If I was then I could see not wanting her. But that was a long time ago.

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  • To me, it's a dealbreaker. If I am a virgin myself, I expect my first partner to be a virgin too. It is only mutual that way.

    I understand people make mistakes and I am not discounting them as a person, but I have my standards and this is one thing out of several things I seek in a woman

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  • I dont think it matters at all , but someone might think differently.

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What Girls Said 1

  • He used her for sex and that's it. Nothing to do with her not bleeding. He dumped her the day after! What kind of person does something like that? Not all girls bleed, only when your hymen is completely intact and not damaged by physical activities and tampon use. Everyone knows this, including young men. In your age group especially! So make your conclusions. He had sex and the day after he dumped her. In any normal situation we would say the guy used her for sex. This is situation is not different. He just wanted to pop it.. many people fantasize about having sex with a virgin, including women. Doesn't mean they want to have a relationship. And yes some people would go as far as dating someone for a while to be able to do it, and than they dump you. She should have waited longer than 2 months before giving it away. 2 months is nothing, time goes so fast.

    Anyone dumping for not bleeding needs to be illiminated (who still believes in that bleeding is a sign of virginitylol) Tell you're friend she's lucky that this guy is out of her life. If he was serious about her he would have not have dumped her ass after sex.

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