after answering a question I started to think that dating 1 year above and 3 below was normal. what are YOUR preferences? id like to see answers from both boys and girls. (men/women...whatever makes you feel good and important inside) =) lol
Im 19 and my boyfriend is 24, we've been together for a bit more then 2 years. When I was younger I also dated a guy for two years who was older then me. When we met I was 15 and he was 20.
So basically, what I'm trying to say is that age is not really important, but rather the connection and feelings shared between the two people involved in the relationship. The level of maturity of both counts way more then the age.
In my opinion, the age difference we have is perfect. I would never date a guy my age. Guys who are 19 are just looking for causal things and to have sex with as many random girls as possible, they are basically still 'playing the field'. I actually think it's a good thing they do that, cause then when they are older they will have experienced all they wanted to and can then have a serious relationship. Basically, that's what I believe.
Age difference is perfectly normal and acceptable, and long as its not a 15 year old girl with like a 40 year old guy. Yeah, ok then there are limits. But a 6, 8 year difference or whatever is fine ;).
I'm somewhat strict... I believe in life stages, and when I look for a relationship, I want to find someone with a comparable life stage to my own. I think the lines/ages of what defines a life stage get blurry the older you get, but that there are definite stages of progression. For instance, my highschool self was very different than my college self, which was very different from my early 20's self, and my now late 20's self. That's not to say that crossing lifestages can't work, but I do think it takes more thought, effort, and communication to bridge the gap.
When I was 25, I went on a couples date with a 21 year old guy and decided I couldn't date him - I felt like I was robbing the cradle! He felt and seemed much younger than me and I was actually worried that I could hurt him as he seemed too innocent. I met my current boyfriend when I was 27 and he was 24, and I sometimes joke to him that if he was one year younger, we would never have been a couple. However, he came across more like a guy in his late 20's... and so far, it works!
It completely depends on the age of the individuals. My 14 year old daughter would date a 19 year old guy over my dead body. (Though a lot of 14 year olds may disagree...until they turn 30.) A 30 year old and a 40 year old is fine. I agree with the simple "within your category" guildeline, for the most part. My Boyfriend is 3 years younger than I am, but we are both in our 30's. I would not have dated him when I was 17 and he was 14.
Avoiding possible harm or abuse to the youngest is WAY more important than preferences, "feeling good and important inside".
Focussing on "whatever makes you feel good and important inside" is what makes some older guys preying on girls too young to resist their experience and tricks.
Do not count in years(absolute data) but count in percentage: + or -10%, + or -15% , + or - 20%, + or - 25%
It takes evolution into account
It's best to use the age of the youngest of both as reference:
if the youngest is 16 ,
16+15%=+ 2yrs=18yrs
16+ 20%=+3yrs=19yrs
16+25%=+4yrs=20yrs
I would suggest not to exceed an age difference of 15% of the age of the youngest.
Another rule of the humb I read: take half of the age of the oldest and add 7 years: that should be the MINIMUM age of the youngest.
Simplest way is to date within your age category: Middle Shool, High School, College, University, avoiding 'professional students' of course. LOL.
On year younger to two years older. I can't date anyone my brothers age or younger because that's weird to me, but I hate those old school movies where the dame is hot, sexy, and filled with life ad promise, and she gives it up because she fell for an old giezer (sometimes they are slighty attractive, sometimes not). So I won't go older than that. It's gross. (for me anyway)
This is a question that often plagues couples with a significant age difference.
How much is too much? Does it really matter?
There is no easy answer, as each couple is different and each relationship is unique. Age differences can make for interesting dynamics and can add fuel to the fire of a passionate relationship. But they can also create challenges that must be addressed.
Here are a few things to consider when trying to answer the question of how much of an age gap is okay for a relationship:
Obviously, the older the couple is, the greater the age gap can be. A 20-year age difference is significant when one partner is in their 60s and the other in their 40s. But when both partners are in their 20s, it's not as big of a deal.
Age isn't the only factor to consider. It's also important to think about where each person is in their life. Are they in the same stage? For example, are both partners in college? Or are one of them starting their career while the other is starting a family?
What are the couple's goals for the relationship? Are they on the same page about what they want out of life? Do they want the same things in the short-term and the long-term?
Even if the couple is the same age, they may not be at the same stage in life or have the same goals. But if they're compatible, that's a good sign. Compatibility is more important than age when it comes to relationships.
Communication is key in any relationship, but it's especially important in relationships with a large age difference. Couples need to be able to talk about their expectations, their goals, and their concerns.
No one can tell you what is right for your relationship. Ultimately, you and your partner need to decide what is best for you. But these are some things to consider when trying to answer the question of how much of an age gap is okay for a relationship.
How many years is too far apart to date? It's a question that often plagues couples who are in long-term relationships. Is it better to stay together or break up? The answer, of course, is that it depends on the couple. Some couples who are several years apart find that they have more in common than couples who are the same age. Other couples find that the age difference is too much of a barrier to overcome.
There are a few things to consider when deciding whether or not to date someone who is significantly older or younger than you:
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I have gone 4 years older and right now would only go 2 years below. At my age now (24) guys that I know under the 2 years tend to still be in school, having fun and all that, rather than thinking seriously about a relationship. As for the older age gap, my sister is 3 years older than me and I will not date anyone older than her boyfriend at the moment. I tried it before and it just got awkward for some reason.
depends on how old you are. and if your a guy or girl.
for a girl under 18: 2 above 1 below
over 18: 4 above and 1 below
for a guy under 18: 1 above and 3 below
over 18: 3 above and 3 below
thats justmy take on it
Im 17.
Younger: About 1 or 2 years.
Older: 2 or 3.
Thats just my take on it tho.
I think that as you get older though, age difference doesn't really seem to matter so much. It's how much you like the person. Whatever there age. Not like a 16 year old with a 40 year old. But you get what I mean. :)
haha no not at all music is just a big part of my life
i'm 20 I'd date someone 26 27 and the youngest I'd go is 18
2 years younger and 3 years older...its a 5 point spread
I'm 20 and the age ranges I would date a guy would be 19-24.
I like a girl who is 19 and im 27 and yes i respect all women young and older
Jessica Alba is 16 years older than me...
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