Am I being really, really naive? It's our first time meeting and he wants to go for a drink/ meal then me go back to his to just hang out and stuff. I've made it really clear nothing would happen aha and he said he wouldn't try anything that would make me feel uncomfortable, he just really wants me to like him apparently. I don't mean this in a big headed way but basically he doesn't see himself as attractive and thinks he's punching way above his weight with me, I think he is genuine. I haven't really told anyone about this to get their advice so any advice on here would be great!
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You're not a little girl ya know... it's okay too stay at people's places :p Like you say... it's just a sleepover ^_^ Just a cuddle and a movie :) I'm not gonna pounce on you ;p ahaha. It's just nice to cuddle someone to sleep <3 xxxxx
uhhh what do you think? :/
Most Helpful Guy
"You're not a little girl ya know"
that comment concerns me. it's rather disrespectful and shows that he isn't really considering the true nature of your concerns for being at someone's house on a first date.
I'd frankly just stick with your plan if you aren't entirely comfortable going to his house. go on the date. maybe see how things are going but certainly feel alright with not going to his place afterwards.
if he's a legit guy looking for a legit relationship he should respect you and your decisions rather than mock them with comments like "you're not a little girl"2
Most Helpful Girl
It could go either way, to be honest. You have to use your best judgement to decide whether he's shady or not.
On the first date I had with my boyfriend he asked me to go to his place to hang out and play video games after we chatted at the pub. This was daytime.
Nothing in his behaviour set off any alarm bells, so I agreed. He didn't try anything, we just talked lots, played some video games and kissed once. I spent then night and we cuddled each other to sleep.
That's my story, still with the guy nearly 4 years later.
Most people would find such an invite to be suspicious as fuck and it's understandable. Tread carefully. He could be a shitbag, but he could also just be a genuinely decent guy that means you no harm and just wants cozy company.1