How do some girls get boyfriends easily and others don't?

So, I went to high school with this girl. She is one of the most annoying people I have ever met in my entire life, no joke, hardly anyone can stand to be around her. Not only that, but she is also not the most attractive woman to walk the earth, to put it kindly. What I am wondering is how she, and other women similar to her (I feel horrible saying this, but we all know they are out there), can easily get a boyfriend, when other women (such as myself) remain without one? Now I am not saying that I am this great catch, but I know that I am well liked by everyone who knows me and I am fairly pretty. I don't mean to come across as a narcisisst, I am simply curious.


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Most Helpful Guy

  • In all fairness I have often wondered the same thing, about both guys and girls, and while I am not professing to have developed some sort of study on the issue, I have determined that it comes down to a couple of key factors, one is availability in the sense that if you make it known that you are easily available to others, then you may increase your level of attainability, if you know you can be had, then people will have you, secondly it comes down to circulation. I say this in the sense that while you can't be attractive to everybody the more you circulate the greater the odds are that somebody will find you attractive and thus want to be around or with you. Another way to think of it, is think of movie stars, not referring to obviously glamorous types, think of someone like Kevin James (No I'm not saying he's ugly either) just that he doesn't fall into the same category as say Brad Pitt, my point is while it is true he is funny, and girls like funny guys, if you go on the basis of looks alone, he may not be regarded as much as Mr. Pitt, however because he has been successful and in many different films, his image is widely circulated and given this level of circulation, there are bound to be some women who find him attractive, so lets say that because he is on the silver screen (I know I'm dating myself) that 650,000 women have had the opportunity to look at him for at least 1.5 hours and of those women 1% found him attractive that means that about 65,000 women found him attractive, and honestly even if it was half that amount and around 35,000 that is a LOT of people to find one person attractive. Now obviously it isn't really practical to circulate THAT much, but I'm just trying to say the more you circulate the more likely it is you will find a match. That is if you are looking. ;-)

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Most Helpful Girl

  • If you think about it really hard, do you think the guys she dates are attractive? Good quality? Trying to get somewhere? Chances are, if the guys are not attractive nor good quality, or trying to become successful in life, they're probably losers... And the best chance they have are getting with girls who makes herself open to any guy.. Whereas a girl with dignity and respect for herself will not do so, whether she's "attractive" or not. It honestly depends on how she presents herself, and from what you've said, she makes herself an easy target for low-lifes to take advantage of.

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What Guys Said 17

  • I understand your dilemma fully and please don't worry about struggling to try to explain it any further.
    It's the age old dilemma of the courtship between men and women.
    It's actually very simple but we humans with our big brains over complicate it. You can see it happening all around us in nature. Iam sorry to say but its the truth. To make the initial breakthrough its about desire and the thought of sex. Women who understand this know they have to make it look like you might be prepared to have sex if you like the man.
    This is what initially attracts men.
    Whether you choose to be sexual or not is totally up to you.
    Once your guy is interested then you can start the courtship routine.

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  • Cause some girls try more than others.
    Cause some girls are prettier than others.
    Cause some girls are willing to have sex right away.

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  • Sometimes guys especially in high school end up with the girls that are less of a catch because it's easier for them. They don't have to try very hard, they might feel like the girl really worships them, and also ofc the girl might be quick to give hjs, bjs, sex etc and guys might know that

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  • A person's appeal isn't a consistent degree to everyone. Some may find her looks appealing and some may not. Some will even prefer a partner to be average or below average for various reasons. Many people have lots of preferences. In my opinion the way to have access to a lot of potential boy friends is to be in social situations with your peers in order to have those opportunities. If you show some interest in guys you're interested that may help too :)

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  • It really has to do with being social with guys and being open to the idea of relationships with them while the guy is desperate enough to overlook her bitchy behavior.

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  • because some girls actually do something for it :D they don´t just wait to have a guy ask them out. social skills are very helpfull.

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    • ok, what would what you recommend one should do?

    • @nalaa talk to people. show them that you like them, if you like them. be assertive. ask them out if they´re worth it.

  • Same way some guys get girlfriends easily.

    I think it's mostly just being attractive...

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  • Listen! If you are a hot girl, most of the time guys will dream of you, but feel stressed talking and going for you!
    For your friend, I guess mean girls always brave in talking with guys!
    My point! Girls! of course guys are required to step up. But you should help them.
    You you! whoever you are, if you like a boy it's fine if you let him know in a smart way.
    And you will get the hottest fucking guy.
    The worst thing I dislike in girls is pride, I know girls who I think they like me but none of them opened the door for me, helped me a bit. Because I hate it if I run for a girl without knowing whether she will disappoint me or accept me.
    I am just saying.
    Be opened :)

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  • Guys like girls who are attractive? i would like girl that aren't attractive to other guys at all but to me she is very. But also she have to be really Grown up but stll be childish. Maybe it;s what i called different from other humans? not shallow? I don't know i know few words.

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  • Good girls go to heaven, bad girls go every
    where. Lol.

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  • Probably because she is very outgoing. Will seem more approachable.

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  • Those girls tend to flirt more and are more obvious that they're attracted to them

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  • confidence

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  • They have both physical attraction going for them and the confidence/experience to get another boyfriend.

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  • Yeah, but what's the quality of her boyfriends. Are they just loser betas just happy to be getting laid?

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  • Men are shy lol

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What Girls Said 4

  • I have noticed this pattern too. 😨
    Like I used to have a classmate which was kinda below average (both body and face), hadn't got anything in her head as well and she has already had more boyfriends than fingers I have...
    It's a mistery for me too. 😂

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  • I believe they put themselves out there and just go for the kill 😂
    They're not very picky either.

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  • You have probably turned down guys right? She probably doesn't.

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  • It's not always great to have a boyfriend. Believe me. When you get really deep into the relationship, and then all of the things that can happen. I try to hide everything from everyone, I never tell anyone the troubles I go through. I love my boyfriend, we see each other every Saturday, but during the week, he never talks to me, never answers his texts or anything. It's a lot of pain I go through. And then I've been cheated on twice, both boyfriends I've had. It's extremely depressing. When the first one cheated, I was depressed for months, didn't eat. And my best friend and family were there for me, but the second time I was alone, I didn't have anyone there for me. It almost made me wish I just stayed single instead of having a boyfriend at all, would have saved me the pain.

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