In terms of the dating world... I have signed up for a new app. I have spoken to 3 guys so far...
Guy number 1: I sent him a like first and the next day he reciprocated with a message. He took forever to reply to my messages. He would apologise a lot and say it's because of work. I let it slide, we exchanged numbers after a while and the same thing happened. He would take forever or ignore my messages and blame his phone. I cut him off, he still tried to get in contact shortly after.
Guy number 2: He sent a like first and messaged me. I recognised him from my high school and surprisingly he knew who I was too. I added him on Facebook (we have mutual friends). The conversation flowed throughout the day until he said good night and he'd talk to me the next day. He didn't follow up but I didn't hold it against him since we barely know each other like that. We haven't spoken since (only been two days).
Guy number three: I sent a like, he did the same and messaged me. We have only exchanged like three messages between us. He apologised and said he didn't use the app that much, he still continued the conversation. I feel like he is going to turn out like the first guy tbh. In my eyes I thought if someone was interested they would make the effort? Or do I need to give it more time to figure the person out?
Most Helpful Guy
I used to always think "take is slow" means lack of interest. Then I realized that is not the case all the time.
I have realized that I am an "emotional and social microwave", as in I warm up to people emotionally and socially very quickly. I am still learning to exert more patience with people in that regard.0
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It really depends on the individual themselves, I don't like to group people in one category.
Some people generally speaking, aren't texters and will take forever to get back to you (Just for the simple fact--that isn't their preferred method of contact)---These types of people, I usually text and ask them if its okay for me to call them, or can we keep contact that way.
On the other hand,
Some people ARE texters are not interested in you so that is why they do not respond immediately or at all.
You really have to know who you are dealing with.
A way to see if someone is really interested in me, I stop texting them for a while and see how long it takes them to text me.
If I see that they are at least initiating contact with me, I figure it's because they're a poor texter and that is all.
If they don't text me unless I text them, they I think its because they lack interest.
The way I see texting is that,
It is made for short-messages.
Real conversations should be made on the phone.