It varies from person to person. I'm a little north of 35, but I was there recently, haha. 20... iffy. I mean, from an attraction standpoint, sure, no problem. I don't think there will ever be an age when girls that age won't LOOK GOOD to me, but when we're talking practicality of relationships, if assume that would be a tough situation. From my end, the first thing I'd consider is the public perception. At my age, many people would probably look at me like I was taking advantage of a young girl, or that it's creepy for me to show any type of attraction. That depends on the person, some people do the "age is just a number" thing, others are weirded out by even a five year age difference. The younger you are, the more those gaps matter and the larger they seem. Like if an 18 year old was with a 25 year old I, or someone else, might question the 25 year old's motives. But if I, at 37, dated a 30 year old, would you even think anything of it? Same age difference, but once you're far removed from childhood you realize we're all adults here. All that said, I would probably hook up with a 20 year old in the right situation, but a relationship, that might work in the present, but when I'm 47 and she's still only 30, is she still going to want to be with me? You just can't be shortsighted is all. Also, to your point, any 20 year old girl I knew now, I'd kind of just assume they'd think I was too old for them, so I might not even let my mind wander down that road in the first place. So he might think you like him in a friendly way, and he may even like you romantically, but just has it ruled out in his head. Anyway, if I were to be realistic, 25+ is probably what I should be shooting for in terms of relationships and being in the same places in life. Like if she's 20, she might want to go out a lot, maybe on unconventional nights due to being in school and not working full time. Meanwhile, I have Friday and Saturday night for that, every other night I need to be home and ready to wind down to get up early for my 9-5 job. So if probably bore the hell out of the average 20 year old, even if we were cool with the age gap. I wouldn't rule it out altogether, everything is case by case, but that's my guess.
I'm 46 and I date women in their (mid-late) 20s to 30s. My main criteria is that they've lived on their own, so they understand what it's like to be responsible for themselves. People who've never done that usually don't understand why you can't go out and party and have fun and do whatever you like. Until they've had to decide between eating and replacing the bald tires on their car, and having to go into work when they are sick and work a 12 hour shift because otherwise they won't be able to keep the power on, they don't really "get it."
Other than that, age isn't a big deal to ME. It might be a big deal for HER, though.
I had a lot of run-ins with older men in general I don't like them or I haven't liked the ones who were after me, they can be too controlling and possessive. They also tended to view my age as a fetish for them and tried to get sexual too fast, Plus I found that age doesn't always = maturity. I do have a few older male (and female) friends though just because of my interests in writing and playwriting. Also because of the fact that I like to run in academic social circles and many academic types are older obviously. I am glad I chose someone my own age but I like older men as friends and mentors. It could certainly work with the right person though but there are always challenges!
I'm 24 but I don't date guys younger than myself due to bad experiences with immature guys in the past. So the youngest I date is my current age, and the oldest is about 7yrs older (max). However, I know there's a huge difference between what a 25yr old wants compared to a 35yr old guy. That's only a 10 yr difference for me, for you its 15.
Go for it and follow your heart. You're only going to know if you ask him, otherwise you'll always be wondering. However you need to be extremely careful. He might break your heart, or you might break his when he wants a family and you're just starting your career...
So I've been with a guy that was 12 years older than me and it was a lot of fun and worked for us for many years. He was the baby of his family so a little immature and I was mature for my age so we were equals for the most part for a long time... HOWEVER, I kept maturing and he remained the same so it caused a LOT of struggle in our relationship cause we were never in the same place at the same time... expectations and priorities are constantly evolving as we age so there are brief moments when they may be the same but it can quickly change so that's something worth considering..
I'm doing this the other way around here considering I'm a woman.
When I was 21, I was with a man who was 32. I know the age gape bothered me. He often said that when he began college, I was 8... and it felt so weird to him.
As for me, I find older men hot but... I would constantly think about all the differences it brings. With that man, we didn't have the same cultural backgrounds and that alone bothered me.
Now, my boyfriend is my age and we share so much because of our age alone.
You are a fool to date a 35-year-old. First of all you will find out that if you do date him, he is using you for sex. I say this because you have nothing in common with a 35-year-old man other than sex.
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u I am 61. I would date a woman as young as 40 if we were a good match but, realistically, anyone that young is probably not going to be a good match for me.
i;m 20 and the youngest I would date is 19, oldest is 27.
Iam 50 and young intelligent women who have a mature mind. Still attract me in their early 20s. Iam comfortable in their company. I have 2 God daughters at uni who like going out for a drink and chatting.
If I'm in a pub or a bar or even coffee shop I seem to all ways end up chatting to the bar staff waitresses or a young woman I know by acquaintance..
Just feel they like the conversation and feel very comfortable.
The more academic and intellectual seem to like the maturity of an older guy.
So no don't think the way you do. Just be open and a little forward. He'll get the message.
Once I was 32 and had a year long relationship with a 19 year old, I think it is good if you are in to it, but hard because of life experiences and expectations... what if it gets serious and he wants to settle down, you have not really had a chance to explore, and your mind changes a lot as you mature... so unless its a hook up, it might be difficult to sustain a relationship unless your willing to give up a lot.
I'm 46 and married, and while I won't lie I have seen many attractive young women out there, in all fairness I'm not sure I would really be all that interesting in dating them, not because I'm not attracted, but because I'm afraid I wouldn't have anything to talk to them about. So in all fairness I believe the youngest I would be willing to date might be late 20's through early 30's and even then we would have to have SOMETHING in common.
best judge of age is Half your age plus 7. At least as far as not being in the "creepy" realm. However I am 47. I would probably go 37. I don't actively look for anyone younger then 40. But when you find the right person, age kinda takes a backseat. But that is only true to a point. Nobody my age finds the right woman that happens to be 18 or 21. lol.. that is just sex.
so as with most questions on this site "it depends"
Well, you two are at different phases in life. Sometimes when the gap is too large it's impossible to make things work because there isn't much you have in common.
However , I always find that men are typically much older than the women they choose. If both people have chemistry and are into each other , they can make it work.
I know the guy is the right one when I'm not focused on his age and can literally just enjoy him.
I am 67 and would date any girl of any age if she liked me enough. When I was 35 I dated an 18 year old and it was good. Strictly speaking there are problems. If she was 20 and wanted to go clubbing, I been there and done that and the bouncers probably would not let me in. Also, a girl too young would not have the sexual experience I would need, I would end up being like her teacher so yes there are problems with an age gap that is too big.
I'd say 24 is probably the youngest.
They say the best rule of thumb is take half your age, and add 7 to get the "youngest" you should date. Of course, as a 60 year old guy, you could date a lot younger than 37, and it wouldn't seem like such an issue. But it gives you a decent idea...
I'm 28, I think 23 is my lower limit for a serious relationship. But I like mature, independent educated girls, while a lot of men older than me really wouldn't mind dating a 20-year old girl. So the question is, what does he value in a girlfriend and can you give that to him?
I am 20 and the youngest I would date is 16. The oldest is 26. I like older girls because they are more mature and exhibit a certain sense of tenderness that really attracts me. But as selfish and shallow as this sounds, I would not want to marry one since it would mean that she has less years of physical beauty left opposed to a younger woman who will remain sexier for a longer time.
I'm 34 and "technically" I'd date an 18 year old, but "practically" it's not very likely I'd want to deal with an 18 year old girl. Don't write your guy off, we still get attention from young women, so it's not like we feel old at this age... It's just the life experience can be a little too unbalanced between some people.
to be honest.. sometimes i even hesitate to go for younger women.. he is 35yo and your 20? honestly, im pretty sure for him its just pure fun and trying to feel young.
whatever makes you happy dear.
as long as your mature and know about life situations, we will get along... i seriously question why a 35yo would date a 20 year old.. other than for sex, i dont know
Not a guy, but im 21 and i dont think i would date anyone younger than me. It just feels weird for some reason. My boyfriend is 23 and i think thats the perfect age for me☺️ I think i just feel comfortable dating someone just a bit older but still around my age range! For some odd reason i've always had crushes on guys exactly 2 years older haha.
My limit is about 10 years either direction. I did date a 19 year old when I was in my early 30s and it honestly didn't work out very well. Mostly because of conflict with my 13 year old daughter (age difference between them was 6 years, between us 14) and the issue of children, she wanted one and I had already done that so... just so you know we are still friends.
I honestly really doubt it would work long-term even if it worked out at first. The difference in life experiences and maturity is too great. The older you get the less the age difference matters, but even at 25 I wouldn't date anyone under 20. By the time I'm 30 I wouldn't date anyone under like 23-24 most likely.
I'm 19 and honestly even thinking about dating a 16 yr old makes me a little uncomfortable. Like, it's just 3 years, I get that. But she's a highschool jr and i'm going into my second year of college. There's too big of a gap y'know? Now if i was like 25 I probably wouldn't have an issue dating a 19/20 yr old.
Is that weird?
I wouldn't have a problem going on a date with a woman as young as 18. I don't suspect we would have enough in common to want to keep dating, but I would have no problem giving her a shot with a first date. Since I have never dated much younger women, I can't say for certain if the age difference would be a problem for me. All I can say is that I would be willing to give her a shot, even though I am pessimistic about us having much in common.
Most would be 5 years difference. Maybe 6 or possibly 7 but it's likely she would be too immature and realistically it doesn't make sense if we're talking about serious long term relationships.
E. g 15 years. He'd be 60 and you'd be 45
There's an old saying that I learned from an Italian man. Marry / date a woman half your age + 7. And that was with any age. Unsure when the cutoff of that, but even for someone who's 40, that's 27, and someone who's 50 that's 32.
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