My crush won't date me because I'm an American woman?

Both me and my crush were born and raised in America. Hell, he loves America. Has the flag, loves guns and all that stuff. But when I asked why he never asked me out on a date he told me, "I'm never going to date or marry an American woman." He told me that American women are just the worst wives and mothers and I was like, "What the fuck?" So I thought he was all butt hurt because no girl liked him in the past or something. But It turned out, he's had 5 girlfriends in the past and all of them cheated on him. So I thought, maybe he's just a bad boyfriend? But how can that be? his friends and family love him and so do I. He respects everyone and is always up for helping you at the drop of a hat. So what the hell is his problem? Why won't he date me just because I'm an American just like him?


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Most Helpful Guy

  • He's been hurt a few times and he's associated that difficulty with American women. That may not be fair to you. the issue may be he is attracted to the wrong type of person and thus he isn't drawn to you because you aren't messed up like his sub conscious mind requires. Make sense... he needs some counseling... like 6-12 months. But how do you convince him to get counseling when he views it as the other women are the problem.
    Why do you want him so much, he's hurt? it may say something about you as well.

    That said, philippino women, I've seen several examples of, are simpler and good catches for wives. They just aren't as emotionally complex, spoiled rich, difficult. I've seen multiple men go there and find wives and be happy with them.

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Most Helpful Girl

  • Who cares, he sounds like an idiot anyway. He's just bitter and you should find a guy who doesn't make a big deal about what country you are from.

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What Guys Said 12

  • Oh come on, so every girlfriend he's been with has cheated on him, and it's his fault? xD You're just proving his point that American women are the worst.

    He sounds bitter due to his past experiences... I don't blame him though, getting cheated on must suck, and 5 times, by 5 different girls, every girlfriend he's had? That must be really tough.

    Just forget about him, why would you try getting this guy when he wants nothing with you? Move on.

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  • So the 5 girls cheating on him is his fault for being a bad boyfriend? lol. I'm sorry, but that's the only part of this question I could focus on...

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  • You're a bitch for putting any sort of blame on him for being emotionally hurt. Change your ways. You would probably be a terrible girlfriend anyways with that attitude always putting blame on him for your mistakes and when he makes a mistake it's the end of the world. Do us all a favor and stick to just casual sex and don't go into a relationship please.

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  • is this really the kind of person u wanan date?

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  • What shithole is he really from?

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    • We're from the same town. Born and raised. I think the problem is that he used to date those hood girls. But I'm not like them.

  • He's had his heart broken five times... I'm assuming.
    That doesn't necessarily mean there's something wrong with him.

    Maybe he's worried it'll happen again. Ask him to give you one chance, might take some convincing.

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  • What an asshole

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  • 5 gfs? Who could blame him.

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  • hun I wouldn't date you either

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  • well i dont blame him

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  • He sounds controlling and manipulate. Probably why the girls cheated. Look at how he articulated women in America. He sees them as baby producers. He refers to them as the worst wives and mothers. Says nothing about personality or work ethic. Would you really want to date him?

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    • Would a girl date a guy who is a bad father and husband?

    • No I just know from previous abusive relationships of my friends and close ones thats how abusive thinkers see things.

    • He's not abusive. If anything his past girlfriends sounded abusive from what his friends and family say.

  • I've never been able to feel a romantic connection with anyone from my country, but I have with girls from mainland Europe. Maybe it's a familiarity thing or something?

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What Girls Said 8

  • I don't blame him tbh. I kind of want to leave the country and find a good husband bc American men suck

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  • He keeps going for the worst kind of women without realizing it.

    Though that kind of happened to me, after 12 failed relationships. The only one that's worked out amazingly and till going after 4 years, is a dude from Portugal. :D

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  • he's not at fault. He just know himself. Dont lash out because of that.

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  • forget him

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  • He has issues

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  • My ex was "good" guy in people's eyes but behind all that... ugh I just hate him... you need to ask him why that's the only way to change his mind or yours (maybe?)

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  • uhhh what?

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  • What a dick

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