Does having sex too early (on the second to fifth date) ruin the relationship? Does it always make the guy lose respect for the girl and not see her as relationship material? If you've had sex too soon, can you back track and save the relationship?
I am someone who likes to take his time and settle into a relationship, so having my girlfriend push for sex early on will make me anxious about the relationship and whether or not she's in it for the right reasons.
- I've known some that began really slowly. They were together for a year or two before they had sex (highschool). Those two (aunt and uncle) are married with children to this day. Still actually pretty happy from what I see and how they interact.
On the flip side, I know my friend (who just had her baby) started sleeping with her boyfriend on the 2nd date. They've been together for almost 2 years, are still quite happy.
I also know where having sex too early has ruined things for people. Or they waited too long and also ruined it.
- - So to be perfectly honest, do it when you feel ready. If you're ready to join the man's bones after date #2 he's doing something right. ;)
I don't get in a rush to have sex in any given time frame actually. I really prefer it happen through natural coarse of time and circumstances. I'm not going to dump her solely based on the fact it hasn't happened within a set time frame unless it's obvious that she has no plan to have sex at all
Hell if they don't put out I give up all together after the 2nd-5th date. Like most guys I tend not to see them as relationship material anyway whether they put out or not (and I quit pretending I did just to get laid long ago, got tired of the drama when the truth could no longer be hidden).
In my opinion having early sex has nothing to do with respect but everything to do with preference/values/lifestyle.. etc. For me, I value spending long time with a person before having sex.. In other words, I choose to put "significance" on sex. just like other people "choose" to put significance on birthdays, turning 21, Superstitions.. etc. Life is cold without those ;) but point is: no.. Respect is not lost unless it was never present in the first place.
Depends on the type of relationship. For example, Someone who will give their body for something in return (attention, gifts, etc) Or giving their body because they want to be even closer to the person they love Both consensual, but you tell me which sounds like there is more respect?
No, not necessarily. It really just depends on the couple. Also, what constitutes "too early" is subjective as well. Basically, if you trust your partner and feel that it's the right time then that's fine. There's no time limit for how long you have to wait in order to have sex. I think it's more of a matter of making sure you're with the right person and just relying on your own best judgment.
No. If you feel like the guy loses respect for you and doesn't see you as relationship material after you had sex, regardless of how soon or 'late', he never saw real potential in you for a serious relationship in the first place.
Depends on the relationship Current one it hasn't. Past one it did.
No. I believe that when it's meant to be, it's meant to be. I also think that the idea that having sex early ruins the relationship is an excuse used by men to dump women they have no interest in. Just an excuse
Depends on more than that. Sometimes personalities shine, or two people click very well, sometimes it's just whatever... There's more too. But really, more than sex will come into these decisions. Apart from first dates I guess, because then he doesn't really know her.
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