Is it sad that I was never once asked to homecoming or prom in high school?

[Theaveragegirl]

It's still only been a year since I graduated so it still kind of makes me sad. I'm a cute girl, I'm in shape and pretty. Maybe not the prettiest girl in my school but it seemed I was literally one of the only girls in my high school who never ONCE got asked to any dance. It still hurts my self-esteem and to this day whenever a guy insults me or dumps me I think that it's because I'm ugly, even though I'm not really

[Anonymous]

According to your comments 80% of the girls got asked. You asked 1 and gave up.
According to statistics if every guy asked a random girl every guy got rejected about 3-6 times. (Let's ignore the case where he just asks his girlfriend.) So think about giving up after the first one.
Getting asked for a dance is more about your vibes being a dance partner and your visibility than about your looks.
I also wanted to be part of the official dancers of the opening ceremony of my prom but until I got the word of it all girls seemed to be taken. I asked a few but all said "taken". While a full meeting for the preperations I randomly mentioned that I would like too. One of the girls mentioned that she also didn't have a partner and she wouldn't mind. If I hadn't mentioned it, at least me and the girl would have been without partner and I don't know how many else. So it was pure luck.
Also most guys/girls have their SO, crush or favorite dance partner in mind to ask first. After most are taken you would need to ask who isn't taken so you don't get rejected 10 times.
I don't now the customs where you were but where I know you could also ad hoc ask someone else for a dance even if he has someone else.
So next time just go for it and don't give up after the first time :)

[adviser962]

Honestly its most likely the guys were intimidating by how attractive you are. If a girl is too attractive then guys won't ask because they Dont think they have a chance. Its on them not you. But anyway wanna go to prom with me? Lol

[Theaveragegirl]

I'd be glad to

[adviser962]

Great!! Now I successfully asked a girl to prom! After graduating high school a year ago. Way to go me! Lol but seriously its not you that's at fault they missed out.

[LilMelanie129]

I say, no. It's just life, and it really doesn't matter outside of high school, it's just a stupid dance, where the teachers and school staff don't even let you do stuff. So I don't think it's sad, plus boys aren't really worth it in high school.

[Theaveragegirl]

It's really not about the dances it's just the fact that I felt like I wasn't good enough to be asked. But still, you're right

[LilMelanie129]

Every girl is worth it, it's just not the right time for some of us (most of us honestly). You will find someone soon enough!

[Theaveragegirl]

Thank you

[Ava0218]

Highschool guys suck, you shouldn't even care. You're cute! Why you worried about being asked to some crappy overrated dance by a highschool guy? Don't let yourself self-esteem depend on the dumbest type of guys on this planet. :)

[outmyroom]

I mean prom means nothing tbh all those dances are boring

[Theaveragegirl]

Yeah, I just felt kinda unwanted I guess but yeah the dances were so overrated

[outmyroom]

They're probably just not interested in a nice intelligent girl. Most guys all they want is blonde boobs at our age.

[Theaveragegirl]

Funny that you say that because I'm blond with big boobs lmao!

[outmyroom]

Girl then those guys must be stupid haha blonde and boobs are the best! Wish I had boobs lmao. Maybe they don't like ur personality?

[Theaveragegirl]

I don't know. I was just shy, but always kind. Just not in the popular group. And I didn't sleep around.

[outmyroom]

You seem like the perfect girl those guys are stupid af

[Theaveragegirl]

Thanks sweet girl!

[outmyroom]

You're welcome beautiful girl

[ProbablyTooMature]

I never went to a single dance in high school, at all.

Fortunately for you, the crappiest 4 years of your life are over and you get to look forward to adulthood. Who cares about what happened in high school? Only those who want to go back and relive it... and I pity them.

[JuicyBrain]

"whenever a guy insults me or dumps me I think that it's because I'm ugly, even though I'm not really"
Cause your life would be completely different if you had been invited to prom...
Right? You would never doubt yourself or think you're ugly right?

[Regulatus]

Don't live in the past. Whether it was great or awful, it's over. Any time that you spend dwelling on it is a waste of your current, precious life. Live for today while planning for tomorrow.

[Anonymous]

Nope! Don't feel bad about it. I can say without a doubt this is how many men feel, as many women refrain from taking the first step and asking guys out. If you want something, you can't just sit around and hope it'll come up, you need to take the initiative.

[Theaveragegirl]

Because guys usually go for a girl if they really like her. I tried that once or twice, and they never took me

[Opinion Owner]

There are so many guys out there. Do you honestly believe that guys will only ask 1 or 2 girls out before giving up completely? Keep trying and don't wait around for Prince Charming to sweep you off your feet

[MasterofYou]

i can imagine it dose... I bet you are anything but average probably one hot little girl... I would have takin you out if I was younger and if I knew you... :)

[Alexious]

I've never been on a legit date, never had a girlfriend... I didn't even go to prom...
I know how it feels, all my friends have/had relationships apart from me... I just get turned down and blown off by everyone :(

[Thatguy321]

Don't be unset about it! The girl I went with told me she actually enjoyed getting ready, going to the restaurant and then eating our dessert after more the dance, then the actual dance itself. You didn't miss anything special

[Bluegold007]

High school is over. Done with. Move on! I didn't go to prom when I was in high school. Frankly I don't even care.

[RedThread]

I was never asked to any school dances either. I never went to mine.

[Nomad69]

Therapy
Let go
Move on
Build confidence
Screw what they think

[Marinepilot]

That's sad. However, I since you're a good person. When guys get dumped by their wives they'll come running to you.

[blondfrog]

No neither was I those things were rip offs anyways you had to pay to go

[WillowTree]

I asked my date out. Gotta go for the gusto girly.

[archiz]

you ll get over it in time when you mature

[anonman32]

why didn't you ask someone?

[Theaveragegirl]

Because the guys ask girls and I tried to get one guy to take me but he took someone else of course

[anonman32]

because the guys ask girls? be sad then if that is your reality.

[Theaveragegirl]

Okay well I felt kinda unwanted

[anonman32]

you can't expect people to ask you for going to prom, thats just not realistic.

[Theaveragegirl]

Well at my school all the guys asked the girls.

[anonman32]

no, they didn't because they didn't ask you.

[Theaveragegirl]

They did. Which is my point. They asked most the girls but they didn't ask me because they didn't want me lol. And I tried to get one guy to and he asked someone else

[anonman32]

why did you give up so fast?

[Theaveragegirl]

I didn't. Girls got asked, they didn't go around asking 10 guys until one said yes. I asked and he said no, and by then my self esteem was already low because I never got asked... all my friends talked about was hoping they'd get asked, they never dared ask a bunch of guys

[anonman32]

your self esteem was low after asking one guy? if you were a guy you would never get any girl. dont give up after trying once.

[Theaveragegirl]

It's not trying. It's the fact that at least 80% of girls got asked and I NEVER got asked, not once

[anonman32]

why are you so obsessed with being asked anyway?

[Theaveragegirl]

Because if I was one of the only ones that wasn't asked it makes me feel ugly/undesirable

[anonman32]

how many guys do you think were rejected by all the girls they asked?

[Princeofanons]

You're not missing much tbh