I am sad because no one from my past cares about me and I don’t have any cousins that I could talk to either am I just meant to be alone?

[xJayleenx]

There’s only one person that I talk to from my past and consider a true friend. But everyone else that was my childhood or highschool friend doesn’t care about me even if I’ve reached out to them it makes me sad :( everyone else has all their own friends and sisters so they don’t about me. My parents have problems with my uncles too and we’re completely cut off from the family so it’s like I have no family either. I also wish that I was normal and wasn’t so shy I wonder what I did so wrong because I feel like I’m meant to be alone? I never have any bad intentions. All I have is that girl and my boyfriend and I only see her once a year no one else even texts me or asks me how i am. There was this girl that I wrote 200 notecards to help her with English but she doesn’t care about me she has her own friends and the same thing happened with my childhood best friend that knew me before i was born she has her own friends and doesn’t care about me. Everyone leaves me on read too :(

[SnowedIn]

Please don't be sad.

This happens to a lot more people than I think you or I would guess. It's also not new. Us old/er folks had the same thing happen when we left school but it wasn't as harsh necessarily -- you're connected to other humans in ways we weren't. My point is that you're not alone, literally or in what you're experiencing.

It also happens with family. I hear you on that too.

And it sucks.

BUT. A few thoughts for you.

This is a statement about who those people are as individuals NOT about who you are as a human or your value or your worth. Don't let their bad decisions drag you down.

You have a wonderful amount of life left. Although this is easy for me to say, it's worth hearing: measure that time in the quality of friends, not the quantity of likes and follows and reads.

Speaking of likes and follows and reads, don't delete your social media. Don't use it if you don't want to but don't get rid of it, particularly if it has a special name or number in it. You'll regret it if you get rid of it. Maybe not now, but someday. I speak from experience. :)

Also, don't count all these folks out yet. I left middle school in June 1988 and high school in June 1992 -- 15, 20, 25, 30 years later I have people (friends/acquaintances) re-connecting. Silent now is not silent forever.

Finally, focus on nurturing the friends/boyfriend you do have. Sometimes one or two of those is worth way more than a bunch of others. :)

Second finally: sad is okay. Just don't let it take control of your life.

Third and final finally: you're pretty awesome. I read your questions and they're good ones. You write well and you're funny and you have a good outlook on stuff. I realize we're not necessarily friends but for what it's worth, I still value seeing your questions and opinions when I'm here on GaG.

Best wishes and don't let this stuff get you down.

[xJayleenx]

Aww thank you so much. I ended up deleting my Instagram and Facebook but I have kept everything else.

[SnowedIn]

I hear you. Keep smiling and if you ever need something or are feeling down, please feel free to reach out.

[SnowedIn]

Thank you for MHO!

[ShiftingMonke]

Being shy isn't something to feel bad about. You can't control your family or how they choose to engage with you; having 2 close confidants in your boyfriend and female friend is better than knowing 200 strangers. This site seems to be a great place to discuss personal issues on, and I'm sure you can speak to many decent and good folks on here. The knowledge you get from learning how to engage on here can help you engage socially in real life and you could cultivate some new friendships that will be beneficial to you.

[xJayleenx]

I’m thinking about deleting my Instagram and Facebook because I feel so bad about no one reaching out to me and I just want to forget

[ShiftingMonke]

I would always support deleting social media, simply because I feel like it causes toxic mindsets. But if you close yourself off from others, you can guarantee an isolated life. I wouldn't advise that unless you are comfortable with your own thoughts. If you want to speak to other people, invite them to a discussion. Share a topic you're interested in, and ask for the input of others. That's a great way to meet new people.

[xJayleenx]

I’ll still have Whatsapp and Snapchat as well as Tiktok would that be okay? Because Instagram and Facebook also kind of reminds me of the family problems and how it’s like I have no family now.

[ShiftingMonke]

I think those apps would be fine, although I don't use them myself. And this app/site too, I suppose. Lol

[ZackBan]

Welcome to the dark side of adulthood. You might think it's only you but everyone goes through this phase of detachment from childhood and the people in it.

Last year that put me in cycle of depression like you wouldn't believe. And living alone abroad doesn't help make it easier at all.

That being said there's a light at the end of the tunnel even if you don't see it now.

Someday soon you'll meet new people, some will be friends some won't but once you find a group of people who share your worldly values you'll have friends again. New friends, better friends. Because it's the ones you chose not the ones your school randomly chose for you.

For now it's good that you're talking about the problem and I do hope you'll feel less sad about it.

[Guardian45]

I am sad because no one from my past cares about me and I don’t have any cousins that I could talk to either am I just meant to be alone? The answer is twofold:

(1) Invest you're GREATEST ASSET, YOU!
Take care of your appearance, exercise and eat properly. An investment in you will always pay rich dividends for Life.

(2) Develop new interests and meet new people.
Take courses, study a language, learn a musical instrument, take up a hobby and meet new people. Your friends will come naturally from the people who share your same interests.

NEVER forget you are LOVED, and there are people around you that you can ALWAYS depend on to listen and care!

[ohsheeT]

Okay so there's your blueprint in my either stay on that path and feel the same with you feel right now or change it each day is a brand new day it's your choice to do whatever you want in that day it's your choice to be who you want to be that day do something different be more confident be more happy you make the first move just say hi see what happens you don't like something change it

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

I keep things bottled up, but I feel the same way as you do

[xJayleenx]

I’m sorry

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

@xjayleenx It is sad I don't have any friends

[xJayleenx]

a lot of people suck nowadays

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

@xjayleenx Yes, people do suck nowadays

[Bklynbadboy12]

Don't let that get you down you have plenty of friends I'm your friend and you can talk to me about anything. I really mean that

[xJayleenx]

Thank you

[Sparkie460]

Don't be sad. You have a lot of friends on here, including me. You can message me any time you want. You're a sweet young lady

[Jennz6]

I will talk with you

[Tstrbrainer]

But you are still a cute wonderful girl

[Zachgoat308]

skill issue