What should you do when your long-term girlfriend asks for space but still Snapchats you like everyone else? Also very short with text replies?

[Anonymous]

My girlfriend was being very short over text last week and I asked her what’s up… she said she wanted space because we saw each other pretty frequently the past couple weeks. This week I’ve been getting Snapchat‘s from her as if she’s sending them to everyone… and I reply and she responded a few times. Little confused cuz she wants space but still wants to talk slightly. She recently sent one not looking very good and very sore, and I asked if she’s ok… but no response. I want to message her directly but feel like I’ll get a very short answer… and I don’t wanna be brushed off as I care about her. I was debating on asking one of her best friends if she’s ok but not sure if that’s over stepping boundaries when I could just be asking her directly. Her best friend has asked me in recent family hardships when I’ve been by her side, why she didn’t answer her. And I told her cuz she’s just sad. But I feel left out as if I did something really wrong (handing out too much) to result in this silence.

[DaveJord]

Honestly when I am with someone who asks for space in a relationship I take it as a Red Flag and move on. If they still remain in contact then sure I entertain it with hopes we will still hook up, but I do not really pursue the relationship or give more than a casual response to them. If they come back around later then again I entertain it for as long as it is fun, but for me it never gets back to what it could of been for me.

[rabbitzzz]

Hire a therapist and ask her if she wants to break up with you.

[Asker]

Lol in that order?

[rabbitzzz]

Thanks for the MHO, how are things?

[Gwenhwyfar]

What happened that made her want space?

[Asker]

I’m not too sure. I was just messaging her last week asking to hangout and she kept telling me she didn’t want to. Then I asked what’s the issue and she told me she didn’t wanna hang cuz she wanted space. And after a few random messages that day I haven’t talked to her since. She’s send a a few snapchats like all her other friends and when I reply she doesn’t doesn’t get back to me. And I have to clue if we’re both playing a waiting game or she genuinely doesn’t wanna talk?