I've been dating my boyfriend about a year. We spend most all of our free time together by choice although we both work a lot. A few months ago he was leaving to go home to see his family and used an old suitcase the next morning I found old condoms (wrapped unused attached to one wrapper used) in the garbage. I confronted him and he said it was from his old suitcase and it made since there was a plane ticket in there form 2013 as well. He said he threw away the unused ones too because he doesn't need them. We don't use condoms I am on the pill. However he's always had a box of consoms under his bed. From when we first met and did use them and before me I'm sure. The box was full as we barely used any, there were some loose single condoms in the box as well as a bunch attached to each other. Now he cleaned his room and moved the box into his closet. I was grabbing a jacket out this morning and the box fell and it only had 6 in there. I am concerned that he is cheating now.. although he has never given me a reason to think he would. And we just got back from me traveling to meet his family (paid for by him) and he just bought me a MacBook for starting grad school. I'm only Saying this because he seems super invested in our relationship. But why would multiple condoms be missing? Should I confront him?
Most Helpful Guy
Condoms expire, you know. The ones in the trash would have an expiry date stamped on them that would confirm this. He might likewise have cleaned out the box under the bed of expired ones so when you guys are in the heat of the moment he doesn't have to worry about trying to make sure it's still safe to use.
You keep confronting this guy every time your imagaination runs away with you, and he'll eventually leave.1
Most Helpful Girl
He is "super invested" in your relationship. He has never given you reason to think he is cheating. The only thing you believe is that come condoms are missing from a box.
You can confront him... of course picture a very likely scenario where he hasn't cheated at all. Then he didn't undermine the trust in the relationship, you did by essentially accusing him of cheating... why else would you ask him about missing condoms, because you are responsible for the cost of all the inventory of your closets?
On the other hand, let's say for a second he is cheating, even though you have said "he has given you no reason to suspect he is". What do you think he is going to say? "ohh yeah, im missing those condoms because i was compelled to monetarily support a transvestite hooker and decided to use them rather than go bareback, hope you are ok with that". No, he's going to say something like "lol, why are you counting condoms, i dropped some on the floor when i pulled my jacket out of the closet and i never use them so i just tossed them in the trash".
So no, don't ask him. GO on about your relationship, and if you see something more substantial then deal with that. Cheaters usually give off real signs they are cheating and you don't need to take inventory of condom boxes to know.0