This really great guy and I had two wonderful dates. We went for drinks both times, then to a comedy show the first date and to see a band the second. We had amesome conversation that flowed easily, and we seem to have a great connection (we even talked about how we're not usually so comfortable with everyone).
After the second date, he invited me back to his place to watch a movie. That's usually not my style, but I wasn't ready to stop spending time with him. I was very hesitant because sex and emotion are very connected for me, so I don't usually jump in bed with someone quickly. I made it clear that sex was off the table before I said yes, but we ended up going back to his place and getting very hot and heavy (in bed). We didn't have sex, but it was a very raunchy, over-the-clothes session regardless. We cuddled for a while, but I didn't spend the night.
The next day we exchanged some flirty text messages. Then last night (two days after our date) he sent the dreaded "What's up?" booty call text at 1am. I didn't respond and still haven't. I want him to see me as more than a booty call and feel like I need to pump the brakes. How do I do that while still keeping him interested?
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Here's the thing; although he messaged u at booty-call-time, that doesn't mean he ONLY sees u as a sexual partner and nothing more!
During daylight hours, talk to him and ask him if he wants a future relationship or if he is just looking for a fling. That sounds bold, I know... but you have to see where he stands so you know whether you should continue seeing him or not.3