Aside from talking to your therapist/finding a therapist... I can give minor advice based on my own panic disorder. I get real bad weeks where I don't sleep more than 2 seconds and can't be home alone without flipping out.
Take deep breathes, pace the room, do squats, bounce up and down. This for immediate coping.. I have some sleepy time tea called, Extra Sleepy Time Tea by Celestial Seasonings. It has Valerian Root, which is sedating and calming. Use two tea packets in 1 cup of hot water, soak for 10 minutes, it will help.
Exercise a lot. A LOT. I know "neurotypical" responses tell you to exercise for anxiety, but it is a proven method. You need to move when you are having anxiety if you can, when you feel it coming, when it's gone. Move move move move move. I have taken up dancing. I don't even know how to dance, I just move all over my living room like a crazy person.
I also take Xanax.50 mg for very bad attacks but of course I am not going to tell you to get medication since that's not my business. <3
For the pushing your boyfriend away part... I understand this. Along with coping mechanisms, remind yourself he loves you, you deserve his love, and ask him to hold you, or make your tea, or take walks with you.
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Breakup. Someone like you who have these psychological issues should not be dating until you get help and that it's completely out of the way. You can't blame your boyfriend. The problem here is with you. He has to handle his own affairs while you need to, no offense here, mind your business and be concerned about yours. This is between him and her and they need to settle their dispute like adults.
You have the choice to trust him or not. And if you see that you can't, then you owe it to both of you and him to end it. At least he told you what his desires and decisions are. The dog doesn't deserve to be treated like less of important. But your extremely unhealthy and need help. That is a whole another story between him and his ex. If he says it's over, then it's over. Either trust that it is, or let somebody like her who shouldn't have much importance to him control your relationship. Sorry if I sound too blunt, but I'm being honest. Being nice is not going to change what is going on in your relationship let alone in your life if you continue to handle it by fearing to step on eggshells. That is not a relationship.
I think you're panicking for no reason. He's with you for a reason and not with her. Dogs are furry babies. Of course he's going to take custody of it seriously. Relax.
Chill. Let him handle it. Don't out that stress on you.
Get a grip and stop being so insecure. You think if he wanted to talk or bang his ex, you would be able to stop it? It's really pointless to worry about. My exes always worried about me, even when I left in the morning for coffee! I was faithful and that shit gets really old after awhile.
First of all, calm down. Take deep breaths, listen and childishly dance to some cheerful song if needed.
Second, explain what exactly is the problem. What do you fear is going to happen? What exactly are you imagining that's making you anxious?
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Go with him. she's using it as an excuse to see him.
This literally just happened where my best friend cheated on his gorgeous current girlfriend who is one of the nicest women ever.
Immediately demand to be inserted into the equation.
Its not your man you need to be worried about, its that woman he wants that d back.
The dog is merely a prop to her.Stop stressing and let them figure out who gets the dog, you are not making anything better by doing this, you're stressing him out too.
Everything happens for good cutie
Just calm down
Maybe ask him that you'd like to join but won't say a word?Tell him you are scared of the dog, insisting he give it back to the ex. (That way if his ex wanna him to keep the dog, your boyfriend would think she s a mean person who wanna hurt you)
I will give you a very simple solution , if you are so stressed out why don't you go with him?
Kids... this is what happens when you go raw doggy style. Girl pops out a litter. Doggy support ain't cheap.
If he leaves you so easily why the fuck you want him anyway? Think about it
Nothing really you can do. You have to trust him.
For how long ago he brake up with his ex?
Ether like or hate but decide
ditch him for a puppy? puppies are fun you know.
liv bi da swod die bi da swod
it is not a big thing dont overthink about it
Relax the chance that he fucks the dog are slim.
WHO ON EARTH HAS SEX WITH A DOG? XD
stop being a coward
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