We completely act like a couple. I guess I will first of all start out by explaining why he said he's not ready for a relationship. He still has feelings for his ex (broke up with her almost a year ago though and has dated someone else since).
We're LD for the summer (in college, me 19, him 21). He talks to me every night he can though, I just got back from spending the week at his place, he drove me home cause he didn't want me to have to be on a 3 hour train ride. He was willing to stay at my house and meet the fam, invited me to go on vaca with him and his fam. Buys me dinner, always compliments me. I have met his close friends, etc..We do have sex (as of recently when I spent the week with him last week.. he hasn't changed though). He has told me "if things work out well this summer, we can maybe try something".He confides everything to me, worries about me, etc..
The issue is, I just found out that he took a girl out to dinner the other night and danced with her and they had a really nice night together..but she turned out to be “a crazy stalker.” I’m not worried about the girl, he clearly doesn’t want anything to do with her.. I am just worried that he’s dating others.. I know he’s allowed to but still, doesn’t that mean he really doesn’t like me that much? He didn’t kiss her or anything. I just don’t know what to do.. I was good and just joked about it when he told me.. cause I don’t want to seem like I’m so pressuring for him to be an actual bf.. but at the same time I don’t want him to think he can do anything and I’ll still be there. This is the first date he has go on since meeting me.
I just know that he went on one date with her.. he hasn't dated anyone else.. I'm just worried that if she wasn't a psycho.. would he still be seeing her? He said they had been texting for awhile but just had a date for the 1st recently.
I'm the only one he will have sex with.. and I know that he likes me.. but at the same time.. how much can he like me if he goes on a date with her? Am I just being over thoughtful since I knew he only wanted to casual date?
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Ugh! Why are you doing this to yourself? If a guy tells you he is not over his ex and took another girl out to dinner, he's just NOT that into you. I know that's not what you want to hear but step back and look at the facts. Of course he isn't going to commit himself to you. He is filling the void of his ex-gf by hanging out with you. Taking another girl out to dinner goes to show he is not that serious about you. My advice is to step way back. Being that it will be long distant for the summer I honestly would not trust him at all. Who cares that he drove you back to your place. All he is doing is filling the void of his ex gf, that's why he says "if things work out well this summer, we can maybe try something." Screw that! Do not waste your time on guys who don't know what they want. I've heard all the lines before and it will NEVER go anywhere. "Maybe we can try something" really means, if he doesn't find someone else, or never gets back with his ex(bc I am sure he still wants to be with her). You obviously have a lot of feelings for him which sucks in this type of situation but you need to do what is best for you. Enjoy your summer and don't be so hooked on this guy, he has giving you all the danger warning signs that this will be a failed relationship. You don't need something like this to stress about all summer. If this is the type of no string attached relationship you want, by all means go ahead, but who really wants to act like a couple and also have sex when the guy won't label you as so? In a year from now I am SURE you will look back on this and go, wow why did I even continue to entertain him after that? When your in the situation your somewhat blind to it because you have feelings but you have to ignore those and look at what is REALLY going on.1