people seem to throw this around casually. sometimes it even seems like women who are confident and know what they want are perceived to be stuck up.
I generally have no problems dating guys or getting attention but all the guys I've ever dated were part of my world if that makes sense - preps basically, some of them have been more on the artistic side but still classic preps, not to be confused with the new breed of fake tanners who wear aeropostale and abercrombie. I mention this because I know some people think preps are stuck up but I don't get why. why are we stuck up and can you judge each person just by the fact that they are preppy?
there's this guy I've been hanging out with and it started because we were taking the same class this semester. its out of left field because he and I are so different. he's definitely not preppy. weve made out a lot, but nothing more. we don't agree on everything but we get along well. then randomly he stopped hanging out with me after we went to a party one night. I called him up and we met up at his place. I asked what his problem was and pushed him to just say it. it turned out badly. he said he wanted to ask me out and build a relationship until he realized how much of a "stuck up bitch" I am and said I was toxic. I told him he's a scared little boy and I said he should just go f*** off and I slammed the door behind me as I was going to leave. I'm half way down the stairs, and he opens the door screaming something and calling me "princess." I went back up the stairs and I started yelling back in his face saying he's a f***in p**** and he just doesn't want to date the preppy girl because his friends will make fun of him. its a lot of yelling and arguing going on in the hallway between us. I just leave eventually because I know we are disturbing neighbors.
I'm confused and a little disappointed. why does he think I'm stuck up?
if you called a girl that what would be the meaning behind it?
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Well, I think you sound a bit stuck-up with how you use the label "prep" or "preppy".
By saying "he's definitely not preppy" you might as well be saying, "he's definitely not part of my caste".
It's silly and immature to be using labels such as prep/jock/nerd/etc at your age for pity's sake anyway.
To put people under labels is a toxic thing to do because in a way it denies the very notion that people can be unique individuals. What kind of a person describes people as a "new breed"?
So here's how I see the situation with this guy:
You two had some mutual attraction.
Had some disagreements and made out a couple times.
During which time there was a party and some time around then, he loses interest in you because he doesn't like arguing with you.
You get mad because he loses interest.
You demand to know what the deal is with him through nagging. (You shouldn't nag a man, it's disrespectful)
He got mad because you nagged him. He told you he didn't want to date someone who is a stuck up b*tch. From what you've written, I have come to deduce that you are a modern-day version of a classist.
Then you nag him and insult him more all the while declaring your "class" status ("he doesn't want to date the PREPPY girl") which to any mature adult is laughable.
So my dear, I'm sorry to say, you are a bit of a princess.
My overall advice:
Learn to listen to people's life stories and stop using labels.2