I've been dating a guy for a month who has already told me he loves me and things are really awesome when we are together. He brings me incredible peace and happiness that I've never known.
However, when he has a problem, he shuts me out. I would rather have him talk to me about it. On Monday we got into an argument about it. I asked him why he says he loves me and then shuts me out when somethings wrong? He said he doesn't wanna bring me down. I told him that I can't care when HE wants me and that when I don't hear from him, I worry regardless...
I told him that maybe things were going too fast between us and that maybe we should take things slower. We spend almost every day together, yet he avoids me when somethings wrong? It really hurts me when I don't hear from him..
I haven't talked to him since Monday. I have NO idea why he hasn't texted or called. Guys please, some insight on what he may be thinking?
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Classic mistake. Guys like to fix things. When a problem comes up, men don't think about it in terms of how it makes them feel, they look at it as a problem and they need to be alone to think about it. Guys are trying to come up with a solution and they have to feel they are "man" enough to solve it without any help. If they discover that they don't have a solution, it's more likely they will en-list other guys to figure out how it can be fixed. This is just the way guys naturally are. It also explains why a guy tries to fix your issues when all you wanted from him is to know he was listening to you talking about your day. You might just need to tell him that you have faith that he can handle whatever is wrong on his own and you know he will ask you for help if he needs it. Then tell him that you only want to know what is bothering him so you can feel more a part of his life and you had no intention of getting involved with the problem unless he asks you for help.0