For weeks he kept bringing up wanting to take me out to dinner but my schedule had been to hectic. Finally we found a Friday I could do it and made plans a week ahead to go to dinner. So the night before our set date he says that he is scared and wants to slow things down. He brought up his Ex for the first time they broke up over a year ago but he explained that she broke his heart and hasn't been serious with someone since me. And it scares him that he is going to get hurt again. He also mentioned that when borrowing my phone a few days ago to make a call he noticed my Ex (we broke up 4 months ago) still saved in my favorites (a very small list) and this made him scared because his ex used to run back to her ex whenever they fought.
He said that he really likes me and that we have come to far to just give up on this. I asked how he wanted to slow things down and he said just waiting to go on a date, he still wanted to continue to text and hang out like before. So he is still texting me everyday, until today which was the first day in weeks we haven't talked. And our convos in the past few days haven't been as long either.
I really like him too and things have been great before this happened. I'm just confused on if I should stick with this or not. I don't want to get too emotionally involved overtime and then he decides he is still too scared to commit again. Also I feel like I should be making him chase me right now too so I don't want to text him first either. I also don't know if he is just saying he wants to work through it just to spare my feelings because he is an VERY I mean VERY nice respectful guy. Help please!
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He is not over his ex. If someone is scared that doesn't mean they can't take things slow, going on a date is harmless, a date doesn't mean you're getting married! It tells me he feels guilty about romancing another woman. I'd drop it honey. I've learned that if a man wants you and is ready, he'll stop at nothing. These things aren't that complicated, and if they are, they are not right.
That was my first thought too but they broke up almost 2 years ago so I figured enough time has passed to move on since they dated for less then a year. And he kept telling me he didn't want to give up on it...its making me feel so confused
I have been broken up with my ex fianc? for two and a half years...I am still not over it, not even close :( he may feel odd trying to get close to someone else, just see what happens