Every year around 1.5 million women are abused by their partner. Can anyone guess how many men are abused by their wife or girlfriend? Over 835,000, yes one man is abused every 38 seconds. Do we have any programs oriented for us compared to the hundreds of things for abuse of women, the billions spent against violence directed against women? No, we have little to nothing.
This doesn't downplay that women are abused, but it shows equality in that women abuse men too. The only difference is that you don't hear about it as a guy should "tough it out" when he is abused or he isn't "man enough."
Unlike women however who get 2.8 billion a year in federal aid to women's shelters, counseling centers, hotlines, etc. men have nothing specifically geared to their needs as battered men. To even suggest so will have most feminists jump down y our throat as it affects their "piece of the pie" for federal aid or will call it chauvinism to an extreme.
University studies have shown that approximately 30% of women admitted to physically abusing their partners repeatedly. That is how many ADMIT to doing it. The most cited reasons were "I didn't think it would hurt him," "he wasn't sensitive to my needs," and "I wanted to get his attention." So guys, next time a girl says something, listen, or she might just whack you a good one.
There was a case of a man in Texas who was thrown in jail by 5 officers for "abusing" his wife by pinning her to the floor after she had stabbed him 5 times with a knife (he called the police in the first place).
The legal bias against battered men is largely inherent in the system. A man will rarely file charges and even more rarely will the police do anything about it. The worst of it is if, as men, we DEFEND ourselves against the women WE become the ABUSER in the eyes of the law and her the victim.
So guys, this one is for you, feel free to be anonymous as this will likely get some flack from the ladies, but describe any time you've been hit or abused by your girlfriend/spouse. This also includes verbal or emotional abuse as well.
Yes women, your words can hurt us just as much as us calling you nasty things can hurt you.
Women, feel free to tell about how you have abused your men or how you know of a girlfriend who has done so.
Final word: men are victims too. For those of you who want info on how to help yourselves click on this link. As a battered man myself, I feel your pain.
- I have been abused by my girlfriend/wife but have been too ashamed to do anything about it.Vote A
- I have been abused by my girlfriend/wife but have taken action only to be denied support by the legal system.Vote B
- I have been abused by my girlfriend/wife and have been ridiculed for notVote C
- I have been abused by my girlfriend/wife and have successfully taken LEGAL action against her.Vote D
- This is for women to see the results.Vote E
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There's a book out there about legal things men should know before getting into relationships, basically explaining how a shrewd woman could use the system to really take any guy to the cleaners. Yes, the system basically treats women like they're always victims and it treats men like they're predators.
I can relate to what you're saying. A couple years ago I was with this girl who would turn into another person when she drank. One day I took her to a Mexican restaurant and she had a couple margaritas. We went to an indie movie theater afterward. For previews they were showing movie posters from old 50s movies, and a poster with Brigitte Bardot came up (gorgeous blond pinup). I commented, "Wow, she was really beautiful" because I had never really seen a big picture of her like that before. My girlfriend didn't say anything for about five seconds, and then reached over and put all her weight into this huge punch right into my balls. I could not believe that she did that. After catching my breath I walked out of the theater. She followed later and insisted I was overreacting. I drove her home and told her it was over. She begged me to come back and I did after about three weeks on the condition that she stay sober. She did, but I ended up leaving her after a couple more months anyway. Just didn't love her that much anymore after that.8