I'm just curious about how people feel about this.
If you are dating someone, we'll say relatively seriously (you consider them to be your boyfriend/girlfriend) and they are not at the bar/club with you, is it OK to accept drinks from other people?
Is it OK to go out for drinks with someone of the opposite sex, one-on-one if you are dating someone else?
Why or why not?
- Absolutely fineVote A
- No, inappropriateVote B
- DependsVote C
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For the first one, I think it would be okay if you notify them that you are in a relationship and are not open to anything. It's on them if they still want to buy you drinks and they shouldn't get mad when you leave the bar or club without them. If they wanted to pay money for guaranteed sex, they would have gone to a prostitute.
I think the second one is okay if you have been platonic friends for a long time and/or if the other person is gay. Relationships shouldn't stop friendships and it's really insecure for a guy to care when his girlfriend is hanging out with a gay man.
I say that because have a straight male friend who I hang out with all the time and we go to coffee and tea together (too young for alcohol) and sometimes even dinner. We've never been involved and we don't want to (we talked openly about it after a lot of speculation from others) but we genuinely enjoy each others' company and we pay for our own stuff when we go out. I've lost a few guys over it and he's lost a damn lot of girls. But if people are too insecure about our friendship then they're not right for either one of us.