Certain disreputable portions of the feminist movement outside the equality-crew (ie., "good feminists") that have repeatedly told men that they treat women like sex objects and that all male sexuality is wrong and all advancement on women is either a precursor to rape or 'exploiting' them.
I can see the down votes already. Well, its my answer so I'm stickin' to it. :)
In any case, being caught in the crossfire of this powerful message long enough or from influential people in a boy's life can have massive psychological damage when he is older. Out of his love and admiration for you, he may think he is doing you a service by refraining from initiating and counting it as a good thing, because his psyche is paralyzed by the fear of acting on feelings = objectifying you, abusing you, etc...
I think this is more common in the United States than in Europe where everyone is more open about sexuality, and this kind of message is more likely to be heard in high-populated liberal regions (as opposed to the South, for example, although theoretically someone could be influenced from it anywhere).
So how do you make him initiate? I'll answer that. Rather than asking him to initiate or put preassure on him to do more (that will probably make it worse), try to get him on your therapist couch and to start talking. Ask him about his views about sexuality in general, and what he thinks about various hypothetical questions. If he wants to know why you are wondering, just say you think its fun to get to know him more. You might be able to figure out why he doesn't initiate.
To advise you on the matter of how to makeout spontaneously without "bringing it up", you can actually go back to basics: flirting. Its just a subtle variation of it. Its something of an artform to tease and not sound corny, but it can be done.
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You should just always turn your head but don't say anything or lean in. Let him come to you.
Over time, he'll be the one initiating everything.
I don't see the problem. you initiate and you get what you want.
you can't make someone initiate. if he's receptive and you get what you wan, that should be good enough.
otherwise talk to him about it. he's your boyfriend if you can't discuss honestly, it what the hell is the pint of being in a relationship.
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