So I found myself casually dating this guy (going out/dinner, bar scene, etc) and we've kinda been (but we're not) dating for 3/4 weeks now and a few days ago I found he is a virgin... Before we started going out together I was kinda having casual friends with benefits sex and quit since I started really liking this guy and wanted to see where things went...But now I'm like shaken with awkwardness...
He's so fantastic and I really wanna make this work, but he's so blindsided to advances (where to put his hands when we're making out, or how to kiss my neck) It's just... it's not sexy... he can't touch me right and I feel like a wall... do I sacrifice sex and move on, or keep my cool and kinda guide this guy how to do everything? (which is kinda cute, but mostly awkward)
It's just like, I try to tell him how I feel things should be, but he's not aggressive, but he's ridiculously handsome ( he was one of those late bloomer types, he was not so handsome a few years ago lol) and I wanna make it work romantically but I can't seem to get past the virgin thing...
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It's a little tricky whenever you date someone who is inexperienced. Sometimes, yeah, it does seem like you gotta teach them everything, but the blessing is, there's no bad habits to break from previous exes, so that's a plus. Anyway, so he's a virgin, OK, so that can be awkward, but that doesn't have to be. Just work him through it all, bit by bit, until you've basically got him set up exactly the way you want. You can just basically build him up from the ground up, sexually, and th beauty of this is that you're not even changing him, really. You're just teaching him new things.
He may be blindsided by advances now, but that can change once he gets used to it. His aggression (or lack thereof) has the potential to change once he's got the taste for meat. (Metaphorically speaking) Thing is, sooner or later, everything has the potential to change for the better, you just gotta work at it.
You said you really like this guy, and you said he's fantastic. Don't you think this guy is worth a little effort? Or is he not so amazing after all? I would think that if he was so fantastic, something so good would be worth a little work.
So that's my advice. That the good things in life are worth the effort, and that if you like him, you'd be best to give it a try. There will be a payoff.9