Should I unfriend my sister on facebook?

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She's my older sister, she's 28 and basically jealous of me and my whole life because I'm doing better than her in life. She NEVER likes ANY of my post, especially when I'm posting about good things that I'm doing. Recently I moved into a nice beautiful house and everyone was commenting saying nice things etc... NOT HER (HATER) Then I started school this week and posted how excited I was about my first day and everyone was telling me congrats, their proud of me and wishing me luck. NOT HER, but the same day she posted a pic of her and her ugly girlfriend. I have ALWAYS been there for her and supported her since we were kids, but when it comes to me she's never there. When her 28th birthday came around I was the ONLY one who went out with her. I also know she's jealous of me and my boyfriend ltr because she's always in and out of relationships. She has NO TYPE of real relationship with my kids at all, she never calls me or comes to see me at all. My son started a playing pee-wee basketball and she didn't come to ANY of his games. At this point I just feel like what's the point in even keeping her as a fb friend. I'm done with her and trying to have a relationship with her. She's dead to me.

Niere · Accepted Answer

I understand your situation. I hated my mother's youngest brother. My mom is a fighter, she started working to support her family (fed her one little sister and 2 younger brother) at the age of 12 years old. She paid for the all their school fees, while she had to work really hard to get a scholarship so that she wouldn't need to pay for her own school fee. Anyway when her youngest brother entered college, he started to cause lots of trouble. He stole things, robed, in and out of jail, even got a woman pregnant. My mom paid all of the lost he caused, paid his debts, shed lots of tears for him, but change never really came. She loved him very much yet he never returned that love, so I hated him. Then my father told my mom to back off from this stupid youngest brother's life, to never help him anymore, to let him taste his doing cause that is the only way to make him grow, to make him realize how much my mom had done for him. And guess wht? that worked, he's a father of 3 kids now, lives out of town, and has a real job. He may not be that wealthy, but he knows how to live a good life now, though it took 3 years for him to get it right. So my suggestion, don't delete her, just leave her be. Sometimes, you need to let someone feel like they are on their own to realize how much love they had ever had from their closest person. Hope this helps :)

σαςReverie · Accepted Answer

No, don't delete her from Facebook. You sound SO catty. You are way too old to be telling yourself that this passive aggressive attitude is acceptable. Instead of verbally telling her what you just told us, you want to just delete her from FB to maybe hurt her feelings -_- That's the work of a little girl not a 24 year old woman.

She's family so even if she's not being the best sister, you could at least try to be a good sister and openly communicate with her instead of just vilifying her in your mind. Tell her how you feel and have some compassion. Afterall, parents aren't forever. One day your parents are going to die and she's all you're going to have. You'd feel real stupid for further adding onto a wedge in the relationship over things that could have been resolved.

truelight32 · Accepted Answer

I came here for the same issue and hoping for resolution with the answers you recieved. I've come to the conclusion, you need to (myself as well) give our sisters the benefit of the doubt and give them a chance. Talk to her. If you did all you can and talked to her then what else is there to do. Don't be so quick to cut her off without doing yourself a favor and her as well as saying what you want to say and possibly finding resolution.

Sociopathvictim · Accepted Answer

Siblings tend to get bored as we grow up around each other and just want to find new people and make a new life. I have a twin and an elder bro and both only come to me when they need me, its the same with me (mutual). I just dont find enjoyment from them because they compare, just the way you have. They compete and expect me to be responsible. If they ever came to me for help, id help. Think about that as you might be more well off now but later you might not and if you had a bad event, she will always welcome you as a sister. Friends however always move on. Don't delete her from FB like she's nothing to you, that shows lack of respect for your blood and you'll regret it for the rest of your life.

bryon · Accepted Answer

I can feel you on this subject as my brother and I also have the oil and water style of a relationship. The only time he call or comes to see me is when he needs something. But he didn't start to come ask for what ever it is until I stopped answering his calls. It finally got on my nerves to the point I just told him if you can't visit me when your not in need just don't visit at all. While it is your sister and the way she is doing you is just messed the he!! Up it may be better to block her rather than let it keep your nerves and mind tore up.

countryboy19 · Answer

You don't have to delete her, just don't look at her page.  That may sound cheesy, but f you delete her, in a way it says that she finally got to you.

badger25 · Answer

its kinda pathetic if liking Facebook posts is important to a adult relationship.
however it is unfortunate that she only calls you when she needs you. but it sounds like maybe she needs you more than you need her. you don't need to give her money or anything all the time. but she does need your emotional support. try to be the better person and help her get herself to the position you are in. maybe that will open her up to support you and your families successes

Anonymous · Answer

id say delete and block her if she's being that mean to u and deactivate your Facebook so that she won't see that your on Facebook I have a cousin who I used to fallow on Facebook and I remmber she used invade my news on Facebook with tuns of curse words and she wouldn't stop cursing so I had to delete and block her from my Facebook page and then I deactivated my Facebook

RasmusAiken · Answer

It sure sounds like she has a stick up her butt. Still she is family. Try working harder on your "KindHeartedBeauty" traits and give her a break.

rthomas43 · Answer

How fucking petty can you be? I think I can see why she doesn't want a relationship with you.

BumbleDeev · Answer

I don't see why her not liking your photos or posts matter. Liking pictures is no sign of support about anything. It is the poorest way to communicate with someone. Likes don't mean anything

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